Daer All guppies
I have seen u guys are very frndly n helping, Here I want to share some personal issues n looking fwd for ur wise advices/ views
I am in a long-term relationship with sumone, we know each other very well since 2004, we have Mashallah great understanding. We both love each other and want to marry seriously
He with this intention has also visited my mother once n let her knew abt his seriousness for me. My mother also liked him and advised him to come along with his parents / elders, so that she can consider him seriously for me n she cud talk to my dad.
As he is not on same land, he went abroad for 1yr after this meeting, he visited my home wen he was on vacations back in Pakistan.
After a year, he came to attend his sister’s wedding,Invited me n my family aswell so that our families cud meet, but my mother forbid again to attend it before he send a proper proposal
During n after the wedding I some how felt that he is ignoring me or so, but I didn’t complain thinking he wud b busy in the wedding n all, also he had established new business, that cud be the reason of being more busy
But after some days wen wedding was over, even then he I felt being ignored, n I cudnt hold, I just texted him complaining that “u r ignoring me, u must have got sumone else in ur life n now u have no more interest in me, blab la bla ” in short very harsh word I said, but he responded me calmly that I m thinking wrong , its nothing like that, he ws busy in work n arrangements n all
Then I started backing off from him, n he felt it as well that I wasn’t texting him, neither called him, so it might happen that he realized his mistake. I was offended cuz till that time hi didn’t send his parents to my home. N it was a natural feeling, I cudnt help saying all that. :S
I think by my this attitude he got what I want, with in a week he called me n said that my family is coming to meet ur family n to see me. I was just so shocked cus I wasn’t expecting all that from him that early, but he became a real gentleman to me then, n I was so glad
His family came on just 8hrs notice, we arranged every possible arrangement that we cud make in that short time.
Then he called that only his 3 married sisters are coming to see me. Well they arrived, my sis, mother myself met them, only the eldest sis was lively n talking to my sis n mom, n 3rd one was just laughing for no reason, I felt so bad but I ignored.
They were asking about me n my family, as generally talking my sis also stated that we were so rich but our dad got ditched in business n so we got too much financial loss, n now we are just middle class, she was just talking generally, that’s it
After that meeting, next day was his flight, he didn’t talk to me, neither at night nor wen flying. I got so tensed, he only texted me that I m flying now. :S
After few days he called me n said there is a big mess that his family is creating, his mother whom I’ve never met is saying No for me, n his sisters are saying ask mother for the reason of rejection. They don’t kno anything. he narrated what happened that day after his sisters got home
"wen he asked remarks abt me sisters said that me n my family are ok; but wen next morning (at the time of flight) he asked his mother, she said NO :S”
This gives the perfect picture that his mother who didn’t even met me once is against just in 1night bcz his sister’s must have said bad abt me n my family. He wen called me said that this was the reason he was not in favour of his family to interfere in our relation, he knw his family very well, he even asked me to elope before sum time but I laughed at this idea, but now I can see how his family is. :S
His mother is not even giving any reason 4 denying, or rejecting me. I think she don’t want his daughter in-law who is a choice of his son, she must fear to loose his son or so…… or she don’t want daughter In-law from a middle class family as my sister explained them :S, she might be greedy
I m so tensed these day, kept praying every time, I hope he will take stand for me against his family,
What should be the solution for this issue, how can I handle things, I m lost now, :S. What u guys think what shud I do in this regard, plz pray 4 me, I cant see life without him
