thankx for the giving the better profile of ur fiance.
well yes,apne indeed love marriage choose ki hai, u wont get anyone to share blame or tke responsibility as u only chose him.
You know D. i think maybe you and your fiance r too different from and incompatible for each other.
Maybe u r the broadminded type, independant, outgoing girl....and he wants type of girl that is more reserved and housebound and looking after family and cooking.
I dont even get what is the main problem....still
Is that just this one thing that of the issue of u staying with his mum or not??
If it is that...we guys proposed u a solution that you could propose him a maid for your aunti, did you not think of a way of getitn that across?
Im sure in pakistan u cant get very cheap sevants/maids nowadays...or is money a prob?
2nd issue; was it that he cant keep u in dubai as he can not afford to keep u there yet?
I proposed solution which was that u shud convey is that u r prepared to living with him in basic low finacnial standard.
Girl...u must convey to him that your biggest need of this marriage is his love and closenes to him. Tell him u love him so much u cant stay away form him. And that the other problems that arise due to this, you ave already proposed the solutions....arnt they acceptable to him?/
try to convey to him these simple but main things to him calmly in an unproud way.
hopefully he wil consider
and...worst comes to worse if i have gussed coreectly these twor the only main issues, and the above advice i give which u implement respectfully, and he still does makesa fuss...
then maybe u shud calmly tell him that it it looks from his side he is not willing to make any comprimise from his side in the marriage showing minimal respect so maybe its better to call the marriage off.
Girl if he truly loves u, this shud give him a shock....he wont want to loose u ,and maybe this eye-opener wud wake him up.
and D.A i dunno if im corrcet but maybe u know the currnet distance betwen you guys can be contributing to the emotional distance and misunderstandings.
One more thing...D.A you are so mcuh able to do yourself.
This is big issue...especially the email he sent you....you need the help of someone else in the matter....Your parnets r ur parents....they love u at teh end of the day...u shud show them how upste you r and whts really goin on between u guys....and ask them to pls speak on ur behalf to them..
ther r ur parentz......if they tell u off at start or even if u have to beg...tell them just do it this once....for u...a last try to save your daugters marriage.
they..will..u gota trust ur parentz girl..
DONT HAVE TO SHOW FATHERTHE EMAIL BUT HAVE TO I TELLING U MUST CONVEY THEM IN DETAIL WHAT REALLY IS GOIN ON..UR HURT..DEPRSSED...U NEED THEM TO TALK TO HIS SIDE
What do u say d.a
Jaanwarr..dude yeh i know my post r getting too long..
bro u talk abut reading it...imagine..writng it....
This person really genuinely looks in trouble...who needs quality advice..helping some1 doesnt make u smaller.
*The way f...g dude is acting is something thats taking the piss. *
sometime peoples issues r so important on g.s cnt helped get sucked in
But u wnt see me going the marathon elsewhere..promise dat
: )