Fidelity's going out of style like it's 1999

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Re: Fidelity’s going out of style like it’s 1999

@Sara516

Okay so going by that logic…if a person has to make an effort at being faithful and loyalty, they are lacking character/bad character?.

@Niksik

^^ Yes if a spouse is having to make a conscious effort in being faithful, it is a character flaw. You’ll see that most people who get involved in affairs are repeat offenders in some way or the other. Either they flirt a lot, or are easily available for questionable friendships with the opposite gender, want a lot of privacy and independence, may have a couple of flings here and there and perhaps one really detailed one…something like that. You’d hardly find such people to just have made that one big mistake of the one time weak moment…those type of folks are few.

I kind of agree with Niks, but in general, character is something that you have to put effort in building anyways. Lying comes easy because it could help me save me from embarrassment but sticking to the truth requires effort. So just because person is making an effort to be loyal does not show a character flaw.

BTW, making effort and resisting temptations are two different things. If I am at a casino where everyone is gambling and also wining, forcing myself not to gamble is resisting temptation. Making a promise never to be inside a Casino at the first place is an effort (a vow, a promise).

not being at a wrong place/situation to begin with is so easy and rewarding. Resisting temptations is very difficult and it means that you are in a wrong company/place/situation and it happens often by choice.