I have read alot of posts in this particular forum for the past year or so..and i love the advice that alot of you have given in the past. I would appreciate any advice from all of you re: my situation. I feel so lost, helpless, hopeless and just want to cry..i dont know what to do…
I am a well educated desi girl, who is 33yo. I started my matrimonial search a little late in life…around 28yrs of age, due to alot of reasons…ambition, career (medical professional) and then the passing of my father..which took me along time to deal with..still miss him alot, every single day.
Initially, i met alot of " Mr Wrongs", but finally i have met someone who i am compatible with. We care about eachother and get along fabulously. We are of the same caste, religion, nationality, one year apart in age, double degree holders i mean there isnt anything flawed in the fundamentals. But this is where there is a huge issue, esp with my mom, and that is he shaves his head. The reason he does is because it is thinning and he states that at some point he will grow it out for me. My mother cant get past it, she refuses to meet him until he grows it. Then she states that hes not good enough for me or that i am so inept that i cannot find anyone good enough to meet my mom’s standards. I dont know what to do, i feel that my mother doesnt understand where i am coming from. I want to get married, i want to have children i want to live my life with him, and its frustrating me to no end..i dont know what to do, should i listen to my mom and start over again, i dont want to disrespect or hurt my mother. But i care about him and i want to spend my life with him, but i dont want to lose my family.
On the other hand i am upset with him, the reason he isnt growing it..is because he wants to be accepted for who he is (though he promises me, after i say yes to him, when he proposes, he will grow it out) and he doesnt want to set a precedent that allows my mom to dictate to him..he says he cares about me..wants to be with me..but he wont grow out his hair even if i ask him to meet mom..
i am frustrated, upset, i feel like my life is becoming a huge joke..if my mom doesnt like anyone i find..then why doesnt she help me? I am 33 and despite having it all..i dont have anything…sorry i just needed to get that off my chest…plz help me..i know this sounds absurd..but have any of u guys faced that same issue…substitute the hair for anything else that wasnt acceptable or that was lacking..
thanks in advance…i am miserable and honestly feel like giving up and living my life alone…
