My friend was discussing a concern with me recently and i thought to take input from my fellow Guppies.
My friend belongs to a well established, decent, well off and progressive family. One of her brothers is in an internationally high rated multinational company. Another sibling is a Chartered Account, One is a doctor and parents are both at a considerably well established position.
For her brother, they all like a girl who they all know personally one or the other way. Everyone is single mindedly accepting and liking the girl for all the traits she possesses - educated, decent, good looking, happy natured, well bonded into family, presentable, religious to an extent, liberal to an extent..overall as described she is a flawless girl from every person's perspective separately and from their own scope of knowing her indifferently.
The problem seems to be that in the last 1-2 visits they have met her family there seems to be a wide difference between them & the girl, between the family & my friend's family. Her family seems to be not very well off, not very dignified, not very presentablt, not very educated, not into some established careers. On the other hand, my friend's family is decent and low profile but inwardly are very high ranked people as a family and individually. Their dressing, their house, their talk, their education, their social circle, their lifestyle, their living everything is very much different from the girl's family. They all seem to be confused about it as they extremely like the girl and are doubtful about the family. Although its the girl that will be coming to this family but even then the family and their lifestyle does hold a lot of importance as this interaction will go on for years.
Has any one been through such a dilemma when you liked the girl a lot but were not too convinced about the family. What should one do?
are you buying a thing or looking for a rishta? All of your mention words are actually feel like coming from uneducated & materialistic person.
using words like not very dignified for others is pretty much related to low-class people. The girl deserves better !