well mainay apni mama ko apnay fiancee ki slangs k baray mai batadia hai..pehlay to unko bohot afsoos hua then she said k tumhain usi say shadi karni hai ? to mainay kaha yes i love him...Then she said k hum is shadi ko extend kar k dekh letay hain ..Today when my fiancy's mom called us for the date fixing then my mom said to his mother dat we want to fix it after rabi-ul-awwal i.e march ,otherwise my fiancy waz pushing me to marry in december bcoz he wants to get me early and wants to enjoy the winter with me but now i left all the matters on my mom...Mama nay kaha hai k agar shadi k baad bhi tumhain ye buri tarah baat karay to pehlay compromise karnay ki koshish karna but agar ye tum per kabhi bhi torture karay ya phir kuch aur to foran say is ko choor kar karachi aajana hamaray pass and is say bilkul mat darna bcoz ab larkion k bohot rights hain..Mama said to me k wo nikkah-namay mai apni sari shartein rakhwaingi takay aagay meray liye koi problem na hu .My mom said dat dont worry and handle the situation like a brave and educated girls..she said k tum aik illeterate larki nahi hu,hum nay tumhain engineering isiliye karwai ha k tum pooori world ko face karsakoo..when my father said to break with him den my mother said to him k kisi bhi larkay k baray mai hum kuch nahi kehsakhtay hain and shadi aik tarah ka game hi hota ha jis mai larki ko strong ban kar apna ghar save karna hota ha and agar us per zyada zulm huraha hu to usay ghabrana nahi chahiye and foran us larkay ko choor dena chahiye..mama nay dad ko samjhaya k kal hum is ki kahin aur bhi karaingay to hamain kisi ki guarantee nahi ha k shadi k baad larka kitna change houga , yahan to atleast is ka pyaar hai .Ye us larkay k saath ghomi hai ,us k saath shopping wagaira per gayi hai to atleast ab isko usi say nikkah karna chahiye in islamic point of view...agar aagay nahi set rahi shadi to hum is k liye yahan bethay hain ,is ko koi ghabranay ki zarorat nahi ha...
DA........Alhumdolillah...........this is GOOD NEWS that you're telling us after a long time!
See,** DA**........you should listen to the advice that we all are giving you on GS. We all told you many many many many times that you need to tell your mom or dad about your fiance's emails. And finally you listened to us. And dekha....Parents ko batanay se ab tumhara dil bahut halka feel hota hoga. Because that was the right thing to do.
I'm glad that your mom is being very supportive of you. And you mom did the smart thing by extending the shadi date. So, in between now and March.......if your fiance misbehaves with you again............please tell your mom. Now that you have told your mom everything......you should feel comfortable about telling her anything else in the future regarding your fiance. So, don't feel scared. If you fiance behaves like an idiot, please tell your mom so that she can suggest the right course of action for you.
Give your fiance more time. And watch his behavior during this extended time. If your fiance doesn't improve .....to phir DA...tum aqal se kaam lena......aur rishtay ko tor dena (AGAR us ka attitude na badla ya mazeed kharab hogaya to).