After reading through almost all the post.. it is so depressing that one can even consider thinking about this if they are dignified people. I know many times high class in pakistan worry about their image but if the girl is coming to their house and she is dignified and she represents their family then what more do they need. Their are many girls that come from middle class families in to high class and do a great job of carrying their husband's name.. I don't know how an educated family would even have this issue I guess! However, I do think that the girl should know since her life is definately at stake in this issue.