I have a good friend who is going through the rishta process right now. The guy and his parents came down to meet the girl and her family. The girl and the guy went out to dinner and were allowed to hang out. So a few days later t my friend arranged to have dinner with all of her close friends. Of course we thought this was great news and were planning outfits for her wedding and such so when we got to dinner all of her asked the same thing. So how was he? Do you like him? She hesitated and then said… “he said I have thunder thighs…” AKWARD SILENCE!!:no:
So my friend is not fat not skinny she is truly in the middle. She has nice curves a nice body we would say. No she doesn’t look like a model but realistically who does? She is definitely pretty hands down. She has a butt and some thighs but nothing we would call fat. So naturally that made her feel very very insecure not to mention that the guy did not say anything like you are pretty or you look nice or anything to make her feel special.
We (including her and her friends) had this deep discussion about what to do. She doesn’t want to pursue it anymore because she does want to be with someone who finds her attractive and thinks that she is pretty. She is afraid down the line it will cause problems like the guy might never be fully happy or satisfied with her. He will always look around to other women (cheating?) A woman’s body changes drastically after kids. If he doesn’t find her attractive now..is it doomed to start with?
She ended up talking to him about this and he said I meant PHAT (pretty Hot And Tempting) but obviously didn’t clear himself up that night and gave her some excuses she doesn’t believe…
Some of us think that she is right to not pursue it, some of think that maybe he was nervous, and someone of us are confused …… What do you ladies/gentlemen think?
If I were at your friend’s place I would not go for the rishta. He doesn’t sound decent to me , I don’t think any decent guy would make comments like THUNDER THIGHS about any girl esp if someone who could be his future wife .
and for calling her PHAT and now knowing what he meant , he deserves a
Your friend should ask the guy confidently, "These thunder thighs are going to become more thunderous once I pop out your kids. Still want to marry me?"
Really, though... thunder thighs?! I don't really picture a prospect telling a girl that to her face. Maybe to his mom or siblings, but not directly to the girl. Otherwise, that's just tactless.
thats kinda retarded, as you dont know each other well enough to make fun of each others physical features yet! The comfort level aint that comfortable to be calling her thunder thighs, it's odd of off putting and i understand where she's coming from. What a wierdo!, the guy I mean.
I don't think its such a big deal. I won't base my decision to pursue further or not on this issue. Its definitely tactless but how's the guy otherwise?
Ofcourse its her personal decision. If she was very put off by his comment, enough to drop the rishta, she probably didn't find him appealing otherwise too.
All the best to her. May Allah guide her in making the right decision!
wow...yeah thats too immature for a guy who's ready to get married and take on the responsibilities of a wife and kids. your friend should probably consider how this immature behaviour may affect other aspects of his life: is he capable of holding down a steady job without being late to meetings or offending fellow coworkers or even his boss? is he able to communicate with his mom/sis/MIL etc effectively without using phrases such as "thunder thighs" because that will be important later if the girl needs the guy to communicate some of her wants/needs/expectations with MIL or SIL. What kind of a social circle does his hang in? I don't know any guys who use the word "phat" unless they are 15 yrs old sooo your friend should find a man not a boy.
Either his thinking is trashy or has never spoken to a girl before. Its a rishta process and this kind of language is uncalled for. So, I would say skip it.
omg haha...he said she had thunder thighs at the first meeting!!! The poor girl! I would pass on that guy as well....wayyyyy to free for a first meeting!
Oh my gosh...how rude is that! Wow, the guy sounds like he needs to grow up, tell your friend to tell him to come back when he has matured a little and she'll think about it :)
On the first lets say 'date' He decides to say she has thunder thighs. Umm Nice. Who does he think he is? Imran Khan? (yes the singer and if he is hes excluded ;)) Umm yes however i say move on, Even as a normal date i would be deeply offended seriously. What a retard! Obviously hasnt been with a woman before.
It’s possible that he meant “Phat” and not “fat”. “Phat” is a compliment whereas the latter isn’t. BUT…I have NEVER heard the words “thunder thighs” used as a compliment or in a flattering sense. The “Phat/Fat” part might be ambiguous or unclear…but there’s no room for confusion (in my opinion) regarding the thunder thighs remark. That’s rude…and I think it’s best that she not waste her time on him and move on.
It’s even possible that he felt embarrassed about calling her “fat” and felt uncomfortable when she confronted him and tried to cover up for his mistake by saying “Oh no, I meant it as PHAT.” As I said above…“thunder thighs” is a more clearer indication that he’s not exactly being complimentary.
****** Maybe I’m more conservative…but I just think it’s unclassy for a guy to even outright make comments about a girl’s body parts during a first-time rishta meeting. That’s too forward for my taste. I can understand if a guy makes a broad comment such as “You look nice” or “You’re very pretty”…that’s more appropriate. Or if he wanted to be more specific…it could be a comment that’s generally more appropriate such as “You have nice eyes, etc”. Thunder thighs…? Nope, sorry. Tell her to move on to somebody who finds her attractive and conducts himself with class.
…… What do you ladies/gentlemen think?
