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Masha ALLAH nice jewellery but cant see dress ..
^beautiful set, MashaAllah
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Wow.. just wow.
Erm.. Congratulations, I guess. I hope this guy manages to treat you right and he isn't the loser, that he sounds like from your posts. Khush raho, I guess :)
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very beautiful jewelry but i won't get into that trap.almost every marriage/engagement in pak is lavishly celeberated but attitudes change right after.if things go rough aaferwards this jewelry won't come wiping off ur tears.nobody wants life in a cage even if its of gold n diamonds.
anyways if u wish do istikhara for continuous 7 more days.
baqi Allah tumhara hafiz-o-ameen ho aur tumhain sirf khusheean he dikhaiy.right now u just can't imagine wat bad marriage means n how much mental n emotional harm it can cause.All i wish u is best luck .
very beautiful jewelry but i won't get into that trap.almost every marriage/engagement in pak is lavishly celeberated but attitudes change right after.if things go rough aaferwards this jewelry won't come wiping off ur tears.nobody wants life in a cage even if its of gold n diamonds. anyways if u wish do istikhara for continuous 7 more days. baqi Allah tumhara hafiz-o-ameen ho aur tumhain sirf khusheean he dikhaiy.right now u just can't imagine wat bad marriage means n how much mental n emotional harm it can cause.All i wish u is best luck .
You said it sooo beautifully, Mabrook.
Disturbed Angel......mostly women have responded to your thread. Some of them are older than you, married, and have more experience. And ALL of us have to told you in some way or the other that your husband is a LOSER. When the **majority of people **are giving you advice for your protection, why can't you open your eyes?
Tum ne KHUD kaha k tumhay kabhi apnay fiance se **NAFRAT **hoti hai. That's not a healthy attitude to have about someone you are planning to marry. And here you are being SO DUMB......and telling people about your beautiful clothes and jewelry. And i agree, yes they are BEAUTIFUL. Lekin tum aisa karnay se kya soch rahi ho? Tum yeh soch rahi ho gi k hum tumharay khoobsurat shadi k kapray aur jewelry dekh kar sochain gay k tumhari Saas tumhay kitna pyaar karti hai. BUT YOU ARE WRONG for thinking this way. Pakistan main har saas, chahay woh kitni bhi buri ho, apni honay wali bahu ko achay kapray aur jewelry day gi. Ab agar saas aisa na karay........to us ki reputation par asar hoga....log shadi k din kahain gay k saas ne bahu ko achay kapray aur jewelry nahi di.
***************Agar tumharay fiance ne waaqaiy main apni Amma k liye top se top servants rakhnay hotay................to top servants ki arrangment bahut pehlay ki kar chuka hota. Kya aisa bhi socha hai tum ne?
Disturbed_Angel.......you are lucky you're in Pakistan and you are lucky that I don't know who you are. Because If I had your contact information............I would have called your parents and told them everything about you and your loser fiance A LONG TIME AGO. That's how serious your situation is.
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D A...
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tumne kaha ke tum apne finace se buhat piyar karti ho aur kisi aur se nahi kar sako gi...dekho meri bat suno...problem her shadi mai hoti hain chahe love ho ya arrenged..magar...**.
ALLAH na kare kal ko kuch ghalat howa to tumhe ziyada afsos hoga ke jis shakhs ke sath tumne 5 sal guzare jis ko itna piyar dia jis pe itna trust kia usne yeh sab kia....lekin agar yehi sab agar arrenged marrige mai hoga to atleast tumhe ya KISI ko bhi zindagi bhar un sab baton ka afsos to nahi rahe ga ???arrenged marriage mai laraee jagre bhi hote hain to hum khud ko yeh keh kar mutamain karte hain ke** " agar hume pehley is shakhs ke bare mai pata hota to mai kabhi shadi na karti magar ab kia kiya ja sakta hai "**...
lekin love marriage mai jab yeh sab hota hai to tum soch bhi nahi sakti ke insna bilkul toot jata hai yeh soch kar ke kia humne apni zindagi ki sab se bari ghalti ki is shaksh se piyar kar ke aur bharosa kar ke ???
