…why dont people admit their feelings? if you like someone… why not just say it? is it fear of rejection? is it an ego issue… what is it?
there’s just too many desis out there and here who have ‘lost’ a loved one… because they havent been able to confess… and that is one of the reasons why there are so many single desis out there at the age of 25+ who are still looking for that special someone..
Note: pls do not bring ‘what is love’ into the discussion… thanx and naaaahin i dont want people to come and tell me they love me..
i think its many things which def include the fear of getting rejected. I mean come to think of it... it would really break a person if they liekd some1 and that person rejected them.. its hurts the ego, the heart, an it def.. to some extent hurts the spirit...
but personally i rathar kno if it could happen or ot rathar than wonder the rest rest of my life.. what couldve been ..
yeah exactly Devilicious... i would rather know than wonder forever..
i personally think if you do confess, its better... if u lose the friendship, its their loss.. if you end up being even better friends (even if they dont love u back), its still ur gain....
i know fear of rejection is the worst thing possible... but living without knowing is even worst..
Life forum this one :) and yes for the guys (from the guys I know) its an ego thing and for the gals its a desi thing - they expect the guy to be the one to say it.
sadzz, things usually get very awkward afterwards.. hurt, feeling of rejection, the guilt of not having same kind of feelings for that person.. things just arent the same anymore.
i think its just the desi mentality..... i know desi guys are always scared to go and talk to girls, and the girls are too shy to approach the guys... so in the end everyone ends up being alone, even though the guy and the girl are aware that they both like each other... most of the time they do nothing about it...
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*Originally posted by lyallpur larka: *
i think its just the desi mentality..... i know desi guys are always scared to go and talk to girls, and the girls are too shy to approach the guys... so in the end everyone ends up being alone, even though the guy and the girl are aware that they both like each other... most of the time they do nothing about it...
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tell me bout it.....
im proud of people who actually admit it... it takes a lot of guts. Most of the times its girls who do end up admitting it... and i think its great. Why die wondering?
Hmm...well I had a friend who admitted his feelings for me..and after that we just never talked again..besides the fact that he went away...but it broke our friendship..coz he said that his intention was always to be "mine" and he became friends so that he coudl get close to me...I dunno it felt wierd...I never looked at him that way and the fact that he had all these thoughts in his head about me..marriage..kids and all that...actually disgusted me...
I feel that you can'tmke someone "fall in love with you"..."it" has to already be a present feeling..from those first few words of conversation...thats how I see it...when you meet the ONE you JUST KNOW.
i agree with u sadzzz… one should just confess of his/her feelings… the person on the other end might be just waiting to hear it.
i dont know if anybody else has gone thru this or not, lekin i feel that its always the guys that im not interested in, that come tell me how they feel.
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*Originally posted by lastknightess: *
I feel that you can'tmke someone "fall in love with you"..."it" has to already be a present feeling..from those first few words of conversation...thats how I see it...when you meet the ONE you JUST KNOW.
Hope i make sense...
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you definitely can not make a person fall in love with u, or urself for someone else zabardasti...
lekin how do u know when u meet the ONE? wat if YOU feel he is the ONE lekin he is not even thinking in those avenues?
sigh... matters of the heart!!
hehe yeah i know what u mean… well when i was younger id run away from guys who confessed or showed any remote interest… now i just accept it and help them thru it… as in show them the bad side of me instead.. hehe
hey LK u make perfect sense… yes there are some wierdos out there.. but i was kinda referring to… hmmm actually i dont know what i was referring to… what i mean to say is.. its good to admit it.. sometimes u lose and sometimes u gain in many different ways
you definitely can not make a person fall in love with u, or urself for someone else zabardasti...
lekin how do u know when u meet the ONE? wat if YOU feel he is the ONE lekin he is not even thinking in those avenues?
sigh... matters of the heart!!
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Reemy..I think that BOTH will feel the same way :)
you definitely can not make a person fall in love with u, or urself for someone else zabardasti...
lekin how do u know when u meet the ONE? wat if YOU feel he is the ONE lekin he is not even thinking in those avenues?
sigh... matters of the heart!!
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all you have to do is spend some time together...be good friends, and it becomes quite obvious, if the other person likes to be with you or not, or as a matter of fact, he or she, likes you as a person or not. And if they are not seeing anyone else....u can defn go ahead with the question.
many a types...rejections come cause the ur not of her type...well you got a see, whose ur type, y go for someone whom u cant handle.
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*Originally posted by lyallpur larka: *
i think its just the desi mentality..... i know desi guys are always scared to go and talk to girls, and the girls are too shy to approach the guys... so in the end everyone ends up being alone, even though the guy and the girl are aware that they both like each other... most of the time they do nothing about it...
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i think sometimes its better to keep quite!
not just for the friendship but also for yourself.
i have been in that situation and now think, retrospectively, it was better that neither one of us said anything...we are both great friends now and shall remain as such!
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im proud of people who actually admit it... it takes a lot of guts. **Most of the times its girls who do end up admitting it...* and i think its great. Why die wondering?
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Really? In your experience, it has been mostly gals who have admitted this? wow that's interesting.. i thought it was the other way around for some reason.
and naaaahin i dont want people to come and tell me they love me..
