Its an unpleasant topic but something we hardly talk abt at least here…
Fights and larai-jagray.
How do you cope with the fight?
Who starts it? who ends? does one apologize?
And, aybe this is harder, but what exactly is a “normal” fight that happens with every couple vs a “major” fight?
Major fight: When you get families involved - even if it is just talking OF them badly.
Minor fight a daily dosage? :halo: can be made up everyday too… no one starts it… you just get irritated by anything and it rolls from there.
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She apologize
Major fight reasons: bad mouthing my family (ok to her credit she say things about her family to but I ask her to to about anyone)
Minor fight: do yo need a reason for that? wo hotee hai na, wo tu bus ho jatee hai ....
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I hate when he doesn't admit his fault, before I used to argue but now I just walk away from him and cry in seclusion.
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when i am tired, my brain stops working
or phir meri her aik say larayi hoti hai 
I hate when he doesn't admit his fault, before I used to argue but now I just walk away from him and cry in seclusion.
Does your husband think he is perfect too? and lay all the blame on yoU?
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Oh hareeem, I gotta teach you how to whip a guy.
I guess I'll just talk about my parents and sibling since I'm not married. Our fights always startby a discussion on a topic and flares up when we disagree on a hot button topic.
No one apologizes verbally. We apologize by our actions by doing something extra nice.
Does your husband think he is perfect too? and lay all the blame on yoU?
He doesn't think that he's perfect but we all blame someone or something when things aren't in the right place....good thing is that he accepts what I say afterwards..... but not admitting his fault in the begining is the main reason for a laraee.
Oh hareeem, I gotta teach you how to whip a guy.
Thanks but I never let others come between us not even the family members.
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^ ahem ahem
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:D
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She starts all the fights.
I always apologize for not being able to read her mind before the event in question actually occurred.
So, if we don't fight for a few weeks, she starts to get fidgety and nervous. She will stop talking all of a sudden and stop calling me with those lovey dovey nicknames. So the ass that I am I will ask, "What's wrong honey?" and they're off...
Height of frustration is not when wife badmouths inlaws, height of frustration is when you know that she is not lying .. :D
Who starts it? Me, because of something stupid he did. I never do anything stupid. 
How do you cope with it? Ummm, I usually like to talk about the “issue” and engage in a mature discussion. 
Who ends it? Well, I guess we comes to terms and let go. Together.
Who apologizes? Well it’s usually his fault so he does, but I do too later 
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^ Why does none of this surprise me? 
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can I add another question to the topic...
Do you guys admit when it is your fault?
can I add another question to the topic...
Do you guys admit when it is your fault?
Are you kidding! I admit even when it is NOT my fault.
good one.