feeling depressed ........, what shud I do now :S

[kaun]

@Inaya

No I’m not thick, take a look at yourself first love.

Anyway to the OP, his sisters obviously came first to check you out so they could ‘report’ back to his mother. This is how I’ve often seen it work. It’s not always the parents that first turn up but female members of the family that start the initial process and do ‘investigation’ and then obviously involve the Father and other males when it comes down to actually asking about the rishta etc. When my friend from uni got engaged he got his sisters to meet his gf and her Mother and sisters first to see what they all thought of each other before he even got his parents involved. Before you start to despair I think you should keep in mind the fact that this guy does obviously want to marry you because if he didn’t he wouldn’t bother meeting your family or even sending any of his family members to your house. Lets be real about this no one in this day and age has the time or inclination to do ‘natak’ of just sending family around and pretending to do rishta if they are not actually serious about marriage. He obviously does want to marry you because if he didn’t he could just turn around and tell you to get lost, why would he involve his family and get them to see you?

It’s a totally different matter that his mother doesn’t approve, probably because she wanted to hand pick her daughter in law. I don’t see how any of this is his fault, if anything he is the one caught in the middle. Leave it to him to convince his Mother and if he can’t then he will either marry you without his parent’s approval or he will forget the whole thing. There is not much YOU can do, this is his choice to make. I wish you all the best, if he is in your kismat then he will be yours no matter what.

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my point exactly, thanks.

MB all i am saying is i am putting myself in the guys shoes and i am defending him because if i am not serious about a girl i wont even bother talking to my family about her let alone sending my sisters there, it shows clearly that the mom had a disagreement with the fact that he likes a girl and the sisters most probably supported the brother and thus decided to go and talk to the family and maybe it is just the mom who is against and that is the case in most instances, no where did the SWEET mention that the guy is not trying or has given up, on the other hand i dont agree with the notion either that the girl should marry him blindly as the mum is already disagreeing and its only going to get rough as every mom wants to choose her daughter in law and generally doesnot like her aankhon ka taara choose someone himself but i still do not agree with you saying the guy is not serious based on SWEETS post :k: