Femininity as portrayed by our literature and dramas and movies is nothing but a liability on guys. Who needs a wife who is more careful about her hairdo and saree ka palloo than opening the car’s door by herself. To me femininity is a good balance of verbal and body language plus emotional and physical strength to go through life as it comes her way. Sophistication with a kick ass attitude is sexier than ‘oof allah meri kalaa’ee lachak ga’yee munnay ko uthaanay ke baad’.