fed up??????

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Ne one know of ne duas or nething to recite,

Nothing working hubby n I keep arguing I’m always in the wrong can’t seem to do anything right

I get so angry completely stressed ..,

Please no jokes as can’t really seem to bare them at mo

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Seek couselling yo. Know this couple who has gone through problem and this helped them much..

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what you argue over?

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You can't bare them??? Jeez, i have no idea how to solve this problem.

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Read "Ya Rafehoo"

Inshallah you'll feel better. Tasbeeh karo, khulli

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:omg:

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Namaz-e-hajaat & then dua :)

May ALLAH solve all your problems Ameen.

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Don't start an argument when he's already angry or tired.

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once you identify whats wrong you can and hould handle. Just calm yourself, stop and think where and what is wrong. It is usually women (well yes) who are quicker to ruin the relationhip because of their hastiness and hyper sentimentality. Only if we could work out our confusions and insecurities, thing could have been much easier to handle.

As for wazeefa, I have no idea. Well I think Allah hears when we call Him, in whatever way or language. I hope what dems suggested may work for you.

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Can't help much without know the whole situation other than praying for peace in your household. Ameen.

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10 times Bismillah-ir-Rehman-ar-Rahim. recite it when you go infront of him with strong belief! It will InshAllah work.

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Just remember

No problem can be solved in heated argument no matter what. One thing you can do (if you feel that argument is going in wrong direction) is to walk away and do something that you like..... watching drama.....cooking....eating....shopping ...whatever floats your boat. Once both of you are cooled down, you can address it better.

One more thing that might sound like a old school but NEVER start and argument as soon as hubby enters home after 8 hours at work (or as soon as you enter the home after long day at work). Chances are that it will go in wrong direction.

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Amen to what D6C said.

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  • salat-e-tahajjud
  • read ch 25- verse 74
  • stop making argument, lets take his pov from now.
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do YOU think you can never do anything right or does he tell you that u can never od anything right?

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Thanks for the replies I feel that I can't do ne thing write I've turned into a complete house wife for him yet he's still not satisfied

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Not being able to do something right is different than not being able to do something to HIS liking. You should realize this and make him realize it too.

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what would an independent outsider think
e.g. one person may think they are cleaning the house properly.
they other may feel that it is not cleaned properly

question then becomes , how does what is being done compare to sensible standards?

because if that is not used as a reference point then it becomes a question of preferences and could never be solved unless one or both back off fuming rather than adjust based on resetting expectations.

good pal of mine from college days complained to me that her husband companied that she does not cook well enough and since she is not working, the expectation is that she will be cooking most of the meals. her complaint was that he is not happy with her cooking, and she has tried to do better but nothing pleases him. I had to give her the bad news that her cooking was atrocious and what she may want to do is learn 5-6 recipes that her husband likes and cook them properly and that should solve it. There was egoi and tears, and i was called a chauvinist pig, but when all was said and done and she did what I told her, guess what...complaints ended too. Had she been cooking well and had same issues then it would have been a diff thing.

so ladies, and gents...you may feel you are doing things right, but step back and ask yourself, are you.

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to be honest with you. it is biggest dilemma of desi wife.

if you need his attention you need to visit victoria secret etc. and spice up your married life.

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yea i was wondering the same thing sara516 asked.........it would help if you were a bit more clear

is he flexible? you really haven't told much about yours and your hubby's personalities, why do the arguments start?