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I guess it depends on what area of the city you live in. I live in a small town of New Orleans, which is where the airport is, so roads are well built, middle class families, rich families live here.....whereas in downtown, roads are broken and people on foodstamp live there, especially blakcs. And ofcourse the area is similiar to what you described.
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thats haram not to tell your husband
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My parents have 5 kids, all went to college/going, my dad paid for our schooling, and we all have cars also. I say if you can afford it, and can raise them than by all means go for it.
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I don’t live anywhere near the projects, nor do I live in the southbronx. I don’t care about my neighborhood really. That stuff isn’t near our house, but as u get closer to the train station, where all the stores and kalays trying to get u in their car (cab drivers) are.
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lol. a condom in a gully.. haha
have you ever walked around vegas?
i think you should know that your husband wont let you take the pill before you marry him.esp if you dont want alot of kids..
what if you get married (in desi land) and both of you dont want kids, but your able to have them.
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2 kids are more than enough 
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why not! I mean if you look in a broader picture then I don't see any reason of producing a cricket team if you can't give them a better quality of life.
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Truthfully, if all guys took care of three young children for one week exactly like a mother does before they got married as a training experience, less men would have more than 1 or 2 kids.
Just speaking to the various Paki people wandering in and out of my house, the men say "first 1-4 years of a childs life, it is all the woman, man can only do maybe an hour a day, his job is to work" - direct quote. I was floored. Since the man was only here for two days and then heading back to Pakistan, I was a VERY good host and didn't argue. The women were like "I have to do something" or "It's my job" from the ones that don't work.
With thinking like that, no wonder they want more.
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I want as many kids as the Lord will alow me to have…
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^ **Minah_pa ** That’s exactly what I mean. They should be given some training beforehand. Stupid guys! 
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seriously? 
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Digmagh - yeeeeeah, let her have a couple back to back first, she'll learn :)
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There are few things that need to be kept in mind since it is said in the original post that Family planning is OK in Islam.
1- Yes! Family planning is OK.
2- Abortion is not. Now there are certain conditions, the most important is that it is allowed to save the mother’s life. Second, according to Islamic teachings, Rooh of a person is blown in after a certain time (I think it’s 40 days or 4 months.. please, correct me cuz i do not remember at the mo). After that it is not permissible without threats of life.
3- Allah:swt: is the provider. He has written everyone’s Rizq already. People in Arabia before the Prophet:saw: used to kill their children due the the poverty and it is EXTREMELY forbidden in Quran to do so.
4- All the humans who are destined to come till the day of judgement will definitely come in this world because their ARWAAH are already created and were taken oath on the Day of Alast in Alam-e-Barzakh.
Now, plan as you wish and use common sense but do not transgress in matters of faith and when it comes to blind faith in Allah:swt:
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Anwaar - off topic just a bit, sorry. Even though I am not Muslim, I had to say that last part is really true. I really smiled at this.
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4- All the humans who are destined to come till the day of judgement will definitely come in this world because their ARWAAH are already created and were taken oath on the Day of Alast in Alam-e-Barzakh
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Only I would say that God decides when it is right for you and writes the destiny of the souls coming into this world. :)
Anyway, after I had my son, my first husband and I wanted to wait a while before we had another child. We could comfortably afford one child, but two was stretching it. So at the time, I was taking birth control pills and used other methods also trying to guarantee not getting pregnant. Despite all the precautions we took, I still got pregnant. It was a shock to us both. Regardless, we prepared for our second child and in the middle of my pregnancy, cancerous cells were found. I had my second child, a girl, exactly a year and a half after my son. After her, I could not have children anymore.
During that pregnancy, abortion came up because of the cells found. It was a hard decision, but I chose to carry to term.
At the time, I couldn't figure out why it happened. But I really believe now that God meant me to have two children, one boy and one girl, and to have them before I couldn't. Even though I had cancer, I had a perfect girl and carried her to term.
Even though my husband and I did everything to stop it, God knew better. He knew I would never have another chance.
To me, she is a miracle that way.
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minah_pa:
And to add up more spice to the matter, that came from a person who has 9 other siblings in his family:)
My life experience strengthened my faith a lot more..
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I did research on my own before posting this topic. Hence, I know what to do and what to avoid. Not only abortion is haram in islam but is also discrouraged in other religions. There are exceptions though. I know why family planning was later said to be okay by Hazrat Mohammad p.b.u.h. Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) told many of his companions to practice 'azl (abstinence from sex) .. But since mankind has advanced so much, many scholars believe that there is no harm in using different birth controls that are not threatening. Of course, vesectomy and any kind of castration is unlawful.
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Not conceiving is one thing, killing is another.
MY 4th point was actually the point I wanted to make 
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^ Agreed.
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uhh r u sure its haraam? it's debatable
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^ What's haram? Sterilization? Yes!