mai nahi keh rahi ya chah rahi ke yeh sab tumhare sath ho...bas tumhe aik genral bat samjha rahi hoo...aur meri Dua hai ke ALLAH kabhi tumhara samna aesy halat se na kare ke tumhe kisi bat pe pachtana pare ya tumhare parents ko bhi sharminda hona pare...mai samjh sakti hoo tum us se piyar karti hoo...yeh mat socho ke tum duniya ki pehlii larki ho jisne piyar kia hai aur jis ki uske lover se shadi nahi hogi to pata nahi kia ho jaye ga..kuch nahi hota...koi mar nahi jata kisi ke bina...kabhi KISI ko kisi ki juddai mai marte dekha hai ???yeh sab is age ki waja se log emotional ho jate hain...magar waqt ke sath sare zakham bhar jate hain trust me....
ya phir aik aik kam karo...kcuh sal abhi shadi mat karo un logo ka behave dekho...shayed waqee mai tumhara fiance aur MIL theek ho jaye....aik bat yad rakhna zindagi ka koi bhi important faisla emotional ho key mat karna..chahe wo faisla shadi ka ho ya koi bhi...agar khud nahi soch sakti to apne barou se kaho wo tumhe sahi rasta batye ge ya sahi tarha samjhaye ge...
You said it sooo beautifully, Mabrook.
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aww thanks.so sweet of u :)
yes i said to him that i cant marry in december and i want to extend it bcoz i have my final year project in december and i want to concentrate on it.He said ok do ur studies , we will try to delay it .I took this step jus to find out their more faces ...I dont want to break my relation dat early.I know u ppl want me to do so and i know dis too dat u ppl are really care for me and want to save me from such evils but i wanna give my love a lil more time ...I hope this thing will work ! On my engagement he also give me a special bouquet which waz jus for me and it waz sooo beautiful :( Dont know why he sometimes act like strangers and sometime act like my wonderful fiancy ....
Dont know why he sometimes act like strangers and sometime act like my wonderful fiancy ....
Why? b/c he's a psycho who will bring you nothing but pain and anguish in your life. Everyone here is telling you that, u KNOW that.
Im sure those flowers will help u wipe ur tears rt?
Hmmm i know everyone is saying me to leave him but itz very difficult for me ..Well i will try to being rude with him so that it will be easy to break my relation with him .I know after leaving him i will not forgive myself and will never forget him also ...Thnx for guiding me you all the ppl !
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Why are you acting like some Bollywood film heroine? You're smart enough to become an engineer, but you're being so foolish in this situation. "I'll act rude with him so that it will be easy to break my relation with him"........please save this dialogue for some Bollywood movie.
Agar koi banda hamaray saath badtameezi karta hai.....is ka yeh matlab to nahin hai k hum khud bhi badtameezi karain. You can end this rishta without being rude. You can end this rishta without being disrespectful. You can end this ristha with a simple explanation.
And seriously you keep repeating the same question over and over again. "I don't understand why sometimes he is is nice and why sometimes he is so rude to me"............UFFF meray Khudaya! How many times are you going to keep repeating and telling us the same story that sometimes he is so sweet and other times he is so rude?????????? You keep repeating the SAME story but you don't take action. I feel so sorry for your parents and the mess that you are going to put them through by marrying this loser.
Look....you want to know why sometimes he's rude and sometimes he's nice? You want to know why his mood keeps changing? Because he's not normal and he has anger management problems. And the other reason is because he is clever and he knows that if he actus RUDE with you ALL THE TIME.......then you won't marry him. So he tries to act sweet and romantic sometimes.....so that you will be stupid enough to fall for this trick and marry him. Can't you figure that out? I guess not.
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Leave disturbed alone RV, I have already apologised for our terrible advice and unfortunately I'm going to have to apologise again if you intend to keep on harrassing her!
We can all learn from Disturb, KEEP IT UP Disturb, I long to see the day you marry him, I wish all fiance's could be like yours.
Leave disturbed alone RV, I have already apologised for our terrible advice and unfortunately I'm going to have to apologise again if you intend to keep on harrassing her!
