There is this person whom I love more than anything in the world. The thought of losing him with each passing moment is just unbearable. But sometimes facts are undeniable. I wish I had a magic wand to perform miracles. But alas! Somone up there is calling the shots, not you.
Has such thing happened to you? How do you deal with it? I am trying to look for a silver lining but cant find one. Life can be so unfair at times. Dont you think?
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not life but ppl might be ...
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yeah life is just like your avatar..........(Saby)
take that person in your arms ... feel the warmth and you ll feel better
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Give it some time. With distance a situation comes into perspective and you see in a totally different way. This may be a good thing for you. Or Fate is directing you to something or someone else.
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yeah exactly saima
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We all have our ways of dealing with this fear. My younger brother is all over my mother almost 24/7 and has become extremely protective of her. That is his way of dealing with fear of losing her. There's no easy way of dealing with this kind of fear, just love them and spend as much time with the person as possible. Have faith.
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wait is she complaining about
someone's health ? wat i thought
or
bf cheker ? wat barbie meant
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Excuse me?? Read my post again. Unless I change my orientation, I wont worry about a guy relationship wise.
For those who are thinking on same lines, this is NOT about girl issues. Improve your reading skills. 
HIM, HIM, HIM.
poora satyanaas maar diya 
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whatever saby....... life doesnt stop.... has to move on and on and on......... HIm or Her
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Ah! That puts a new twist into this matter. Now is the time for PCG to come for some desi-male bashing.
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Life moves on but you missed my post altogether. It was not about ‘oh he is mad at me’ kind of relationships. It is about my younger brother. So before you ask me to ditch and bla bla, make sure you read what I posted.
Now we are talking. You are right, theres no easy way to deal with it. Only less difficult ones.
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oh now i get it.......
i am extremely sorry........ whats the matter..... is he fine..
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Saby, enjoy each day you have with him...don't think about the future, cherish the present.
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I agree…it’s not in ur hands so there’s no point wasting time worrying about something u cannot control…just enjoy the moments you have NOW and leave the rest up to Allah.
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Saby, we'll all have to go one day.....its just a matter of time. I know it must be hard losing someone so close to you but I pray Allah gives u the patience to deal with it. Just remember that Allah never puts a burden on us which is greater than we can take....see it as a test. Im sure you will deal with it well because you seem like a strong person.
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giving advice at this point is always easier than taking it saby, but Im going to ahead since you posted this thread.
when you're in this situation that your brother is in, most of your thoughts are for your family, and how they are going to deal with this situation. you feel almost guilty for putting them through so much pain, and that adds to the anxiety of not being able to live out what you've planned for yourself. what you can do is not add to his worries by feeling sick about how you would deal with it, even if you hide your worry from him it shows. should the time come Khuda na khwasta, you will have to deal with it anyway, shield him from that at this point.
show him your love without showing your grief.
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when it happens to you its very hard to deal with, to be honest you never actually deal with it . Sometimes even the strongest of us can just crumble and be scared . But its ok we are human beings. Life is so short and unpredictable. WE crave for things we "want" but when you look at your life again, you realise you have everything you need. Its the people who matter most to you that make your life what it is. It is really nice that you are grateful of this.
All I can say is you are correct in what you say. It is only Allah mia that can perform miracles. In the meantime, you can only pray for your miracle to happen. Have faith and inshallah everything will be ok.
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p.s. Life can seem unfair to you right now. When someone looks at your life and notices that you have something that she/he doesn't have, that person thinks god look how lucky that person is. My life is so unfair.
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is someone dying? If that’s the case…let me relate an incident.
Maulana Mohammad Ali Johar was in jail when he recieved a letter informing him of his daughters death. Upon reading, he said:
tumhari zindagi thi to hamein bohot pyaari
magar Usse nahin manzoor, to hamein bhi nahin manzoor