*That's your definition of taking care physically! What about the emotional/psychological needs of women? *
theres nothing definite as emotional and psychological needs. these are created by women themselves n shud learn to cope with em instead of enforcing their attitudes on the world.
What about in sickness and in health?
Do i need to enlist every responsiblity of a husband??? picking up children from school etc.
*Or does that only apply to where these sick minded people seem to 'think' they are getting the affection from? *
u are equally sick minded to judge all the people as such..
*Usually, involves a cheating/lying man who is busy elsewhere giving/receiving affection to have this kind of attitude and not one who realises that he has to answer to Allah (SWT) and will be raised with half his body if he is unjust to his wife by deceiving and distributing his love elsewhere. *
yes u r god's secretary. u can see right thru everyone.
If you'r not happy/in love/don't get affection then get out of the damn shamless marriage, after all why earn more guna/sin by living a LIE? The poor woman (wife) can get PROTECTION by your definition of the word through police/neighbours and i.e, a passer by can help her lift the shopping that she cannot life ALONE!
agreed. lieing has to be done cuz u women are not understanding. whenever a man raises the issue of remarrying hes tagged as a playboy. the whole society loathes him.
*Ha ha ha! So, THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE! Problem with people like that is they are busy having fun and pretending to be NEEDY and neglecting their kids/wife's needs in the process of pursuing 'the love of their life'! *
yea men hav no right to have a peace of mind in their lives. on coming home after working their arses at work they shud be greated with never ending complaints of their spouses.
*Shame on these men for giving grief to these poor women/inoncent children. Inshallah each shall be held accountable on the day of judgement, people can deceive each other by saying wife was selfish/had an attitude but at the end of the day its the man with an attitude as he wants to have his wife/kids as well as the 'person that is the love/lust of his life'. *
yea screw these bloody jerks.
Why put the poor wife/kids through this misery? Release the poor woman so she too can find happiness! Or does that hurt his ego? To know that there maybe someone better out there for his wife?
kids get the suffering from both ends. they are lead to believe that their father is evil n is going for lust etc. etc. by mothers like u zarra08. n the poor kids then have to see their non-understanding mom wailing and crying and going hysterical instead and not understanding the root cause of the problem.
These kind of people would do well to support the family they already have before contemplating on ruining another woman's life and creating messed up children so that the society has to suffer the consequences. Children from unstable family life have a tendency to turn to crime/drugs. They go out looking for love/attention that their father was busy distributing elsewhere!
yea children trun smtime turn to what u ve written just cuz of the emotional drama that a women stages blaming out the OTHER WOMAN. and the husband who is many times having a hard time with the woman.
The only person to benefit from this aproach would be the selfish man marrying for LUST as you put it and putting the strain on society. Islam talks about controlling the nafs/desires.
again wrong. what about the molvi hazraat who get the ppl married. the mathai walas and the beauty parlors where the OTHER women get dresses.
I really do hope that women learn to stand up to these jerks and express themselves rather than becoming submissive. Or even worse subdued under the banner of Islam into believing that they are doing good......meanwhile the husband don't even fulfill the rights of Allah by praying or giving zakat! We are living in the times of when ignorance is prevailing over religious matters and this is one of those matters where the non-practising muslim men seem to think they have the upper hand!
you shud go over to that village in India where theres a festival in which women beat husbands with brooms cuz thats how you think all men are meant to be treated.
you need to relax. poor u. u seem to have been bitten by sm incident involving "that jerk of a man". cuz everything you say revolves around lust n glamor n glitz. n for once i will agree with u. cuz there are some men like u defined. but FOR THE HUNDREDTH TIME LISTEN GIRL everyones not alike. :)
these Jerks are the one who rise up to the surface cuz the are abs besharam n dont care what the society thinks of them. :) as far as innocent men are concerned they simply cannot turn to polygamy cuz of how it is perceived in our society n would lead all their poor lives coming home to wives that wud treat them like ****.
*That's your definition of taking care physically! What about the emotional/psychological needs of women? *
theres nothing definite as emotional and psychological needs. these are created by women themselves n shud learn to cope with em instead of enforcing their attitudes on the world.
Ah! excuse me whose the one enforcing their attitudes/needs/desires on the world? The man for wanting to fulfill his sexual/emotional need for love/affection/lust!He should learn to cope with em instead of traumatising his family/inoncent kids and putting a strain on society! PURE GREED ON HIS BEHALF AND DAMN THE WOMAN FOR WANTING A BIT OF TLC!
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What about in sickness and in health?**
Do i need to enlist every responsiblity of a husband??? picking up children from school etc.
So, in your own words taking care in sickness requires doing the school run! That is your parental responsibility towards the children and not to the wife! You really need to get out of that paindoo/backward mentaility,cuz even paindoo men tend to nurse their wives back to health rather than using the lame excuses you give!
Ha ha ha! How selfish eh? Like men are the only ones created with emotional/psychological needs which involve taking another wife to satisfy those urges of well as you put it love and affecction/needs. People with this attitude need to get a life and respect the needs of their spouse!
yea children trun smtime turn to what u ve written just cuz of the emotional drama that a women stages blaming out the OTHER WOMAN. and the husband who is many times having a hard time with the woman.
LOL, its the husbands DRAMA to have the other SLUT that the children witness and see their mothers being emotionally blackmailed and physically battered day in day out and turn to crime etc. The husband has a choice to divorce the woman, why doesn't he? If he hates her so much, can't bear her, has to lie to her, whilst yearning for this other IDEAL WOMAN when he is with her?BE A MAN AND DO THE DECENT THING! GET OUT OF HER LIFE! EVEN A SNAKE WOULD LEAVE THE VICTIM ALONE AFTER TAKING A BITE!
again wrong. what about the molvi hazraat who get the ppl married. the mathai walas and the beauty parlors where the OTHER women get dresses.
Again distributing the wife/children's rightful haq to anyone and everyone to please that IDEAL WOMAN! Its all done to get access to her em......so who benefits the man of course!
you need to relax. poor u. u seem to have been bitten by sm incident involving "that jerk of a man". cuz everything you say revolves around lust n glamor n glitz. n for once i will agree with u. cuz there are some men like u defined. but FOR THE HUNDREDTH TIME LISTEN GIRL everyones not alike. :)
**You need to relax too, as you seem to be advocating on behalf of someone who is caught in that situation where he knows deep down that he is being unfaithful to his wife by lying and cheating to her/kids and Allah. And is forcing the wife to live an empty/hollow life whilst he can have the love/lust of his life.
** *I work as a social worker and have to clear a lot of the mess these jerks make. Your right everyone is not like that, there are some men who tell the women during the intitial proposal that they would want to remarry later and the woman can say no to marrying that man end of! Not, like the jerks you mention/defend for lying and cheating to their wives/children. They usually marry these women under false pretences, thinking they can trap them later by giving them a few kids.As it would make her weak and she would not leave him and he can have the other woman as well. I have a problem with that attitude and the attitude you have portrayed about the above points. Gold help your wife/kids if you live by those principles......as men with that mentality never find peace/happiness in their lives and ruin others lives too! *
I am done with this thread!