We can all learn from Disturb, KEEP IT UP Disturb, I long to see the day you marry him, I wish all fiance's could be like yours.
You're right Halwa. I should stop harassing the girl. I didn't realize that the reason this angel doesn't listen to us is NOT because she's disturbed.........but because our advice is truly horrible. The reality is that all us girls are insanely JEALOUS of disturb_angel's wonderful fiance. Too bad we are not lucky enough to find a guy who has worse mood swings than a premenstrual woman. There is nothing more attractive than a man who can be Dr. Jekyll one moment and Mr. Hyde the next. And how lucky this guy is that he should get a girl as tolerant and loving and clueless to sarcasm as our Disturbed Angel.
They say ignorance in bliss. But in this case, deliberate ignorance must be heaven. (Smacks forehead).
hi DA,
i've been following up on ur thread n finally thot of giving u some of my input which is not so different from others.
first of all let me tell u sth. u mentioned somewhere in this thread tat he did not use to be like tat before and now he's rude and all. well normally in online relationships wat happens is ppl tend to be very sweet online and dont show their real side. u were probably awed by his online sweet side and "fell" in love with his online personality but now tat u r getting to know his offline real side u r having problems. i wud tell u one thing that u r going to spend ur life with him offline and not online. so make the decision wisely based on the facts how he is in real life and not how he acts online.
u also mentioned tat ur MIL is really rude and always screaming at u (u said sth like this not the exact words). it's very crucial that u get love and respect in the new household becuase u'll be spending and interacting with them for the rest of your life.
i feel tat ur story is not very different from the others who also "fall in love" online. try to talk to ur mom or nohter adult who is mature and can give u the right advice n can guide u. most of the advice given here is for ur best interest and we all being unbiased r telling u the same thing (which IA wud make u happy) and we hope it to be in ur best interest. THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU PROCEED!!
also nother factor in ur case is the age difference n ur young age. i think u r too young n too immature. u don't have much experience in life n thus r scared to make bold decisions. take some time. dont rush into things. n evaluate things properly. also since he's 27 i think he's able to exert more presuure on u cuz u r only 20.
i hope u have the strength to make the right decision n take the right step. AMEEN SUMMA AMEEN.
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DA, all of these issues should have been discussed before you got engaged. Nevertheless, you still have time to do this, get your list of expectations down now, get your parents on your side, discuss it with him and make it clear to him and his mother on what you are not prepared to compromise on. i.e. your own house/career etc.
RV i m really sorry that i m making u disturb too ..I dont want to make anyone angry here but i m also very disturb datzwhy doing such foolish acts..He called me three times yesterday and now he is saying dat ab meray parents ko ammi and daddy keh kar mat bulana bcoz i know k tumhain unki koi respect nahi isiliye unko jhoota jhoota ammi and daddy kehnay ka koi faida nahi hai .Mainay apnay fiancy say clear words mai kehdia tha 2 din pehlay k main us k parents k saath akelay karachi mai nahi rahungi datzwhy yesterday night he waz saying k tum hoti kon hu jo mujhay aisa kehrahi hu k tum meray parents ki care nahi karsakhti and he said k ye koi europe nahi ha , karachi mai larkoon ka dil jeeetnay k liye bohot kuch karna parta ha ..Tumhain jo koi bhi ye baatein sikha raha ha un say jakar kahu k wo khud apnay fiancy k saath bhi aisa behaviour rakhain ( My fiancy thought k mujhay uyniversity ki larkian ye sab baatein sikhati hain ) .He said k tum nay waqai hamaray relation ko weak banadia ha and mujh per believe na kar k tum nay apni sari izzat meray ander say khatam kar di hai ..Agar tum bhi mujh per yaqeen rakhti k main tumharay liye acha karunga future main to mujhay khushi huti but tum bhi aur larkion ki tarah hu jo sirf expect karna janti hain and sabar karna nahi janti hain.He said dat in our story u seems like a guy who have to plan and i seems like a girl who have to do the things on ur requirements.
