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My input might not be entirely relevant, but what exactly is the idea behind disturb_angel?
I mean either it can be a disturbed_angel, or a disturbing_angel.
Just wondering. Please carry on.
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DA..
chalo choro filhal apne fiance aur sas ke topic ko...tum GS pe aya karo yahan posting kia karo apna dheyan hatao in sab baton se...im sure u will feel better Insha ALLAH...
yahan sirf is topic ko discuss na karo..doosri threads hain wahan jaya karo..aur ab roz ana ok??hum sab tumhare sath hain...
Re: Feeling Tense and disturb today!
And hey, if your fiance is being a butthead, that is a very clear indication that the person is not worth your time and consideration. It must have hurt, true, but close that chapter and move on. And be thankful that you did not end up with such a piece of work.
woaaaa! never thought someone would write something like this
seriously - f you guys are having problems before marriage - then even God is not going to help you after marriage. God would be like - What? I gave you all the signs before and yet YOU chose to marry- so now live in hell!
ye I think God would say something like this 
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It has been several months since valentines day, its amazing you still conitnued to stay with him after this. I would have sent him an email giving him the middle finger. Please do that now before its too late. your love nest as you knew it has ended...but if this is how you like it, quit complaining and get married already. Theres only two way about it.
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I am appalled at the language used by your fiance. No one, be that female or male, deserves to be showered with such profanities or abuse, be that physical, mental or verbal. Personally, if someone spoke to me like that, I would have left then and there.
Yes he is your fiance. Yes you may have had many desires, dreams and wishes for you both. Yes you may not want the stigma of having your engagement broke or making the first bold step of leaving. But think about, agar abhi itna daard ho raha hai, baad mein kya ho ga? Aur agar aap soch rahein hai ke mein unn ko badal sakti hoon shaadi ke baad, aap ke khush fehmi hai. Kuch log bilkul nahi badaltay.
There is a lot of good advice in this thread. I hope you make the best decision, for the long term.
hi DA,
i've been following up on ur thread n finally thot of giving u some of my input which is not so different from others.
first of all let me tell u sth. u mentioned somewhere in this thread tat he did not use to be like tat before and now he's rude and all. well normally in online relationships wat happens is ppl tend to be very sweet online and dont show their real side. u were probably awed by his online sweet side and "fell" in love with his online personality but now tat u r getting to know his offline real side u r having problems. i wud tell u one thing that u r going to spend ur life with him offline and not online. so make the decision wisely based on the facts how he is in real life and not how he acts online.
u also mentioned tat ur MIL is really rude and always screaming at u (u said sth like this not the exact words). it's very crucial that u get love and respect in the new household becuase u'll be spending and interacting with them for the rest of your life.
i feel tat ur story is not very different from the others who also "fall in love" online. try to talk to ur mom or nohter adult who is mature and can give u the right advice n can guide u. most of the advice given here is for ur best interest and we all being unbiased r telling u the same thing (which IA wud make u happy) and we hope it to be in ur best interest. THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU PROCEED!!
also nother factor in ur case is the age difference n ur young age. i think u r too young n too immature. u don't have much experience in life n thus r scared to make bold decisions. take some time. dont rush into things. n evaluate things properly. also since he's 27 i think he's able to exert more presuure on u cuz u r only 20.
i hope u have the strength to make the right decision n take the right step. AMEEN SUMMA AMEEN.
Ur wrong... she most likely will be spending the rest of her life with him online if hes in Dubia and shes in Karachi...
Guys
D.A i can totally understand where ur coming from, and the email ur finace sent sure is shocker.
But i think why people r mick-taking is because the of the obvious mature action infront of u that u shud be taking which r u not taking.
SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE TOLD U TO GET AND ELDER LIKE UR FATHER TO SPEAK TO HIM AND HIS FAMILY TO SORT ISSUES OUT.
WHY DONT U DO THIS?
I read his email, i really do sympathzze with you. He said many things ok a perons is angry we can give him some emphathy, but what is way out of the line is:
Hes calling you cheater and not once but repeatedly.
It seems as though he is very aware of his own feelins i the relationship and cares about them, but either doesnt care or isnt aware or doesnt give much imprtance to what ur feeling.
I hope he has not got any mental problem...?
