Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
You read just half of it that interests you and start making a fuss of it..
now read again ALL of it, and then think what is said.
If you still dont get your answer, I suggest you send gim an e-mail and I’m sure he can give you a btter answer, instead of debating it here.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
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Did you read a bit further than my first post?
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
Iconoclast, maine kab bhola hai ke EVERY woman can live without sex and a family?
I'm saying, some can.
Reading comprehension skills are almost zero - queerio, even you surprised me on this one.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
there are many male doctors in that situation who will give up stethoscope for a wife.
and certainly most non-doctor women would like give up their lazy, and overweight husbands for a stethoscope (or money attached to the stethoscope)… or even a garden tool for that matter.
so what is the point?
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
^ well said.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
The point is that a happy marriage is much more fullfiiling than even the most wonderful carrier…does this sound too anti-feministic
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One should not have to choose a career over marriage, and one should not have to choose marriage over a career. There is such a thing as a happy balance.
Some are happy with just marriage and sitting at home.
Some are happy with marriage and career.
Some are happy with just a career, and they dont want marriage. Or, more often is the case, they can't find a guy who is not blockheaded.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
Not that this proves anything but its counter to the female you depicted. For every example, there is a counterexample.
I have 2 aunts who have careers. One runs an NGO, and another is a teacher. Both in Pakistan. Neither married.
One could never find a suitable match. The guys were generally uneducated and brutal in her opinion. She wanted a career, and it never agreed with any family.
The other was engaged, but they found out the guy was cheating on her already. He ran off to India, after the engagement broke. She never found anyone else who was educated and chaste and loyal.
Both are fully 100% happy they are single, and that they did not accept the rishtaas they got. They probably would love to have kids, but they live with their brothers and help their bhabis take care of their kids.
But they wouldn't risk marrying someone unsuitable to have their own kids. They'd rather live their own life.
Message being - everyone is different and for everyone circumstances are different. Some girls get nice rishtaas. Others don't. A lot of it has to do with luck, and your own biradary and social connections. And even then, girls end up with worthless guys, and vice versa.
So you can't really make any judgement that an unmarried woman is unhappy. And you certainly can't say she is automatically public property. A single woman knows how to live her life to the fullest, and make up for having no family.
Single women often adopt as well, if they feel they want to raise another human.
Interestingly, both of my single aunts work primarily with children. They kid that they don't need anymore, since their hands are already full.
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I respect ur aunts and whatever they saw was right for themselves.
BUT,one can only know what marriage is once one has been into it.I do understand that some marriages can be worse than death,BUT,most are very fullfilling.
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^ "most are very fulfilling".
If both partners are mature about it. I don't see too many desi uncles and aunties who are happy with their marriage. Difference is that they distract themselves with their kids, and their in-laws, and their grandchildren, etc.
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Ask these desi uncle and aunties if they would like to be single if given a second chance.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
pcg beta,u r another confuse paki american...i dont wanna insult myself by giving long statements as u need to go school again.....
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
Iconoclast, you can ask that question on this board, and you'll get varied answers. Depends on the couple - depends on the marriage. Not everyone lives an Islamic life that they should, so many couples are facing problems.
Guy1, if you have nothing to contribute, then shh.
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
PCG!
U will not be convinced by my arguments unless u get married and have a family
Re: Females - Polygamy. Their only choice?
If your argument is marriage is a good thing, then yes, I agree with you.
If your argument is that people are always happy when they're married, then I disagree. If you say that every girl should get married, even if it means marrying someone who is already married, then again, I disagree.
So state your argument clearly.