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^ ufffffff :S
yar yeh tumhara fiance kia cheez hai ??? bajaye ke kabhi ghalti se bhi "sorry" karne ya bat ko set karne ke mazeed tum pe roub kar raha hai ???
and what he mean ke mere parents ko ammi dady na kaho ??? ab jo kaha hai usi pe kaim rehna..warna MIL kahe gi kabhi Ammi kehti hai yeh larki kabhi aunty...
aur tum waqee pagal hooo..itna sab ho jata hai hume batane ke bajaye apne Parents ko keu nahi batati???RV jesa ghussa muje bhi aa raha hai magar tum pehley hi preshan ho isliye kcuh nahi keh rahi :@
magar waqee muje buhat ghuusaa a raha hai.....itna sab sun'ne ke bad bhi tumne apne mummy papa ko kuch nahi bataya ???/ abbhi bhi wait kar rhi hoo ke aaj rude hai to kal theek ho jaye ga ??
Kinzz main kia karun mujh say ye relation nahi break hota yaar :( Main apnay parents ki bhi kia bataon ..I talked to them ..Papa is saying k hum apni beti ko aisay nahi dekh sakhtay isiliye foran say rishta break karoo ,un k pass aur koi option nahi .U know wo sirf break karnay ki baat kartay hain , mama kehti hain k starting k 2 years har larki ko compromise karna huta hai chahay wo kitni hi educated kiun na hu and she said k humain to lagta tha k tumhari understanding hougi , tum ab aisa kiun keh rahi hu k wo larka tumhain pasand nahi karta :( Ye sab sun kar main aur disturb hugayi hun.Main apnay parents say bhi kia baat karun?? I haf my elder sister , un ki abhi khud shadi nahi hui datzwhy wo kehti hain tumhari to love marriage hurahi ha datzwhy tumhari to understanding honi chahiye , main kia kehsakhti hun tumhain .she is saying k tum khud us say baat kar k usko samjhao jaisay last 5 years say sambhala hua ha relation waisay hi abhi bhi sambhalo ..Meray fiancee jab bhi aatay hain to meray liye dhair saray gifts latay hain dubai say datzwhy wo meri sister and brother ki nazroon mai achay hain and wo samajhtay hain k un ki sister ye sab dramay kar rahi hai and unki sister ko bohot pyaar karnay wala mila hai ..Un k nazdeek dubai ki cheezain lakar dena hi pyaar and caring hai.They are not believing me...Now u ppl can estimate dat i m really alone and datzwhy i m seeking help here and finding a sister here ..
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D A....dekho rishta tourne ka nahi keh rahe hum,,,hum keh rahe hain ke tumhare parents usay smajhaye agar nahi samjhta to us surat mai aesy shaksh se shadi na hi karo to behter hai...
plus yeh ke tum aesa kyu sochti ho ke uske bina nahi reh sako gi...khud ko mazboot banaoo..ALLAH na kare kabhi koi aesy halat howe bhi to insan ko mazboot hona chahiye...
jab banda love marriage karta hai to aik doosre se buhat kuch expect karta hai..same wese hi jese tumhara fiance kar raha hai usi tarha zahir hai tum bhi us se buhat sari cheezen expect kar sakti hoo..magar kuch mard aesy hote hain ke chhate hain ke sirf unki bat mani jaye magar wo kisi ki bat na mane...
jahan tak tumhare papa ne rishta tourne ka kaha to wo isliye ke unhe laga hoga ke ab samjhane se faida nahi isliye yehi behter hai...agar mai bhi tumhare papa ki jaga hoti to shayed yehi kehti...kyu ke wo bare hain unhe achi tarha jante hain unhe andaza hoga ke wo log samjhne wale nahi....ya to phir agar tum yeh sari baten bardasht kar sakti ho to karo us se shadi...
dekho DA hum yeh keh rahe hain ke u love him so much....magar usay bhi to wesa hi piyar dena ya show karna chahiye na ???pehley sahi tha mangni ke bad badal gaya aur rude ho gaya ab shadi ke bad aur pata nahi kia hoga???ab ya to apne papa ki bat mano ya phir wait karo kuch arsa unhe mazeed dekho aur samjho...