Re: Fiance keeps saying he loves me …
huh?
I’m not picking on your post, but for the sake of argument…in the West where promiscuity/premarital sex is not only rampant but lauded and encouraged…don’t you think “I love you” is thrown around rather haphazardly in the West as well? People could say those three words and not mean them just to get laid. What about the divorce rate? Also, since going from one relationship to the next is also common in the West, could this not also lead to “I love you” being thrown about easily?
In Pakistan premarital relationships are discouraged and such interactions are only acceptable within the context of a marriage. Gray areas such as having a crush are not encouraged. With marriage being the end goal…a restrictive society…lack of relationship experience…all these factors lead one to attribute first-time butterflies/interactions/ relationships to being in love. So, since romance is only acceptable within a marriage and that it’s the end goal…can it not be said that “I love you” is more sacred in Pakistan…that it’s a bigger deal…that it’s not treated lightly…especially if it comes with the sincere effort to make the relationship halal/jaiz? I do agree with you that the lack of experience due to religious and societal restrictions lends a naivete to the understanding of love. And naïveté leads one to be hasty in the judgment of their own feelings and that of the other person. But as for your saying that love is more “sacred” in the West …yikes…I feel that’s questionable.