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^ at the end of the day, yr polished english isn't taking u very far is it?
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HAHA
Why can't women work from home? I've seen women who have home boutiques, women who are doing online business, tutoring/teaching kids from home and doing all sorts of degree and non-degree jobs...You just have to have skills or talent to do those but if you wanna work "outside" that's another thing but don't say you can't work from home coz that's definitely not true!
tuitions? yup very fulfilling? very religous aswell. no unnecessary interaction with the oppos. sex either. perfect job for a woman who wants to do her duties well.
but guess what the initiator of the thread will be the last person considering this option u know. last i hurd we were talking abt business concentration at the Grad level. academia is sooooooooooooo unintersting.
some ppl are really so well-versed in looking up, and feeding **** down the ladder to other women.
currupt ...:)(where have u been..??)
well ....i think ....work is work ....be it from home or from an office .....and if u r workind ....your day will not get more than 24 hours in a day ...... in simple words that means your time will be still getting divided ....No..???
anyway , it all boils down to priorities ......
n then as they say , all is well that ends well!
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currupt ...:)(where have u been..??)
well ....i think ....work is work ....be it from home or from an office .....and if u r workind ....your day will not get more than 24 hours in a day ...... in simple words that means your time will be still getting divided ....No..???
anyway , it all boils down to priorities ......
n then as they say , all is well that ends well!
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How are you Afia?? I browse GS quite often, I just don't post a lot. :)
Yeah, you're right. You still have to give time to your work if you decide to have a job but there advantages of working at home just like there are advantages of choosing to work outside instead of home(higher pay is one of 'em). You get to spend to have your kids in front of your eyes and get to be there when they need you. However, it all depends on your priorities as you said and also on your wants and needs. I'd personally like to have a home based business and also intend to do volunteer work/participate in non-profit orgs other than taking care of kids IF I can manage everything. :)
And ghuLail...
<<<but guess what the initiator of the thread will be the last person considering this option u know. last i hurd we were talking abt business concentration at the Grad level. academia is sooooooooooooo unintersting.>>>
Firstly, have some respect, don't just blabber words out of your mouth. Secondly, how do you know what irem thinks of what I wrote??? are you her spokeswoman?? let her speak for her self alright...!
ghulail is a wannabe comedian 
it boils down to who u value more: ur family/kids or ur job.
Well said Lussi. I left a career where I was making in the 6 figures, never looked back once, never regretted it...
I have a much more challenging and important job now! Feminism and all that aside, there is no job on the planet more important than being a Mother.
It's interesting how the general impression of working mothers is that their kids are not raised as well as those with stay at home moms. I don't mean just on gs but in desi culture in general.
My mother got married strait out of high school and didnt' go to college. Granted that was basically her only option in life at the time. She was a stay at home mom,, and guess what I didn't turn out that great. It's different for everyone.
I would rather stay home and raise my kids while they're young. Yes, I want a husband who will work to provide for us, but I dont' ever want to have to worry about how bills will be paid, and how we'll do this or that or wahtever.
Sarah isnt it a granted that if a woman is on her job from 9-6 then she won’t be at home during that time and thus she will not be able to give the kind of time, attention and care to her kids than someone who is at home all the time or even someone who comes home from work at lets say 1 or 2pm?
and hey why do you say you haven’t turned out all that good?
Mamaof3 thas cool :k: most of my friends are also professionally qualified, most of them have a grad school degree and all of them who are/were working make very good money. but they know its just the natural thing for them that once they have kids they’ll leave their jobs or maybe do something like work from home or a job where they just have to come in one hour a day or something, atleast till their kids are in school. None of my close friends have kids yet but we’ve always discussed this issue among ourselves and that how all of us feel. most of the girls in my family dont have professional degrees, except jus one cousin. she was always a good student but now that she has a child she stays at home.
My own mom is a masters degree holder and she also didn’t take up a demanding job till we were all in high school. Until then she stuck with just a simple teaching job in a school where she could be home when we were home from school. Only now that we’re all so old does my mom work as a professor in a uni.
I think that children whose mothers dont give them time and prefer socialising or career lack guidance and get into bad habits and feel neglected.
lussi u r right
fatalist hayna 
CorruptAngel 
work from home business or a simple work from home is not a bad idea at all, but even these require a lot of time (i was working from home last month and essentially its the same as working from the office coz u’ve got to be present on ur computer the whole time and u cant do other things) so that too can only be done i think once your children are past the age of 3-4 atleast but I think if you can cut the timings down a bit and manage it (which personally I think can be very tough to do and unless you dont HAVE to then why kill urself over it) then it can be done i guess…
Afia baji you’re totally right and i agree with you, specially in that a day only has 24 hours and there’s only so much you can do in a day.
ghulail
tuitions? yup very fulfilling? very religous aswell. no unnecessary interaction with the oppos. sex either. perfect job for a woman who wants to do her duties well.
but guess what the initiator of the thread will be the last person considering this option u know. last i hurd we were talking abt business concentration at the Grad level. academia is sooooooooooooo unintersting.
some ppl are really so well-versed in looking up, and feeding **** down the ladder to other women.
