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No the money needs to be here in a bank account as far as I know, for at least 6 months, so u cant just borrow it off someone to get a bank statement.
27 lakhs is about £16,000.

Just as a rough guide then say you are earning £12,500 then your shortfall is £12,500. So times by 2.5 and you need a savings of £31,250. Which is quite a lot of money, you basically need double the amount your husband has already saved. But this is only a rough guide.

Since you have a bit of experience and you have high level qualifications, I'm sure u will be able to find something over the minimum wage. As I said, look to c what is out there in your field. Also you can do short courses through open university and a lot of them are free. Just so you are up to date. You may need to come back and do some work experience first which will help you get a better job.

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You need to be earning over 18k a year and have a lot of savings in your account for you to be able to sponsor your husband. The waiting list for Pakistani nationals is very long. Someone I know from Mum's circle had to wait 1.5 years. So its not a months job. Having kids or being married for xyz makes no difference and doesn't speed anything up as far as I know.

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Also, you can't just transfer the 27k from your husbands PAK account into your UK account without declaring it to the tax man. Who will no doubt take a cut from it. So bear in mind you'll end up with less than what you bring over.

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Have had money sent over from Pak many times n no one has ever questioned it or taxed it.

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^ doesn't mean it won't ever get flagged up. Anyway, the onus is on you to declare it to HMRC. No ones going to 'tax' it until you declare it, which is what should be done with all income.

Anyway, back to Nadz...

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Nadz, I think the best think you should do is consult an immigration lawyer as only they can tell you the ins and outs of the law n rules of meeting the requirements of a spouse visa.

We can only tell u what we might know, but the laws are always changing and you need an expert.

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Nadz, go there, get a job, and sponsor your husband. It may take a year or 2 but you could go and visit or he could come. Truth is, most people would give an arm and a leg to leave Pakistan . You and your daughters are British nationals, you have British education, family back there, network etc. I would say give it a go, you have a great chance and yes, even without the law and order situation, there are other issues as well. This is the best chance you will have in a long time.

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Yepp generally I agree with the above post, but just be prepared to be patient in getting your husband over, you'll have to start from scratch in that you'll need to find a good job, make sure kiddies are settled at school, save like crazy, live in what now might be a overcrowded home (all ur fam), and the fact that you will be essentially a single parent for a bit whilst you do this.

It would of course be well worth it in the long run but not so great during the process. Hope you make a well informed decision Nadz x

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Nadz it WILL be difficult especially working full time with two kids, no home of your own and no husband to help out but if it's the right thing for you then all you can do is try your best. From reading your past posts I'm not too confident that you could stick to it but wish you all the best

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what about family of a settled person visa?

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It is an awful situation to be in. That's why I think the community and the current generation needs to avoid getting into such situations, this whole import export business has given birth to so many unhappy and unstable cousin marriages. The British Pakistani community needs to confront this bitter reality now, and fix itself. This is not just about you here, your whole situation feels so close to home, I wish I can give you some ignorant 'encouraging' advice for sake of it, and cheer your hip hopping between two countries.

Honestly speaking, I was being very serious when I said that a full time job and proper sense of responsibilities in UK will do you a huge personal favour. It will massively contribute towards some serious and much needed character building. You must come back. My advice to you is same as the advice I would give to people who are 'dying to get come out of Pakistan', life is not bed of roses here. Coming to these countries means hard work. It is as simple as that. Just stop feeding yourself with any feel good fantasies that your husband's visa would be authorised in a year or so because there is no such guarantee and later it will be who'll feel extremely betrayed and heartbroken, like you mostly do when things don't go your way.

In regards to transferring your husband's money into your UK account and taking it to immigration office, well don't exactly do that. You may have to declare that income, tell them how you acquired it and pay tax on it. Undeclared income and subsequent tax evasion is a crime in UK, and you can land yourself in some trouble if the immigration officer decides to ask you a simple yes or no question or they run a background check themselves. Moreover, if you claim benefits and have certain amount of money in the bank and if they find out about that, again you can get into some serious trouble. So get in touch with a good immigration lawyer, and do your research.

Once you've taken a decision, please stick to it. You really need to decide whether six whiny months without husband here, and one whiny year with husband over there is the way to live your life with two young children.

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yes i have thought long and hard. husband feels long term uk is a better choice than pakistan. you never know when he situation here gets severe. maybe it already is.

long term solution is mainly for kids sake. nothing else. not me.

the process maybe tough but maybe long term is better. this is the time to come back. later maybe too late.

and for some reason peoples replies here seem to point out that i hink immigration is a pieace of cake. i do know its not.

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Nadz university ke bahir beth kar Masters degree li thii ;)
j/k

Was that really necessary?

Nadz if you feel it is the right decision to come back to the UK for the sake of your kids then do it. Youl need to come back and no doubt work your socks off but inshallah once youre here and savjng and in the flow of it all your hubbys visa will get processed also. Just dont expect it to be done asap think it through and plan it out. And stick to your decision

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Nadz has made questionable choices yes, and can be infuriating in her threads, but mocking her education, even in jest, is uneccesary and mean

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first, all you could think about was moving back to the UK and was upset about not being able to go. now, that wish is about to come true, and all of a sudden you don't want to go. being this undecissive is not an option in a situation such as picking up your bags and moving to another country.

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Naz i have read ur posts for a long time. I think if you now have the ability to move to britian do it for ur family.

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I spoke.to a friend who works in a immigration law firm and is a trainee there.

She said it should be okay. In her experience once wage slips for 6 months are issued the visa is granted pretty much.

Obviously the getting the job part is the main deal

Sigh

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I dont know when you are leaving but if its soon ( or even if its not) then you should start applying now from Pakistan to as many places as you can in the UK. This way you may even have a few interviews lined up after you land there.