I got engaged more than a year ago. It was arranged rishta. We will get married in 2.5 years. We have a long engagement because of our education. We both are doing now bachelors.
In the last few months he never took the initiative to call me or message me.** It was always me calling him or messaging him. Sometime he does not reply.**
**When a person gets soooooo used to YOU ALWAYS contacting them, then they also get used to expecting YOU to always call them first. Take a break from him, get yourself busy in other things, and have HIM call you. Maybe if you back off and stop running after him all the time, he'll take the initiative.
It's possible that he's busy with family, education, etc. **
I talked to him about this and asked if there was anything wrong. He assured me that there was nothing. It has been now more than a month I talked to him. I messaged him two weeks back, he did not reply. A few days later I messaged him again, I messaged him that I will not call him or message him anymore because I have had it. And he did not reply until now. It is frustrating me. What should I do now? Should I contact him again? ** Have your parents been able to make contact with his parents?** Have you heard from his family at all recently? Is it possible for your parents to call his parents to gauge how things are going.....and they can bring up the issue that they're concerned because you haven't heard from him in a long time. Perhaps their tone of voice and response might provide some clue about whether or not they're still even interested in pursuing this rishta.
Or leave it as it is? Or perhaps end this rishta (which will not be easy)
**We don't know your fiance. So, this is a decision you'll have to make by yourself after evaluating the situation on the whole. Does he respect you and your family? When he speaks to you, does he show an interest in you and your life? Do you feel that you both click? Are your personalities compatible? Do you both have good, strong communication with him? Do you feel that you can trust him? If your answer to several of these questions is "No"........then perhaps you need to reconsider this rishta. If you feel that this guy is a great person in all the above ways, then you maybe need to talk to him through the parents if you haven't been able to get contact with him on your own.
Ask yourself if you truly love him or if you're only committed to him because an engagement is taken place and now you think that you're "majboor" or "pressured" to go through with the wedding.
Just think about everything.......think about his personality.....before making a decision. **
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