Thanx RV
But D.A
Try this. If your fiance asserts that you should respect his MIL and comprimise to care for her.
Then try this.
The same way he is also obligated to respect his FIL= your dad.
So get YOUR DAD to ring up, and voice his concerns for his daughter to him.
The issues are the same as you addressed him earlier, But now a higher perons is voicing it, and he is obligated to listen and to give tem importance.
Tell your father once again but to speak in a respectful manner.
SEE if he has respect for your father. SEE if hes willing to make some comprimise on wishes of his FIL.
Test the man if he lives up to his own MORALS/EHTICS of RESPECT AND OBIDIENCE FOR ELDERS?
Im telling you if hes a good guy, he should listen to your father.
Your father should tell him that it is his daughters desire to remain with her husband after marriage, and ofcourse this is how it should be.
Why can this not be? If the barrier is that his mum needs care, then again your father shud respectfully tell him that he is willing to employ a good nurse/maid for her.
If the the barrier is: hes not finacially able to keep u with him yet. Your father should again clamly tell him that she does hois daughter does not need riches she only needs 2 meals daily, a floor to sleep on, and her husband.
Tell him that she doesnt mind living primitivly until circumctanes get better but as long as she is living with her husbnad whos love is the main thing she needs to his money.
If you faince still does not agree to these very simple and resolving proposals, then im sory D.A but i think you fiance has got an EGO and CONTROL freak problem.
He and his mother as many a typical pakistani mentality, want to just do things to keep u UNDER THIER CONTROL.
Hes a possesive, chavaunistic typoe of man, who is willing to sacrifice his wifes rights over his mothers and it will probbaly continue after marriage.
And you can decide if this is the life you want.
It appears that his mum does not want you to be more closer to him and gain more control over him= she loses his control and power and bcomes less important.
And your whole life, or atleast a large time of your early marriage i think your mums dominating strategies will be always in action and you will always be supressed.
YOUR CHOICE.
GOD.IM NOT EVEN MARRIED AND I DNT GIVE MA MUM DAT MUCH RESPEKT