Feeling extremely hurt!!!

[Chameli420]

Re: Feeling extremely hurt!!!

@hereforu124

after reading all the posts i dont think you need any sympathy… i agree with “redvelvet” you get over hurt…

plus i think somehow you have got yourself involved in this mess and it is your responsibility to clear up things whether you wana be friends with her or not… as you said she never had a muslim friends before so you are the one setting standards for her… i think its your ethical responsibility to clear up with her… if she dont believe after all the efforts then so be it… but you cant leave this as it is…

Also you are confused in yourself and sorry if you think i am being harsh but in one post you said you consider her like your sister but then you say that you dont have to be friends with her etc etc…

if you do think her that close and care about this relation then i think you clear up the mess and make her realize that you are not at fault… but if you say you dont care if you stay friends with her or not then you never had any sincere friendly feelings towards your friends anyway… but whatever the case is i think you should clear up or atleast try … and stop being hurt … its a cheap way of asking for sympathy !!!

Well sorry to dissapoint you but I didnt post here to get sympahty. just wanted to get things out of my system and aslo get some feedback from other guppies on how I potentially can deal with this situation.
Moreover I have NOTHING to do with the situation between her and the wife of the family friend other than I happen to know this girl and the wife wanted me to talk to her and called me. Despite all her accusations I did tell her that my friend isnt like that and if the wife still e-mails her stating that I have said that stuff i dont really see how I have involved myself in this mess!

With regards to looking at someone as your sister and than deciding that you dont have to be her friends anyway, its not like I or anyone else in my sitution have to stick to this for lifetime as one has to see what that relationship is bringing to you and to her. What I have realized through this experience is that she isnt exactly what I expected to her and I dont need to bring in that toxic relationship to my life at a time when I am expecting a baby and would rather focus on my baby!

If you think that one should stick to friends no matter what happens and no matter how they deal with you, you ca do that, but I dont believe that its healthy!