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if u think this is gona annoy me, it dint 
lemi tell ya that my threshold of getting annoyed is very very high and its not easy for someone to succeed in that 
well i’m not married right now so i and my parents dont want me to waste my time jus doing nothing so id rather put it towards something constructive and academia and job are the natural options but even if i do a triple PHD i dont think my idea about this issue will change coz as i said in my reply to Fayz above u have to fulfill each role of ur life properly according to the need of the time and expectations of your family
MQ my parents are both teachers and i know where you are coming from
ghulail
i dunno but most of this, i’ll rater stay at home and raise angelic kids, comes from women who really haven’t got a high-paying profession as such. ask a woman who is an accountant or banker, if she’ll leave her job after marriage and kids, and she’ll give a very diff answer. with low-paid doctors and teachers and techies, its still justifiable.
its hard to give up real money and the associated lifestyle and social circles, if u are really a top-brass career woman. and the word for it isn’t just materialistics non-materialistic, and its not all about prioriites either. its what u were to begin with, that determines if u’ll continue or not. for low-paid women, it is a raw deal, since there is barely any lifestyle associated with being a teacher in a school. ghar may baith kay tuitions hi dayloa, tho in that case, u wont be a carrer woman any longer. just plain working woman in need
realise how the the idea degrades with the kind of job it is?
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that aint true.
read Mamaof3’s reply in this thread and my reply to her :halo:
its all abt what u consider more important.
funguy
It depends on the kind of work she is doing. If it’s a degree-less job then it is easy to quit for a few years while the children are pre-school age. But it is really difficult for a woman whose job is career oriented. She would always get jitters thinking of taking a hiatus from the industry for that many years. I know it’s not impossible and many women do sacrifice their careers over raising children. But then there are some Xena Warrior Princess who think they can juggle between the two roles provided the hubby is supportive.
So, in a nutshell it all depends on how cooperative the two are with eachother. Do they really care and love each other to let the other person pursue his/her goals in life by sacrificing a bit.
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Hmmm…yes it does depend on that but i think for both of them family and specially their kids should come first and that should be their main mutual goal to give their kids the best upbringing, not their careers
they can sacrifice for each other but their own interests should not be separate from whats overall best for their kids, and why compromise their kids upbringing over their careers?
i always looked at job as a way to get money for ur family and nothing more, and islamically it is the guy’s job to do that and the wife shud also be ok with how much he can provide. if he is sick or physically unable to earn and needs help from the girl then surely she can help him. but the reason that some women want to work to pursue their careers, or even when guys want to leave their family and go to business trips all the time to expand their business, i dont approve of these reasons. giving quality time to ur family is very very important i think.
M
but theres a difference between wanting to work and having to work
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hmmm…how do you define “having to work” ?
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but theres a difference between wanting to work and having to work
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hmmm...how do you define "having to work" ?
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i think having to work means that you'd much rather concentrate on raising your children, but you don't have someone to help you out or ur hubby doesn't make enough to support both of you. And when i say support both i mean, just basic necessities, like worrying about how to pay for this or that and always just worrying about money. Like for me, if my husband can't work and earn money for some reason (illness, death) then I will willingly go back to work ...
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**M*
but theres a difference between wanting to work and having to work
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hmmm...how do you define "having to work" ?
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When you have bills to pay, sometimes a single income is not enough to run a household.
And what sara516 said.
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SARAH n M
i was talking more abt ppl who can afford a basic lifestyle but they still want more and MORE AND MORE … u know?
in a nutshell, purpose of marriage and life is just taking care of kids. oh puleeeeeeeeeez.
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hehe....i soooo love my nutshell ....:p
waisay ghulail ....i really enjoy your posts ....aren't you a female version of PA.....!!! :-)
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in a nutshell, purpose of marriage and life is just taking care of kids. oh puleeeeeeeeeez.
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hmm
i think k
purpose of life is to be a good Muslim
how do u be a good Muslim
by fulfilling (A)huqooq-ul-ibad and (B)huqooq-Allah
(A)huqooq-ul-ibad --> by fulfilling all ur roles in life role of mother, wife, daughter, sister
these come first and r ur immediate resposibility
and then come role as friend, employee, neighbor, member of society and so on
(B)huqooq-Allah --> believe in Islam, pray namaz, keep rozay, pay zakat, and do Hajj if u can afford
:Pagri:
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*Originally posted by irem: *
hmm
i think k
purpose of life is to be a good Muslim
how do u be a good Muslim
by fulfilling (A)huqooq-ul-ibad and (B)huqooq-Allah
(A)huqooq-ul-ibad --> by fulfilling all ur roles in life role of mother, wife, daughter, sister
these come first and r ur immediate resposibility
and then come role as friend, employee, neighbor, member of society and so on
(B)huqooq-Allah --> believe in Islam, pray namaz, keep rozay, pay zakat, and do Hajj if u can afford
:Pagri:
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^HAHAHAHA. so u think? u really think u r a proper muslim, by tradtional standards. u can fool the abcdefghs here with that one, not me ok sweet?
n whats with the 'u cant annoy me B"""". anybody who disagrees with u , is out to 'annoy u' ?!
khair.
and afia, lets not try cracking mutli-nicks with just one phrase in hand.
its funny i am a senior member now, and ppl still cant take me for myself ! :(
sorry ghulail…didn’t mean to offend you …
n i wasn’t saying anything about multi nicks ,…i DO know you n PA r different people …i just thought u both come with same style …i’m not saying exactly same)
infact may be you two r totally different …but to me first impressions of you both were same …so i just came up with that …
ah
well, my bad …i’m really sorry 
n sorry irem, i just derailed ur thread!
i think ghulail has some problem
ghulail aunty koi masla nahin :k: