Hey pals! Please tell me any gud thing which can help me to get rid of my tensions.Like any way of releasing tensions …I’m feeling really disturb and not able to concentrate on anything not even on my studies and also i’m nt taking any food …Hope u ppl will help me !
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no one is giving me any options :(
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Sex? Heard its a great release for tension....mind you just don't get caught.
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Well, u gotta tell us more, why disturbed? No food taking is a sorry business, people should love their food.
First things first, clear your mind. Write a list of everything that is disturbing you, on paper. Then you can write what actions you can take to eliminate these disturbances. Then you should write down how long you expect for the disturbances to be resolved. Then you should resign yourself to the fact that it will take that long, and live with it.
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I know for a fact mine helps just as well as that list mentioned!
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Exercise. Walk, jog or even just dance in your room until you release stress
Get out and meet a friend for coffee/tea, cake etc..
Do anything that will take your mind off your issues.
Think proactively. Is this stress helping you? Can you improve anything by continuing to dwell on the problem/s? The answer is no...so find something that will have a positive feel and if nothing else will distract you from your thoughts, e.g dancing or hanging out with friends.
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Well i had a fight with my fiancy ...A terrific and horrible one !! And now my mind is bursting jus bcoz of these tensions ...I want to get rid of this.
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Have a good cry and a tantrum and scream and shout and let it all out, then fall asleep. After that you can call him.
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No he said to me that now dont try to call me ever.He alwayz think that i m getting jealous with my mother-in-law :( Dont know why?? And there is no solution for this..Although i alwayz take care of my MIL and do calls to her oftenly..
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Work out
Shop
Read a good book
Long drive
Watch a movie you love
Go for a vacation or a weekend away somewhere close by
Get a mani/pedi...always helps me
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hey its ok- take a deep breath- and take it easy--
sumtimes people say things when there upset- and they will get mean! trust me ive gotten that from my fiance as well where at point he's said dont ever call me again and we give it a few hours not talking or even a whole day- then he wakes me up by calling me for fajr namaz and its a fresh day , a new start to another day then we just let it be
but if ur case is EXTREMELY serious- then first u need to calm down- last thing u wanna do is tick him off by saying sumthing u'll regret- go shopping, or go do sumthing u usually enjoy doing, after ur better and calm- u can call his MOM= he DID say not to call him- but he did not say NOT to call his mom- so have a talk with her-
if you and her arnt very close then just call her and just ask so hows ur day etc etc- fizool talk- then im sure shes gonna tell ur fiance that u called- and he will feel that u spoke to her and u guys are doing well so he will eventually call u- or u call him later in the day- or text him- its ok- little fights happen and so do big ones- we just have to b strong and face them- and keep Allah in mind and in ur heart and pray to him and ask him for guideance- he will surely guide u to the right path- insha'ALLAH everything will b fine- dont stress it. Sometime we stress so much and it turns out to b nutting- so dont worry-
Good luck :)
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Get rid of that source of tension, i.e. fiance
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^ICAM - do you really want to live like this for the rest of your life?
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Hey pals! Please tell me any gud thing which can help me to get rid of my tensions.Like any way of releasing tensions ...I'm feeling really disturb and not able to concentrate on anything not even on my studies and also i'm nt taking any food ....Hope u ppl will help me !
Wazu karain aur namaz parhain ya quran parhain aur Allah say dua karain are the best things to release your tensions.
Koi aisa kaam karain jis say aap ka dil khush hota hai ya kisi aisay shaksh/shakhshiaat say baat karain jis say baat kar kay aap ko khushi hoti hai.
Try to concentrate your mind something happy or happened to you and that is good and laugh or smile. Anything that make you smile or laugh.
Cook something you like/love to eat or for someone who likes to eat your that thing.
Play some game or have fun or enjoy with someone.
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Work out Shop Read a good book Long drive Watch a movie you love Go for a vacation or a weekend away somewhere close by Get a mani/pedi...always helps me
LOL.
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No he said to me that now dont try to call me ever.He alwayz think that i m getting jealous with my mother-in-law :( Dont know why?? And there is no solution for this..Although i alwayz take care of my MIL and do calls to her oftenly..
You might be saying things against his mom. Don't say a single thing against his mom.
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what are u saying about his mom thats making him react that way? I mean a guy jst doesnt randomly declare that your jealous from his mother.. there has to be something..
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no guy likes to hear how his mother is making you crazy
i mean if he loves his mother then you should hold your tongue until your married...
& what your describing above is called a "lover spat" everyone has it!
sooner or later you'll get over it...take a deep breath & relax...
next time think before you speak...
