Hey guys
Thought i would give u an update. Unfortunately, its not a positive one. I am back home visiting mom. I have been home for the past week and intermittently the conversation swings to marriage. Apparently, everyone and their nani is getting married, either family members or ppl that we know.
I feel that my mom will eventually come around..but what if she doesnt?
What if i am making a mistake going against my mom ( i know it sounds illogical, i am an educated woman, but why would a parent want to hurt their own kid?)
In my heart i know that what i am doing isnt wrong. I feel that i have reached a crossroads and i feel that if i get what i want…i wont be entirely happy, but if i dont go ahead with this and listen to my mother, i will have to start all over again and what if i dont find someone as wonderful as him? i still wont be happy.
More than anything, i needed to vent, i have no desi friends to talk to about this..and i appreciate ur time..
Wow…im so sorry to hear this.
Yes ure right…typically parents are supposed to love you no matter what and want the best for you. Unfortunately parents are human too and even ore unfortunate, you get some people who don’t have a single parenting-bone in their body…yes they are bad parents.
Your mother sounds selfish nutjob and ur sister sounds like a jealous two faced person.
You have to let yourself be rational and logical, and accept that you are in your 30s, single, and have found yourself a decent guy. You have to become stronger and not let comments from your mother and sister hurt you so much.
And if you really like that guy, don’t think of him as an imperfect-jawaii.
U know how there are some MILs who think a bahu will never be good enough for her darling son? There are mothers of daughters who think the same way, that a guy will never be good enough for her daughter.
Good luck.