Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
^ My freind, Quran translation can make him more depressed. I have seen that many times.
Ozair needs to stay away from 'religious people' at this time sorry to say!
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
^ its normal. one initially gets depressed. they feel as if they are being dishonest.
Touching-Reading and the Reciting Quran is like getting honour of viewing-touching-analyzing “Kohi-noor”. Quran is really precious.
one really has to push themselves to Touch-Read-Recite Quran. they constantly have to make a dua to read it so they can get sakoon in their life, and be on the right path. ugh…so yeah one has to earn it. :sigh:
ps. i dont wana be mean, but ALLAH SWT dont let Munafaqeen’s use Quran in the ways those munafeeqeen’s want it to use.
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
aw buddy=( usually we dont get what we expect and its harder if our parents ignore us.
Be strong .Make it a habit to say salam with a friendly smileto ur class mates/uni mates even if u dont want to hangout with them.This is the easiest way to make pals quickly
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Ozair man. You chose to isolate yourself from people from a young age. You never learned how to interact with peers, never cared enough to share their company. Now that you grew up enough to realize your mistake, you get angry at them? This situation is not the fault of your peers.
You need to get yourself out of this shell you've created for yourself. Do it slowly. Observe how your peers dress. Observe how they interact. Model your dress and behavior accordingly. Then make very small forays into socializing until your confidence begins to grow. Maybe ask a classfellow "excuse me but what did the professor assign for us to read?" and if you get a polite answer, continue the conversation with "what do you think of this class/professor" etc etc. If the conversation oes well, maybe suggest going for tea.
Like I said, take it slowly. It took you years to build this shell of isolation around yourself so its going to take time to break out from it. But if you apply as much dedication to breaking this shell as you did to building it, you will be merrily on your way before you know it.
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Thank you all of you for your supportive and encouraging replys.. I am trying my best to concentrate on my studies as it is the only thing I am there for...
I wish I had someone that I could share my feelings and problems with... Its not easy but I should say it is very very difficult to just go to person and start a new relationship(friendship i mean here)... First semester is over here.. and my classmates have their own groups now..
Well... what I can do is to concentrate on my studies... for I am sent here only for this objective..
Thank you for your support..
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
You are most welcome and don't ever think of ending your life ever again. Even if you chose to ignore the Islamic aspect of suicide being haram, think of your parents etc and the people around you. It is easy to contemplate that without thinking of the consequences. You are a good kid and just focus on your studies and do what I told you to. Slowly you will change and it will be all right :)
Thank you all of you for your supportive and encouraging replys.. I am trying my best to concentrate on my studies as it is the only thing I am there for...
I wish I had someone that I could share my feelings and problems with... Its not easy but I should say it is very very difficult to just go to person and start a new relationship(friendship i mean here)... First semester is over here.. and my classmates have their own groups now..
Well... what I can do is to concentrate on my studies... for I am sent here only for this objective..
Thank you for your support..
you shud start ur own blog on gs, GS has a nice listening crowd.You will make pals in no time.Gs pals may be virtual but people here are nice=D
and iA u will do best in ur studies.goodluck
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
I hope you feel better soon Kurt Cobain.
Keep yourself occupied, and keep a good company if you can. Hangout with decent religious people if you can. And seek professional help, there is nothing wrong with that.
think of your parents etc and the people around you
People.... one thing I have learned in this world that people dont care about anyone here... everyone here are for their own benefits and relief.. no one gives a sh*t about anyone.... -.-
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
You are very wrong about that. I also thought like that, but by and by as time past by I found out that there are sincere people in this world who care for you and worry about you. Oh and if you are not lucky enough to find such people yet who love you unconditionally and your parents are not helping then look to Allah SWT and have faith in him.
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Chin up Ozair and a big hug from a distant sis! Will pray for you ! and start praying yourself.
Try and join drama classes , it will help with your confidence
Start going to the gym, will help with how you feel physically and think positive , anything bad happens think of the positive
People.... one thing I have learned in this world that people dont care about anyone here... everyone here are for their own benefits and relief.. no one gives a sh*t about anyone.... -.-
That may be. But there are people who do a lot for others.
Now, everyone is somewhat selfish in terms of looking out for his or her benefit.
Unfortunately, there are people who do not shy away from taking advantage of others.
Now what choices do you have?
Make friends for having relaxed good time.
Try to be realistic.
Don't be so gullible for people to take advantage of you.
Make efforts to continue to do everything for your benefit in acceptable way.
Watch for others not to hurt you but don't be paranoid. Just cautious.
Lastly, *help others, *(without getting yourself hurt).
I dont know.. but I have no more self-confidence.. even approaching people is extremly a difficult task for me... I think that I will annoy them(even I tried)...
I cant go anywhere.. not even in the cafe to get lunch because of people are everywhere and they notice me... my heart starts pounding...
I cant survive.... :'(
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
You need professional help my friend. You have severe clinical depression.
You can get over it. You need to take one step at a time.
When you started playing video games you had bad eye hand co-ordination and were frustrated in the beginning because you could go more than a few screens without getting killed or defeated.
You kept on trying and now you are able to get to the highest levels.
Treat life as a video game.
In the beginning , you will annoy some people , you might not be able to strike a conversation , you might not be able to reciprocate the friendship gestures of others , but with practice you will reach to highest level of friendship where you would be miserable without your friends around you.
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Ozair, I completely agree with Mirch. You are suffering from depression and "anthrophobia" (fear of people) and both are treatable conditions!!!
See a doc. There IS help and there is hope for you but you need to take that first step.
I dont know.. but I have no more self-confidence.. even approaching people is extremly a difficult task for me... I think that I will annoy them(even I tried)...
I cant go anywhere.. not even in the cafe to get lunch because of people are everywhere and they notice me... my heart starts pounding...
I cant survive.... :'(
Call a doctor, preferably a psychiatrist but any good local doctor or go to emergency. Call for help if you are at home.
Yes, this sounds like depression. As Mamao3 said it could be anthrophobia and agarophobia. But it does not matter.
There are medications for it and you may or may not need to stay at a hospital for few days.
Go see a doctor!
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Ozair one thing, a lot of peopel go through similar things.. maybe not at the same degree, but starting out anywhere.. new course, new school, new job... it feels relatively the same. That everyone is looking at you... everyone is staring at u...
Maybe approach some people in ur class.. or if ur sitting next to someone in a leture.. ask them what they think of the course.. just strike up a conversation.. doesnt have to be a serious one.. just to break the ice...
It seems all very daunting in the beginning.. but it gets easier once uve made the first move. Hey, u can even talk about video games? why not.. ? :)
Where abouts are you? In Pakistan?
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
I do not know about seeing a psychiatrist or getting professional help.... but I am trying to pray 5 times a day... however, kabhi namaz sakoon nahi mila....
my blood boils when seeing people happy with each other.. I HATE PEOPLE BEING EXCITED, HAPPY AND ENJOYING LIFE.... and I hate myself... I have tried very much and i am tired...
I am IGNORED....
Sooner or later... I will commit suicide...
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
^no, you won't. i wish i could talk to you in person. where do you live?
Re: feeling jealous and envious.. gone suicidal
Ozair you have got the best advice you could in this forum. I gave you advice in the terms you understand , video game language, you very conveniently ignore it. Did you open this account on these forum to write a suicide note ?
Are you for real so depressed ? Or you are just trolling around ?
If you are as depressed as you are saying , I have all my sympathies for you and would like to help you in any way I can.
If you wish I can talk to your parents and your elder brother/s to help you out.
You need help depressed or not, that is for sure.