Getting frustrated and stressed out is a part of life, I dont have a problem with that and I know the way I act probably adds to his stress...but when that moment comes I quickly fall back into the old mode of doing what I normally do and find it hard to think clearly....
Would you follow a proven NUSKHA, if I tell you something ?
- Take deep breaths
- Try to physically remove yourself from the situation (go do something in kitchen etc.)
- Read Astaghfirullah and Lahoal repeatedly (wait for five minutes)
- Start from step 1 if you still feel hostile.
My wife and I always use this and it works most of the time.