You don't have brother?
You mean in your moms house you and your sister has your own hissa?
Ask him to do repairing things in his home. or make that at least that goood enough to you be able to live there comfortably.
Did you you planned not to leave your own home?
Beta jub bunda phara hai to mazay bhi chakho. Ya free fund main us aurrat kay betay kay snatch kar lena hai us say. Shukar karain wo aurat us kay betay ko chuk lenay kay jurm main aap ko apnanany say inkar naheen kar rahi. Jub us nain itna bara dil dikhaya hai to kuch aap bhi to apni side say sacrifce karo. Ya shadi kay baad banwa lena apni pasand kay mutabiq.
Shukar karo wo itna ahmaq hai kay bardasht kar raha hai apni maan kay khilaaf batain koi doosra hota to bye bye keh deta. You know what after marriage If you will say anything about his mom he is not gonna listen to you at all as he knew before marriage that you are jealous of his mom.
No matter you said things or his mom made him to think that you are jealous of his mom but he has got this in his mind and it won't go away ever.
Why you taking those things that serious. She can't control you living in Pakistan. You do your study. Don't contact her that much. Concentrate on your study. Sure learn to cook without shaan masala. I don't see anything wrong in asking this. She might not liked using shan masala and her daughter might not be listening her. May be she wants you to become good cook.
I say Shaan masala main pakanay walion ka koi credit naheen hota. Just follow the instructions wallah you got great khana. Even boys can cook great khana in shaan masala. Baat to jub hai khud kay masalay say mazaydaar khana banaya jaay.
Yay koi itnay serious issues naheen jis pay uski maan kay khilaaf uskay kaan khaay jain.
Achchi baat dushman bhi kahay to maan leni chahyay. It's my rule. Yay na daikho kon kah raha hai. Yay daikho kia kah raha hai. Achcha kah raha hai to apnao. Ghalat kah raha hai to ignore karo.
I think I made some sense to let you understand. Hope I helped you understanding things.
DON'T EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER SAY ANYTHING AGAINST HIS MOM. Either bardasht or ignore. If you would love or show love towards his mom you will get more love from your husband.
Do you know who the best husti in this whole world after Allah and Muhammad SAWW for a person is HIS/HER MOM.
Instead of getting jahaiz from your parents get cash and from your cash do repair his home and make an attached bath. Use your brain to solve the problems which are very easy. If I would be in your place I would do this. Ask my parents do make an attached bath in his room for me. or give me a home in jahaiz in Pakistan or whereever they live if they can afford otherwise you could earn herself to make changes according to your likings and needs. As you are becoming engineer. I know engineers can earn great money.
I just saw this. Our Prophet (SAW) said to respect our OWN mothers. Nowhere does it say women have to look after their mother in laws, if they do, they're blessed and nice people, but they don't have to.