And i cud give u more advice for him, but you see we all peolpe her ehave only got a extremly bad, uncaring, incosiderate image of him from what we have read,so obvoiusly we could only advise abut him from that stance,
D.A TO GIVE US PEOPLE A THOROUGH PICTURE OF THIS GUY WHY DONT U TELL US, IS THERE ANYTHING GOOD THAT HE DOES IN THIS RELATIONSHIP?
WHAT ARE IF ANY OF HIS POSTIVE ATTITUDES, ACTIONS TOWARDS U AT PRESENT?
TELL US THESE SO WE AN BUILT A THROUGH AND REAL PICTURE OF HIM AND HIS PERSONALITY SO CAN ADVISE U BETTER.
I MEAN MAYBE HE HAS ANGER PROBLEMS OR SOMTHING OR IS GOING THROUGH SOME STRESSFUL PHASE WHICH IS WHY HE HAS SUDENLY CHANGED SO MUCH?
THATS WHY LIKE UNLIKE MANY PEOPLE I WOULD BE A BIT DIFERENT AS YET AND NOT ISTRUCT U TO STRAIGHT ON THROW HIM AWAY.
GET YOUR DAD TO HAVE A 'THOROUGH, AND LONG CHAT WITH HIM' GET YOUR DAD TO CHECK IF HE UNDERSTANDS THAT IN THIS MARRIAGE IF HE EXPECTS CERTAIN THINGS FROM YOU, THEN YOU AS HIS WIFE ALSO EXPECT CERTAIN THINGS FROM HIM. GET YOU DAD TO CHECK IF HE UNDERSTAND AND AGREES TO THIS, AS ISLAMICALLY BOTH PARTNERS HAVE RIGHTS OVER EACH AS OPPOSED TO ONLY THE HUSBNAD OVER THE WIFE.
YOU SHOULD CHECK HIM IF HE RECOGNIZES THIS, IF SO THEN HE SHOULD GIVE ALSO DUE IMPORTANCE AND RESPECT TO YOUR DESIRES, AND IF HES DISAGREES THEN U SHUD APPRECIATE HSI HONESTY ATLEAST AND KNOW THE THING WHICH IS THAT HE WILL BE CONTROLING YOU AND ORDERING YOU ABOUT AS HE WISHEHES ALL HIS LIFE, IF YOU EVER OBJECT YOU WILL GET THE SAME TREATMENT AS NOW GETTING.
IF YOU CAN HANDLE THIS THEN OK, BUT AS IT SEEMS YOU DO NOT WANT THIS, YOUR DAD SHUD MAKE IT CLEAR TO HIM THAT AT THE MOMENT THE WAY HE IS TEATING U, U FEEL VERY DISRESPECTED AND IF HE SINCERLY LOVES AND WANST TO MARRY U THEN HE WILL HAVE TO GIVE U MORE RESPECT.
CAN HE GIVE YOU THE RESPECT OR NOT?
FULL-STOP...
PEOPLE STOP LAUGHING YEH. I THINK SHES VERY SERIOUS.
WHERE WITH U D.A
BUT NEXT TIME U COME I HOPE WE HERE THAT YOU LISTNED TO US AND YOUR FATEHR SPOKE TO HIM.
BY THE WAY B4 CLOSING. GIRL. THE EMAIL HE SENT U CONTAINS REALLY EXTREME STUFF.
JUST BECOS U DIDNT SPEAK TO HIM ON VALENTINE DAY.
HE HAS SWORN AT U, CALLED U INCONCIDERATE, CALLED U DISRESPECTFUL T HIM AND HIS MOTHER, CALLED U UNCARING, CALLED YOU WORTHLESS.
AND ALSO THAT YOU R A F...G B...H FOR RUINING HIS LIKE ONE DAY.
TO BEA BIT CONSIDERATE STILL TO HIM, MAYBE HE WAS TRYING TO SHOW HIS EXTREME HURT EMOTIONS BY BEING ANGRY SO U CALL HIM.
BUT
INSPITE THAT ABOVE ALL HE CALLED U NT ONCE BUT MANY TIMES
A...CHEATER.....
THIS IS WAY OUT OF LINE GIRL......
