but u told ME to put the cookies down :( zaalim!-
I told you to replace them for ORANGE JUICE! Khoti
how many rejections are you going to go through? Let me tell you that a desi girl is conditioned all her life that she is getting ready to get married and go to her husband's home. Her house is paraya ghar. So this kind of a girl, how many rejections can she handle? Every rejection is kind of a blow to your self esteem and confidence.
Touche
Hugs You've put this ugly routine of our society so eloquently!
It also depends on what society you are living in Gina. You are maybe talking about the western world and that mentality. I am targeting the desi mentality here because I belong to a society with a desi mentality. Over here you do not get married then they will think this:
- Girl has it going with someone else, affairs and all that. -** Girl is a Lesbian**
- Girl is FAT and no one wants to go to her house with a rishta
- Girl has attitude. Moody hai.
If you do not get married and you are fat, even if you are happily working and earning money it is not enough to stop the rumours and shut the traps of aunties. Oh and what about your parents? Isn't it every desi parents dream to get their daughter married off? Oh and if their daughter is fat(even if she has some health problem) still the parents get angry at the daughter to lose weight so she can attract more rishtey and get married off to someone.
I don't think anyone would think that about a girl who's not getting married without her odd behaviour.
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Unfortunately hareem there are people in the world and in society where if the girl is not getting married they do think she might be a lesbian even without properly investigating it. Not that even that is any of their business. They just like to talk.
Touche
Hugs You've put this ugly routine of our society so eloquently!
I know about this because of the pressure in my house and the kinds of things I have to hear from mum each and every day. Just relaying my mum's words here really. But thank you and it is the truth.
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Hmmmm, i notice a lot of people in London getting fat? I wonder why 
Thanks God I am ok 
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Exercising and staying fit makes me happy. If I notice a little bit of fat on my stomach i panic and hit the gym.
Anyone who thinks they are fat and happy are lying! What do you think? I think beauty enhances once you are thin!
I recommend taking a women's studies or sociology course.
If the girl is alone all her life is that happiness? Society pressurises a woman to get married and I have seen it everywhere that if u are fat and not married society shuns you then what kind of happiness are you getting?
You are comparing two different things. The poster assumes that if a person is fat he/she can not be happy. Which ofcourse is far from truth.
You are talking about the desi mentality of treating women as "bhair bakriyaan". Buyers check to make sure they are getting their money's worth. Its a stupid evil coustom and unfortunatily girls do get trapped into this cycle. Education( and I don't mean degrees) is the only hope but I feel sad when an educated girl like you feel that you are worth more after losing weight.
To be honest, i am my happiest when im my slimmiest:yahoo:
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Some people just find reasons to be unhappy, regardless of their weight. I'm really thin around 45 kg, and I keep hearing i have a great body but i feel ****ty all the time :(
My mood has nothing to do with my weight but thats just how i am. So yeah it doest matter if you're fat or skinny, some people are just unhappy in general
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Depends on your body type. Some people look better when they're thin, other people look nicer when they are chubby or fat.
My friends often told me, being chubby or fat suits me as well as being thin. Because of my face. Same goes for many other people.
So yes, you can be happy being thin and you can be happy being fat. As long as you don't have health issues.