Re: Fear of losing someone
Re: Fear of losing someone
hi saby. i can relate to your situation as i have been in a similar one. its hard and the feeling leaves you wondering whether its destiny or something else. theres only one thing that helped me a great deal and it was istakhara. hope it helps you x. all i can say is that... sometimes what we wish for isnt necessarily good for us. believe in Allah.. He will make it easier. He knows best. everyone enters and leaves your life for a reason. Wish you happiness and peace xx
Re: Fear of losing someone
it is very very tough!! But then time is a great healer. I still remember my grandmother when she was healthy, then lying in the hospital bed all helpless. Those images don't go away and the pain is always there. You learn to move on with time but yes, it still hurts when you think about it.
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I know exactly what you are talking about Saby, I have been going through same thing for last 4 years and still it is difficult to find the silver lining. The truth of the matter is you can't because we are brought up in a manner to go for somthing we don't have and want something that we can achieve. The relationships that are already present, we usually take'em for granted. Sometimes things go out of hand and we over react or under and when those relationships or people are gone we know what we have lost - probably forever.
It is deeply painfull...shatters your heart in millions of pieces. I can say time will heal but to be honest as a person who is going through the same sh*t it doesn't, my friend. You need to know that it is reality and that's it...may be next time you'll see the present relationships differently and life too.
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Its easy to give advice but all the advice in the world doesnt prepare somone for the worst...when something happens...its always going to hurt...
The posters are right in saying that you should make sure that the moments that you do have i spent enjoying moments with your brother rather than worrying...
Dont waste the precious time that you have...
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Barbie-- Its okay. You misunderstood, it happens :-)
cat-woman-- well yeah thats one way of looking at it. and I am trying to do so but sometimes it isnt that much of a successful try.
KashmiriRainDrops-- well I am not worrying that its not in my hands. I am just whinning (If i dare use this word) that why it isnt in my hands.
Impulse-- thats a nice message. Thanks for that. But I am not questioning the inevitablity of death either.
ravage-- Thats a great post buddy. but I cant see from his perspective and there is a reason to that.
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Masoomlarki-- truer words have been seldom said. We indeed crave for what we want but forget what we have and when something slowly taken away from us, only then we realize their true worth.
Sharabi-- That Mohammal Ali Jouhar quote is very impressive.
Serena-- I dont know how istikhara is applicable here? 
thanks for your wishes though.
Rukhsar-- You nailed it with your images thing. Thats how I recall people I have lost touch or contact.
Man with a plan–I didnt know you can make this much sense. Very true pal. Very true. We do take things for granted.
Naughty Nature-- Nah, I dont miss any moment. Thats not me. I usually make time to spend time with people I love but the thought that maybe in an year or two or three, he might be gone, is just too errrrrrrrr..
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like rukhbibi said, time is the biggest healer. u dont forget them ever but they will always be in ur heart. the intensity of the pain decreases with time as life goes on. try to spend as much time as u can with them, make the memories pleasant for urself and for them and pray.
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I think we all have a fear of losing our loved ones…it’s inevitable, we r all gona go and yea it’s not fair and we all whine or think about it from time to time…i hate to say it but sometimes the only way i try to not let those thoughts consume me is to, avoiding thinking about it at all…it’s better for the other person concerned too…i just try to think positive and when those times come in my life i will feel the pain and let myself grieve…won’t ever forget them but gotta keep living my life cos that’s wot they wud want too.
suroor_ca02 said it well…