Sorry but what else cud be the answer if this guy hasnt contacted her in a month? Hes engaged to her, He shud atleast give her a call now and again. Its not hard to see how shes doing, Fine understandable he may be very busy but what 2-3 min convo asking how she is? Or a lil text saying hes doing whatever.
A month with no contact thats jus selfish IMO.
Gosh its common sense that the other person wud be worrying considering shes text him a few times, And its jus humanity to show that he cares.
Whenever you get a chance to speak to him, Tell him how you feel, and why cant he send you a simple text. Seriously!
^ when i said that, People said i shudnt over think it. But tbh i think he has too. Admit it or not. He has, Its not normal for him not to contact for a month! i mean c'mon!
Please!
ok let me share my own experience which was almost the same...infact mine was worse..i got engaged to a guy..it ws luv from his side..but for me it was more of my parents choice..we got engaged..at the start he used to talk for hours and everything..he really cared ..after a year of our engagement he totally stated ignoring me..hurting me by being very rude..stopped caring at all..it was really a worse situation...and after like two months of this torutre i wud say..i came to know he was having a fling with one of his class mates..so it was hell for me at that time..as i never suspected him..i confronted him ..he accepted it...but he said he wasnt really involved and he broke off with that girl..as i was about o break my engagement...but he left her..and said sorry and everything..but it was a sheer torture..though we are back together again..so what i mean to say is dont trust the guy so much..maybe ur guy is not like that..but still it happened to me...so just ask him if he is really serious about this rishta or not...all the guys are not the same..but u never know..the lesson i learnt is never to trust guys..:(
You stayed with the guy hun? he cheated on you, and your engaged?? Why wud you stay with sum1 like that? You deserve better, This guy cheated when you was engaged, and whats gna happen when your married? I wudnt risk it, especially if i was engaged. Obviously he wudnt take the commitment seriously!
I'm not necessarily saying that he may not be poking around. I just don't think there is enough information to conclude that.... I'm applying myself into this situation, I hate phones.... I don't rarely even talk to my friends on phone, but in person I'm totally cool. Talk to the guy, don't listen to us,, ,guessing about what or what it might not be.... try to minimize the communication gap.... and if he needs a little space let him have it.....
^sweetu ... someone who has been through such ****, can obviously relate better and end up giving the most realistic advice.
and we all know MB's bf has turned out to be the biggest jerk, if he really is/was cheating on her. and she (and that is to say all other girls going through this phase) truly deserve better :)
and as for the original poster, i would stick to my previous advice. stick to the wait and see. if he really doesnt stop being an insensitive jerk. talk to him. there's still time. you can break off the rishta. its matter of the rest of your lives. your parents would obviously understand and be there to support you always :)
MB i had to give him one more chance...i wanted to break off..but that decision is not easy to make..as i really started luving him..and just for this one reason i cudnt leave him :(..maybe i wasnt strong enough..he cheated..accepted...and asked for forgiveness..i never can forgive him..but i luved him to much..and one thin i knew he also luvs me..though he cheated..but he wsnt serious about that girl..he told me..i just had to give one chance for love sake..and also didnt want to create probs for my family and his family..
May be he is too busy in studies and dont want to divert his attention? Waisey bhee as you guys are planning to keep the engagement for very long (around 2.5 years), I would not encourage too much interaction and that too in parallel to studies.
Take it easy. Give him sometime. Get of his back :)
^ Lol talk about being big headed. Darling if he was that into you, you wouldn't be making threads and blogs about how he's not talking to you on the phone blah blah. One minute you're planning a wedding and the next minute he's your ex and back and forth again. Take some of the advice you dish out :)
SaimaQ if it really bothers you then you need to find out the reason WHY he doesn't talk much. Maybe its because he's not used to interacting with females outside his family or it could be that he is busy with his studies. Honestly I think maybe he's just up to his neck with studying and he's probably thinking he has 2.5 years yet to talk to you and get to know you but studying is the priority right now for him. Don't worry too much about it sweetheart.