THAT IS BIG ACCUSATION ON A GIRL. **
**I THINK U SHUD SHOW THE MAIL TO UR DAD. AND CONFRONT HIM WITH HIS OUT OF LIMIT STATEMENTS LIKE THIS.
HE SHOULD NOT HAVE SAID THIS ATLEAST (UNLESS HE HAS MENTAL ISSUES)
I MEAN HE CANT SAY NOTHING FOR U TELLING UR DAD OF HIS MAIL, COS AS IF HE DOESNT SHARE EVRYTHING ABOUT U WITH HIS MUM!
I mean his email discredited you every single trait of a good person.girl. He loks so extremly angry and hurt it looks like had he been married to you, he would have not thought much before throwing the extra three words of
TALAAK, TALAAK, TALAAK. with something like
U CHEATER GIRL
AND UR LIFE WUD HAVE BEEN RUINED, BUT HE WUD STIL GO ROUND TELLING SOCIETY HE DIVORCED U COS U WERE A CHARCTELESS GIRL.
CUD U STAND THAT
WHAT DO THINK.... I DONT THINK IT WUD TAKE HE MUCH TO DO THIS.....
D.A DO WHAT I SAY.
ANYWAY IF WS UR BROTHER, ID REALLY WANT TO HAVE A GOOD CHAT WITH THIS....DUDE......
I WISH I WAS UR BRO...ID LIKE TO SEE HOW THIS GUY SPEAKS TO A MAN
MAYBE U HAVNT GOT A BROTHER THATS WHY HES GETTING OUT OF HAND WITH THE ROAB-JA-MAEING
Well he is in dubai not in karachi , datzwhy meray dad unko pass bitha kar bath nahi karsakhtay secondly u know dat khi to UAE call rates itnay cheap nahi hain k insaan zyada time baat karsakay cell say..Aik baar mainay apnay fiancy say kaha tha k main apnay dad say kahungi k wo app say baat karain is baray mai k main kahan rahungi dubai mai ya karachi mai and agar karachi rahungi to kis k pass tou in the response he said k ye sab baatein mujh say nahi karnay ki zarorat nahi ha and ur parents should have to talk to my parents on all the issue bcoz mai ye sab deal nahi karunga , ye sab baaroon ki baatein ...Well on his positive thing i can say that he is not into girls,this thing is confirm and i can trust on him abt this thing.His all ids password and everything is share with me,although his office work ids too but he said me dat dont use his ids bcoz he got some guyz type email in his account lekin phir bhi main chupkay say unki emails dekh leti hun..Well the worst thing abt him is his worst language and flactuation in his mood.These are the two things jus bcoz of which i m disturb.Thirdly i know dat mujhay aisa nahi kehna chahiye tha k main karachi mai app k ghar waloon k saath nahi rahungi and un ka koi kaam wagaira nahi karungi bcoz i know ye sab baatein kehna sahi nahi and may be wo mujhay kehdetay k tum apni ammi k ghar jakar rehlo lekin ab un k dil mai waqai aik space aagaya ha meray liye..
Jahan tak language ki baat ha wo dubai janay k baad say kafee kharab hugayi ha unki and he use slangs frequently otherwise jab wo karachi mai job kartay thay to he waz sooo gud .Most of the times hum saath mai lunch kartay thay pizza hut and kfc per .Main apni university say wapsi per un k saath lunch karnay jati thi but at that time hamari engagement nahi hui thi and everything waz sooo gud mashaAllah say lekin ab engagement k baad say sab totally change hugaya ha , mujhay 50% yehi lagta hai jaisay k koi unko peechay say meray khilaaf kehta hai ..
The main thing jo mainay app logon ko nahi batayi wo ye k he haf jus one sister and un ki sister married hain .she is jus 24 yrs old but wo shadi honay k bawajood mostly time apni ammi k ghar mai rehti hain .she is living seperate wid her inlaws and us k pass har facility hai jo aik larki k pass honi chahiye..A city car wid driver,a gardener , three servants and a 400 yards banglow but she is nt happy in her marriage life .Well shru shru mai jab hamari engagement nahi hui thie tab meray fiancy apnay behnoi k baray mai kehtay thay k wo bohot rulatay hain un ki sister ko and bohot demagh kharab kia hua ha unhu nay sab ka and un ki sister ki saas bhi sirf matric pass hain datzwhy kehtay thay k meri behen adjust nahi hu pati wahan...Well unki shadi apnay first cousin say hui hai...
