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When your sister and mother are looking for girls, they're not looking for what you're attracted to. They're just looking for a preconceived notion of beauty. But you need to be attracted to your wife. It's a really important part of your marriage. Few women would be happy in a marriage where their inlaws find them more attractive than their husband does.
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Dushwari i agree that those people who are a bit over weight or not that smart are blessed with motivational partners.
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As kind of an outsider to arranged marriages, I have to point out that you really dont have much to go on other than physical attraction yeah? You DO get to see what the intended looks like but you really dont get to KNOW them well. So its only natural to go by physical attractions. And while 170 is definitely not obese, its not thin either. IDK, in my opinion, there might be more attractions if the couples were allowed more freedom to know each other kwim? If there were a gal that was rejected for being a bit too heavy well maybe she'd be accepted if they got to know each other. Love is so much more than physical attraction and definitely so is marriage. I'm not saying that they need to go out on dates and stay out all night. But a family dinner, let them chat quietly in a corner of the room yeah? I dont see how this could be in violation of any rules and it may just make for such a good match instead of focusing on the more shallow appearances.
das reich..wat happened 2 ur 1st wife?
in the process of getting a divorce ...
amma jan bohat hi conventional khatoon hain …she is also concerned that a “moti bahu” will cause much embarressment in the family. I have already caused much social problems for her.
at any rate I am not looking for justification , just wondering whether in last 5yrs or so ideals of beauty have radically changed or not …I am from a very paindoo background and my relatives never before had such requirements for a “bahoo” …so maybe its something new.
wow... refreshing to FINALLY see a post from a guy actually interested in marrying a fat girl...how tall is she? if she is more than 5'7 then she has 5-6 kilos more to lose only I guess. I can relate to what youre saying. I myself am broad but weigh about 10 kgs less than her... but seriously that dusnt matter. as long as you like the girl, its fine. Pakistani women are very judgemental... they always go for outer beauty. but I dun see any reason WHY you cant marry her. you like rounder, fuller body and i say GOOD FOR YOU! :) btw.... how are you body wise? are you smart, fat., overweight?
I am not fat or too thin either ....but not very active unfortunately]
I go for outer beauty too , but my ideal is a little different
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in the process of getting a divorce ...
why getting a divorce..what happened?..u said u already caused ur family social embarrasment?..how so?..it looks like there is more to this thread then ur letting on..
No its not a new fad, arranged marriage procedures have always been superficial and always will be. Either one of the parties involved has barely any idea of what sort of a person they are accepting/rejecting, if the guy looks good on paper he has a shot and if the girl look good to the eye she has a shot, what lies beneath comes later, often when its too late.
what happened missy??
why getting a divorce..what happened?..u said u already caused ur family social embarrasment?..how so?..it looks like there is more to this thread then ur letting on..
that was more religious issues not relating to this
why did i end up with divorce ? its better to divorce than live with someone you dont like [esp. if u have no kids] no reason to stay togather waste of time & energy
I wouldn't recommend you to go against your parents and end up having a thunder bolt from GOD hit you but I think it's crazy how girls have to have certain criteria to be eligible for marriage.
It's like choosing a watermelon, do you want the skinny one or the fat one? (i hope that's a good example)
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there is no such thing as a fat woman. fat is actually in the eyes of the beholder…if not in the eyes then def in the brain… 
ur married to a watermelon? lucky you. :halo:
Yup, you see this is where I can use your quote of the “beholder”. It’s got nothing to do with the size of the watermelon but whats inside that matters.
-another advice for miss saieen
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its funny how our society looks at women. epic of hypocrisy isn't it? you want to go after the thin supermodel... do you have a 6 pack or 6 figure salary?? pehlay khud kya ho woh dekho :)
I agree with saieen and RoCKiSTaN. Its really about the person she is or how she makes you feel when she is around. If she is supportive and treats you like a king then why on earth you want a supermodel who wouldn't even know how to cook. Besides you'll end up hiring two security guards to keep the whole neighborhood off her. :D
n if ur not nice to her, you’ll be off-limits aswell…fir bodygaurds diyan mojan hi mojan…rajj ke karan ge body nu guard.
It's like choosing a watermelon, do you want the skinny one or the fat one? (i hope that's a good example)
lol wtf is a skinny watermelon???