Female Harrasment

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** Hello, I’m new to this forum so I dont know whether this topic is discussed or not.
I want all of you say something about female harrasment in public and work places.
In fact I want to know the views of both males and females in this regard . Can girls share their bad experiences . Or the males can tell us the reason why they
like to bother females. Can you people also tell practical cure about it ?

Again I’m inviting both males and females.

And please this is a serious issue.**

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i dont think any guy here will tell u if he harrasses women… :hehe:

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what if we tell you , when and how we were harassed by women :bummer:

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devout, i don't know what you call harassment in Pakistan but I can bet you anything you consider as harassment is normal here in the west. anyways, the only cure to that is having sharam haya.. for both men and women.

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You are right.
Now to the poster.
In western societies there are very easy mechanisms in place which people women can use to deal with harassment.
In Pakistan you have to devise a strategy to deal with it.

  1. If the person harassing you is in higher in rank then you specially if he is your boss and he is in the good books of his higher ups or he is connected in any way , you better ask for transfer to some other department or city or find another job.
  2. If the person is not in good books of his higher ups and he is not connected then talk to higher ups with some proof and some witnesses and he will be gone, they will be more than happy to get rid of that sucker.
  3. If the person who is harassing you is at the same level as you are then number 1 and 2 still apply.
  4. If you are also connected and are also in good books of the higher ups let this sucker know all this and he will find someone else to harass.

P.S: Unfortunately Suing someone for harassment is not an option in Pakistan.

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i think generally theres a lot of harrassment in our desi society, which has almost become a norm. even in this day and age, a girl thinks twice about going out alone, depending on the neighbourhood, time of day…growing up i heard alot from my parents “beta kissi koh saath ley jao” for that very reason. the looks she receives, the catcalls, being followed just for the fun of it, fall under the category of harrassment, there used to be a lot of crank-calling too i remember, some idiots track ur phone no. and start calling day n night…thankfully caller-id put an end to that. in the west we hear more serious cases of harrassment but i think back home girls are better equipped to deal with it because they have sort of grown up dealing with it, once i remember this girl slapped a boy right in the middle of a busy market, because he had been following her and calling out sleazy remarks, best remedy :k:

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I have worked as the only female in an all male environment. It just ended up happening where for abt a year, I was the only girl. There werent too many to begin with but one had a baby and the other got fired.

The way Ive dealt with it is to maintain a VERY respectful distance from the men...and all aspects of their lives. I didnt "hang out" with them after work, didnt gossip with them, didnt laugh at their dirty jokes (which they never cracked in my presence), etc. This reduces harassment even happening in the first place. I know I came across as uptight (I dont care how I come across to people, as long as I give 110% to my job) in the beginning but eventually these guys started to respect me and took care of me.

If it ever happened, I went directly to the HR department, made sure there were wtinesses, documented everything and got the guy either reprimanded severely or fired. Harassment has no place in the work environment.

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There should be company policy if it is happening in workplace.... and the outside world, best look down your path, pray for Allah's protection and thats all.........:)

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WATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

you mean females don't hassle men ? You kidding right ??

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[quote=you mean females don't hassle men ? You kidding right ??[/quote]

she never said that, she is simply asking for views on a certain issue, lets not turn it into a men vs women thread

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Why not ? I am bored.

So what I was saying, once girl feel secure they turn into animals too.
For example when ask any boy who had experienced going into women collage or some thing.

I have tons of more example which I am going to save for later.

Hamara ho ke agar bichhaRta.....
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lol at least you are honest.

sure, u can share your experiences with male harrassment too.

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Instances of female harrasment are very common in countries like Pakistan where we do not have legislation to tackle such issues. However, in Western countries these things are taken seriously. Therefore, various provisions exist. Cases where women have received disturbing phone calls, threats etc come under Assault S.47 (Offences Against the Person Act). This is just an example of one of the provisions.

The only way to reduce the problem of female harrasment in Pakistan would be by enacting strict legislation.

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There is some legislation going on in pakistan too.

About time ehh ??

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pakistan probably won't ever go through the trouble of enacting any such legislation because frankly they don't give a damn about their women.

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well they may be stupid but they do give a DAMN about their women.

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If such legislation does exist in Pakistan. There's no awareness of it what so ever. Secondly, I really doubt people would bring claims forward considering the amount of time and money it involves. Here in the UK there is certainly funding available for those who can't afford to bring their claims forward :)

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I have personally seen and heard of numerous awful stories of public harrasment of women. Cheap men do not hesitate to purposely touch a random woman in public and then run off or even pretend as if nothing happened.

It really hurts to see such degrading behaviour towards women. If the victims were the "cheapsters" mothers or sisters, I am pretty sure that they would strongly oppose of these acts. I don't understand why they would want to do this to someone else's sister, daughter, wife or mother? If they are so desperate then they should get married and leave other people alone.

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MKD
I read it couple day back on BBC, till then It wasn't finalized.
But It will come in effect soon.

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Public harassment of women...

I guess even in US, there is no law against cat calling, honking at or whistling at a woman. Is that harassment? I pretend like I didnt hear anything and just keep walking but would that be harassment?

I guess when I think of harassment I think of abnormal behavior.