Meray dad meri stories nahi suntay beth kar boz wo sirf aik baat kehtay hain k choordo larkay ko and hum mai bhi itni himmat nahi ha k hum tumharay baad mai aansu pooch sakhain gay ..Mama bhi sirf yehi kehrahi hain ab k karni hai to karu warna khatam kardo.Agar ghar mai sab itna seriously lerahay hutay meri problem ko tou shayad hi main yahan gupshup per aati ..Un logon ko aisi emails parhaon gi to wo mujhay bhi sunaingay k tum hi layi hu aisa larka pasand kar k ab compromise karu na beth kar..Pehlay soochna tha na ye sab...datzwhy mera un say discuss kar k koi conclusion nahi nikalta hai...I usually cries at whole night lekin koi mujh say nahi poochta bcoz i know k yeh meri hi mistake hai and i did love datzwhy wo loag bhi akhir kiun bolain kuch..
Meray pass jo solution ha wo sirf yehi k is insaan ko aur is rishtay ko hamesha k liye ya to main khatam kardun ya phir agar yahan shadi karni ha apnay pyaar k liye to phir sab say gilay aur shikway karna choor dun..But demagh mai ye sab baatein rakhnay say mera mind burst honay lagta hai isiliye i like and love to share ...Lekin waqai i m doing mistake bcoz main sirf rona janti hu aur us ka step uthana nahi .May be bcoz i m too weak and may be no one is wid me to support .Agar rishta toorungi bhi to ghar say yehi sunna parayga k meri mistake thi and agar nahi toorungi tab bhi sab kuch bardasht karna houga..
Well before engagement he gave me a gold ring also jus to show his love..But yahan sab yehi samjhatay hain k ye sab bekaar hai datzwhy may be ye us ka postive attitude nahi houga.He also give me monthly credit also like 1000 RS per month but may be ye bhi sab bekaar hu as everyone said k ye cheezain ansu khatam nahi karwati hain...
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Jesus man! I am definitely out of this thread - if I have to read something this long, I’d pick up one of the books I started but never finished. disturb(ed)_angel, I hope things get better for you soon.
Pindi :
thankx for the giving the better profile of ur fiance.
well yes,apne indeed love marriage choose ki hai, u wont get anyone to share blame or tke responsibility as u only chose him.
You know D. i think maybe you and your fiance r too different from and incompatible for each other.
Maybe u r the broadminded type, independant, outgoing girl....and he wants type of girl that is more reserved and housebound and looking after family and cooking.
I dont even get what is the main problem....still
Is that just this one thing that of the issue of u staying with his mum or not??
If it is that...we guys proposed u a solution that you could propose him a maid for your aunti, did you not think of a way of getitn that across?
Im sure in pakistan u cant get very cheap sevants/maids nowadays...or is money a prob?
2nd issue; was it that he cant keep u in dubai as he can not afford to keep u there yet?
I proposed solution which was that u shud convey is that u r prepared to living with him in basic low finacnial standard.
Girl...u must convey to him that your biggest need of this marriage is his love and closenes to him. Tell him u love him so much u cant stay away form him. And that the other problems that arise due to this, you ave already proposed the solutions....arnt they acceptable to him?/
try to convey to him these simple but main things to him calmly in an unproud way.
hopefully he wil consider
and...worst comes to worse if i have gussed coreectly these twor the only main issues, and the above advice i give which u implement respectfully, and he still does makesa fuss...
then maybe u shud calmly tell him that it it looks from his side he is not willing to make any comprimise from his side in the marriage showing minimal respect so maybe its better to call the marriage off.
Girl if he truly loves u, this shud give him a shock....he wont want to loose u ,and maybe this eye-opener wud wake him up.
and D.A i dunno if im corrcet but maybe u know the currnet distance betwen you guys can be contributing to the emotional distance and misunderstandings.
One more thing...D.A you are so mcuh able to do yourself.
This is big issue...especially the email he sent you....you need the help of someone else in the matter....Your parnets r ur parents....they love u at teh end of the day...u shud show them how upste you r and whts really goin on between u guys....and ask them to pls speak on ur behalf to them..
ther r ur parentz......if they tell u off at start or even if u have to beg...tell them just do it this once....for u...a last try to save your daugters marriage.
they..will..u gota trust ur parentz girl..
