Re: feeling guilty overwhelmed and sad
Really? You think that the whole immigration process will bend the rules just for you on the basis that you have children? Doesn’t matter whether you’re newlyweds or in your situation, rules are rules and you need to accept that you will need to come to the UK with your children alone initially until you find a job with the minimum salary requirement in order to sponsor your husband when such time comes. I won’t even start on the accomadation requirements that you’ll need to satisfy an Entry Clearance Officer on.
I don’t understand why THIS isn’t stressing you out more than upsetting your FIL over something that realistically isn’t exactly going to happen overnight anyway.