ok let me share my own experience which was almost the same...infact mine was worse..i got engaged to a guy..it ws luv from his side..but for me it was more of my parents choice..we got engaged..at the start he used to talk for hours and everything..he really cared ..after a year of our engagement he totally stated ignoring me..hurting me by being very rude..stopped caring at all..it was really a worse situation...and after like two months of this torutre i wud say..i came to know he was having a fling with one of his class mates..so it was hell for me at that time..as i never suspected him..i confronted him ..he accepted it...but he said he wasnt really involved and he broke off with that girl..as i was about o break my engagement...but he left her..and said sorry and everything..but it was a sheer torture..though we are back together again..so what i mean to say is dont trust the guy so much..maybe ur guy is not like that..but still it happened to me...so just ask him if he is really serious about this rishta or not...all the guys are not the same..but u never know..the lesson i learnt is never to trust guys..:(
How did you find out that he was having an affaire with that girl?
^ Lol talk about being big headed. Darling if he was that into you, you wouldn't be making threads and blogs about how he's not talking to you on the phone blah blah. One minute you're planning a wedding and the next minute he's your ex and back and forth again. Take some of the advice you dish out :)
SaimaQ if it really bothers you then you need to find out the reason WHY he doesn't talk much. Maybe its because he's not used to interacting with females outside his family or it could be that he is busy with his studies. Honestly I think maybe he's just up to his neck with studying and **he's probably thinking he has 2.5 years yet to talk to you and get to know **you but studying is the priority right now for him. Don't worry too much about it sweetheart.
I think if I will ask him he will say that there is nothing. But I hate it when he does not receive my calls or calls me back.
If he thinks we should not contact each other much he should be clear about it. And in the first few months he would call me almost daily. And now if I call him once a month or twice, he is not bothered
Oh, by the way, we live in Europe.
I think I should not contact him, and leave this as it is (which will be not easy for me.)
And that I should decide after a few months if I want to spend the rest of my life with him or not.
I got engaged more than a year ago. It was arranged rishta. We will get married in 2.5 years. We have a long engagement because of our education. We both are doing now bachelors.
In the last few months he never took the initiative to call me or message me.** It was always me calling him or messaging him. Sometime he does not reply.**
**When a person gets soooooo used to YOU ALWAYS contacting them, then they also get used to expecting YOU to always call them first. Take a break from him, get yourself busy in other things, and have HIM call you. Maybe if you back off and stop running after him all the time, he'll take the initiative.
It's possible that he's busy with family, education, etc. **
I talked to him about this and asked if there was anything wrong. He assured me that there was nothing.
It has been now more than a month I talked to him.
I messaged him two weeks back, he did not reply. A few days later I messaged him again, I messaged him that I will not call him or message him anymore because I have had it.
And he did not reply until now. It is frustrating me.
What should I do now? Should I contact him again?
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Have your parents been able to make contact with his parents?** Have you heard from his family at all recently? Is it possible for your parents to call his parents to gauge how things are going.....and they can bring up the issue that they're concerned because you haven't heard from him in a long time. Perhaps their tone of voice and response might provide some clue about whether or not they're still even interested in pursuing this rishta.
Or leave it as it is? Or perhaps end this rishta (which will not be easy)
**We don't know your fiance. So, this is a decision you'll have to make by yourself after evaluating the situation on the whole. Does he respect you and your family? When he speaks to you, does he show an interest in you and your life? Do you feel that you both click? Are your personalities compatible? Do you both have good, strong communication with him? Do you feel that you can trust him? If your answer to several of these questions is "No"........then perhaps you need to reconsider this rishta. If you feel that this guy is a great person in all the above ways, then you maybe need to talk to him through the parents if you haven't been able to get contact with him on your own.
Ask yourself if you truly love him or if you're only committed to him because an engagement is taken place and now you think that you're "majboor" or "pressured" to go through with the wedding.
Just think about everything.......think about his personality.....before making a decision.
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if hes a shareef shy guy i doubt hes cheating on u..pleez relax b4 u start worrying nd jumping th egun..dont take it to extreme of 'i ll break it off' when nothing is clear..guyz r like that most of thet ime. aloof nd unemotional..dear dont make a rash decision now bcs tomorrow u will be the only one in pain n suffering..nohting will happen to anyone else who r teling u that u have right to be pissed off..