DONT HAVE TO SHOW FATHERTHE EMAIL BUT HAVE TO I TELLING U MUST CONVEY THEM IN DETAIL WHAT REALLY IS GOIN ON..UR HURT..DEPRSSED...U NEED THEM TO TALK TO HIS SIDE
What do u say d.a
Jaanwarr..dude yeh i know my post r getting too long..
bro u talk abut reading it...imagine..writng it....
This person really genuinely looks in trouble...who needs quality advice..helping some1 doesnt make u smaller.
*The way f...g dude is acting is something thats taking the piss. *
sometime peoples issues r so important on g.s cnt helped get sucked in
But u wnt see me going the marathon elsewhere..promise dat
: )
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Cheater larki? Cheap? Gross.
Nasty man! He needs help
Disturb Angel,
I'm sorry that I thought of your story as a joke/drama. I thought that because I felt you weren't listening to us when we are all trying to help you. Tum aur tumhara fiance dono ajnabi ho ham sab k liye. Lekin phir bhi hum sab TUM ko support kar rahain hain. Aur woh is liye kyoon k hum samajh saktay hain that you are innocent and you are in danger. Agar hum sab ko aisa lagta k tumhara fiance aik acha larka hai aur tumhar bahut khayal rakhay ga.......to hum sab 100 martaba kehtay k tum us se zaroor shadi karo. Lekin aisa nahin hai. Yeh larka normal nahin hai. DA, is thread main sab LARKAY bhi yeh hi mashwara day rahain hay k tum fiance ko chor do. Aur LARKON ko doosray LARKON ki ziyada samajh hoti hai.Hum sab tum ko wohi advice day rahain hai jo k tumharay Papa ne tum ko di hai.
Think of me as your Baji, as your older sister, and listen to me sweetheart. Agar tum Pakistan main kisi psychologist ko apnay fiacne ka email dikhati to woh psychologist bhi yahi kahay ga k tum is larkay ko chor do....kyoon k is ki nafsiyati/zehni khaalat normal nahin hai. Tumharay fiance abhi se tum ko gandi galiyan day raha hai to phir shadi k baad kya karay ga? Tumharay fiance ne tum par kitnay ganday aur jhootay ilzam lagaye hain, phir shadi k baad kyar karay ga? Tumharay fiance ne kaha hai k woh "ghaltiyan maaf nahin karta aur bhoolta bhi nahin"...........yeh to bahut khatarnaak soch hai. Aik shadi main husband aur wife dono se ghaltiyan hoti rehti hain aur dono ko aik doosray k saath sabar karna chahiye.
DA.......agar tumhari saghi behan, cousin, best friend k fiance ne aisa email bheja hota........to tum us ko kya mashwara deti? Kya tum apni sister/friend ko yeh kehti ki woh us se shadi kar le? Allah ne tum ko itnay** SIGNS** diye hain aur sab se BARA aur STRONG sign yeh email hai. Dekho tum sirf 20 ki ho, parhi likhi ho, achi family se belong karti ho,...........tumhay hazaar achay rishtay mil saktay hain. Aksar parents apnay baiton k liye young larki chahtay hain kyoon k woh samajhtay hain k aik young larki ziyada innocent hogi aur aasani se control ki jaa sakti hai. Tumhara fiance bhi yeh sochta hai k tum young ho aur dhamki aur gaaliyon se control main aa sakti ho.
Tumharay fiance ko sirf apni holiday k fikar hai. Yeh to bachon jaisi soch hai. Zindagi main holidays baar baar aayen gi. Tumhari tarha Gupshup par bahut si girls hain jo k engaged hain. Tum in girs se poocho k kya un k fiance bhi un ko iss tarhar se gaaliyan daitay hain? Tum in girls se poocho k kya un fiance bhi un ko iss tarha k emails send kartay hain? Engagement ka period khushi ka period hona chahiye. Aur tum agar abhi se itni upset ho........baad main kya haal hoga tumhara.
Tumharay fiance ka aisa email send karna sirf tumhari hi baizzati nahi balke tumharay parents ki bhi baizzati hai. Please.........agar tum khud par raham nahin kar sakti..........to kam se kam apnay parents par to raham kar choro.