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Well to be honest these are the issues which are bothering me :
1) My MIL said to me that start practicing about good cooking and dont use Shan masalas(even her own daughter uses shan masalas in her susral) and other ready- to- cook items bcoz she doesnt like this .Although i m doing my last year of engineering and i haf to concentrate more on my studies but they want cooking first and dont care abt my studies ,even my fiancee is also teasing me on this cooking issue.
2) The second issue which my fiancee said to me that they have two houses .They gave one house at rent and in the second one his parents are living.He is himself living in Dubai and he is the only son of his parents.Now the condition of second house is extremely poor where his parents are living,even there is no attach bath with the room ( i.e design is like 100 yrs old ).He is forcing me to live in this house after marriage .As Far as my recent home is concern , i have a very big house MashaAllah and me and my sister have our own floor.So how will i adjust there??
I want to mention you people that its my love marriage and we know each other since 5 years.After a long love relation,he is not thinking abt my future.
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Well to be honest these are the issues which are bothering me : 1) My MIL said to me that start practicing about good cooking and dont use Shan masalas(even her own daughter uses shan masalas in her susral) and other ready- to- cook items bcoz she doesnt like this .Although i m doing my last year of engineering and i haf to concentrate more on my studies but they want cooking first and dont care abt my studies ,even my fiancee is also teasing me on this cooking issue.
2) The second issue which my fiancee said to me that they have two houses .They gave one house at rent and in the second one his parents are living.He is himself living in Dubai and he is the only son of his parents.Now the condition of second house is extremely poor where his parents are living,even there is no attach bath with the room ( i.e design is like 100 yrs old ).He is forcing me to live in this house after marriage .As Far as my recent home is concern , i have a very big house MashaAllah and me and my sister have our own floor.So how will i adjust there??
I want to mention you people that its my love marriage and we know each other since 5 years.After a long love relation,he is not thinking abt my future.
You don't have brother?
You mean in your moms house you and your sister has your own hissa?
Ask him to do repairing things in his home. or make that at least that goood enough to you be able to live there comfortably.
Did you you planned not to leave your own home?
Beta jub bunda phara hai to mazay bhi chakho. Ya free fund main us aurrat kay betay kay snatch kar lena hai us say. Shukar karain wo aurat us kay betay ko chuk lenay kay jurm main aap ko apnanany say inkar naheen kar rahi. Jub us nain itna bara dil dikhaya hai to kuch aap bhi to apni side say sacrifce karo. Ya shadi kay baad banwa lena apni pasand kay mutabiq.
Shukar karo wo itna ahmaq hai kay bardasht kar raha hai apni maan kay khilaaf batain koi doosra hota to bye bye keh deta. You know what after marriage If you will say anything about his mom he is not gonna listen to you at all as he knew before marriage that you are jealous of his mom.
No matter you said things or his mom made him to think that you are jealous of his mom but he has got this in his mind and it won't go away ever.
Why you taking those things that serious. She can't control you living in Pakistan. You do your study. Don't contact her that much. Concentrate on your study. Sure learn to cook without shaan masala. I don't see anything wrong in asking this. She might not liked using shan masala and her daughter might not be listening her. May be she wants you to become good cook.
I say Shaan masala main pakanay walion ka koi credit naheen hota. Just follow the instructions wallah you got great khana. Even boys can cook great khana in shaan masala. Baat to jub hai khud kay masalay say mazaydaar khana banaya jaay.
Yay koi itnay serious issues naheen jis pay uski maan kay khilaaf uskay kaan khaay jain.
Achchi baat dushman bhi kahay to maan leni chahyay. It's my rule. Yay na daikho kon kah raha hai. Yay daikho kia kah raha hai. Achcha kah raha hai to apnao. Ghalat kah raha hai to ignore karo.
I think I made some sense to let you understand. Hope I helped you understanding things.
DON'T EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER SAY ANYTHING AGAINST HIS MOM. Either bardasht or ignore. If you would love or show love towards his mom you will get more love from your husband.
Do you know who the best husti in this whole world after Allah and Muhammad SAWW for a person is HIS/HER MOM.
Instead of getting jahaiz from your parents get cash and from your cash do repair his home and make an attached bath. Use your brain to solve the problems which are very easy. If I would be in your place I would do this. Ask my parents do make an attached bath in his room for me. or give me a home in jahaiz in Pakistan or whereever they live if they can afford otherwise you could earn herself to make changes according to your likings and needs. As you are becoming engineer. I know engineers can earn great money.