Tum ko aisa lagta hai jaisay tum kisi aur se shadi nahin kar pao gir kyoon k tum ko lagta hai k tum is larkay ko nahin bhool paao gi. Lekin main tum ko guarantee deti hoon........k tum waqt k saath saath us ko bhool jaao gi. Meri kuch friends hain jin ki shadi se pehlay affairs thay.........lekin shadi ke baad woh ab MashaAllah bahut khush hain......aur woh apnay boyfriends ko bhool chuki hain.
Mind mat karna par tumharay fiance ki ENGLISH **aur URDU DONO **bahut kharab hain. Paindu jaisi ENGLISH aur paindu jaisi URDU, engineer lagta hi nahin hai. Aur kya pata.......engineer na ho........jhoot bhi bola jaa sakta hai. Varna engineers ki to achi salary hoti hai. Aur yeh to aisay baat kar raha hai jaisay ussay paisay kamanay main mushkil hai.
Tum un auraton ka socho jin ko shadi k baad pata chalta hai k un k husbands kitnay buray hain. Aur tum to khush kismat ho jissay shadi se pehlay sab kuch pata chal raha hai. Aur aisi situation main sahi action na lena bewakoofi ho gi. Allah ki is rehmat ka shukar karo aur is pay amal karo. Open your eyes honey.... aur apni zindagi ko barbaad honay se bachao.
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^R.V
Good post.
But I think b4 calling it off all the sudden some evaluation needs to be done.
Her parents must get involved.
And i still have to determine what is her main problems between him.
Is it mainly the 'staying with mom' issue, or if not what r the other big ones.
I already propsoed her possible soltutions on that which she shud be pursueing.
I want some feedback first how our recommndations have worked.
Ill b back after 1 hour D.A.
Dnt worry we r with u. U r our mate.
DUH, Amir Pindi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I and many others have told her over and over again to involve her parents! Look at previous posts if you feel that the advice of involving parents has not been mentioned.
Her parents need to be involved ONLY to cancel the rishta. Not further evaluation is needed. Any guy who sends such a degrading email to a girl........is not mentally fit for marriage.
No evaluation is necessary.......no further chances or opportunities should be given after such a horrible email.
If her father had any idea of this email..........he would never do an evaluation. Instead her father would simply pick up the phone.......and cancel the rishta within minutes. And that's the smart thing to do.
Evaluating the situation any further when the guy's email has spoken volumes about his character is a foolish thing to do and it would only encourage DA for the wrong reasons.
Evaluations......mean more time.......and more time means hope........and hope is like encouragment............which is not healthy for DA. It's more than clear that this guy needs to be dropped.
DA - Thanks for putting this lovely young desirable bachelor into context for us. After you read his wonderfully romantic and uplifting email on Valentines day, why did you keep relations with him? Is it because you like the exciting drama in your life? If you didn't want this kind of drama you could have told him exactly where to go - STRAIGHT OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
IF someone slaps you, do you normally stand there and offer them the other cheek, saying "HERE, slap me here, too"??? This fiance of yours is beating you up emotionally and you are allowing him to continue to do it as long as you are engaged / married to him. Given time he will beat you to the ground, and you won't find it easy to get up again.
I agree with RV, his english and urdu sounds weird, I can't even speak urdu myself and yet found his odd. Your fiance is also a nasty character (VILLAIN in the drama!).
I'm not really sure but I get the impression that this man is giving you an allowance each month? Is this correct? This is weird, he is your fiance, not your husband yet. Anyhow, don't feel indebted to him and remain engaged because of what he has given you. Calm down and make a list of everything he has ever given you, money and gifts. If you wish to break it off with him, return all the money and gifts he has ever given you and rest easy.
You are educated, polite and courteous, you have everything to look forward to in life, with the very best intentions I ask you to be strong and consider all the other options that are open to you and choose one which offers you a brighter future, inshallah.
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Well R.V friend
I was trying to view the problem in a more cautiouns and prudent way.by being somwhat considerate-sympathetic to other side..for the best interest of D.A
- Being a guy i know how posseeive, controlling, ego-infalted we can sumtimes get.
I dont want to advice somebody to break of a rista just like that.
But correct me if im wrong, i have a feeling this guy migt be delibartly trying to get rid of her.
D.A We all onli see one-side of the guy so far. U know im not taking his side, but im just saying that maybe now hes serious abut lving whole life with you>somethin which requires him to be responsible and give priority to his career/job etc.
which he is trying to do....maybe wrking hard and finding diffuclt rite now...and maybe desires for your supprt and co-operation on that..by expecting u to be a an 'obidient' partner/wife.
You know personally what ive read form r.v responses......i just think the reason he does not want and gets so angry at you for not living in dubai after marriage may not that be that his mother needs care at home....^
He may be lieing, and infcat doesnt want u to come to dubai to see something he dont want u to see.....
Maybe D.A he doesnt do what he tells u he does....
No offense...but maybe he does some **** job with low pay...which he feel ashamed showing.
Enginners in Dubai in and Rapid economically and industrial growing country like dubai needs engineers who theyd pay well.
Im goona be bak after an hour...
have to study
bye
Disturb_angel: I fail to see WHY it is so hard for you to cancel this “rishta”.. think about it.. he’s probably the BIGGEST loser you know, jerk kahin ka gives you so much abuse and baduwas, your parents want you to end this excuse of a rishta AND it’s only an engagement! (No matter what you say, legally and islamically, this rishta has no stability so it isn’t even a hassle to end unlike a divorce!) Don’t you want a guy who will make your parents happy because he’s treating you right? Don’t you want someone who actually cares for you, loves you unconditionally and RESPECTS you? Because all those stars (****) in that email definitely do not equal respect! Itni gandhi zabaan hai uski, is that what your in love with? No? I thought not. Put yourself in your parents shoes for a sec and think, if your daughter recieved an email like that from her eversosweet fiance, would you happily marry her off to him? Don’t you see how important it is for you and your parents that you END this thing right here.
Aur aik aur baat, if you keep saying “Hai I’m so weak, so helpless, I can’t do anything”.. then chances are you won’t do anything because in your mind you’ve already decided not to. Aisa karo, DON’T contact him, not today, not tomorrow and definitely not the day after. Don’t email/text him at all! If he emails/texts, DON’T reply. Eventually, he may call.. when he does.. hand the phone over to your father. Make sure you tell your father that you want him to tell loserface to NEVER contact his daughter again as he can not treat her right and she deserves better than him. There, it will be over.
Abhi jaao, jaa ke icecream khao aur thande dimaag se socha.. you CAN end this. You do have SELF-RESPECT and you DESERVE wayyyy BETTER!
P.s. If you post one more rhona dhona post, I will flood your thread 
, I don’t want to but I will have to 
. Post something positive.
Tell us you will end this because you can! 
^ I agree with Chipkali.
Disturb Angel......tumharay fiance ne itni disrespectful email is liye send ki hai taakay tum email par kar upset ho kar.....us ko email kar k maafi maango....aur bheek maango k woh rista na toray tum se.
Listen to Chipkali. She's giving good advice. ** Tum us ki yeh wish poori hi mat karna. **Tum us ko respond na karo. Us ko email na karo. Us se phone par baat mat karo. Contact hi mat karo.
Tum ne bhi shayad bahut dafa apnay fiance ko email kiya hoga. ** Lekin kya tum ne kabhi ussay gaali di hai?** Kya tum ne kabhi us k saath is tarha se email par badtameezi ki hai? I'm sure tum ne aisa nahin kiya ho ga. Kyoon k tum aik tameez dar aur shareef family ki larki ho.
Tumhay** "love"** ki idea se **"love" **hai. Farz karo k tumhay Indian filmon jaisi romantic life chahiye (jo k assal zindagi main nahin hoti)...........phir yeh bhi socho k FILMO main bhi kya koi larka iss tarha se behave karta? Agar villain ho to woh aur baat hai. Lekin a achay character ka banda shareefon ki tarha behave karay ga........na k tumharay fiance ki tarha.
Re: Feeling Tense and disturb today!
^
I have run out of ideas to say, after these 2 charged posts.
But what i can say is that, I would really reallly....love to havea little chat with this 'gentle-man, bachelor' and ask him what the hell his problem actually is.
His email and attitude conveys that not if D.A ignored him for a day, but is as if she dumped, eloped and married off with another guy on valentines.....
D.A ....
Listen wuzu karo, namaz paro, Allah se roh kar dua karo tume sahi rasta dekaye aur tumhari madat karein.
The wuzu and salat will give you some peace and clarity of mind. So u can be think more clearly.