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Put a 'supari' on her head
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the shadi is not until late summer .. this is a bridal shower not the wedding .. n pplus i remeber her sayign its probably gona be at her younger mamoos house n was alreday giving us really dirty looks at our house during the nikkah function which is quite uncomfortable .. n my mom is not even here .. i dont want to go there n get this same treatment from all her family members if she doesnt even want me to be there in the first place .. one of her sisters has also made snide and mocking remarks to me on the phone before and she is the one who put her on the phone n said my sis wants to talk to u ..** no one from our side is going .. **if its just gona be me alone in this uncomfortable situation .. i dunno ..
Why? Oif they weren't invited that makes your decision easier also,no? Might be best to just suck it up and give her a call, be the bigger person and that way you'll get some clear answers also.
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i didnt bother to read anything... just goin by one lil part of your entire fasana
how can you go to a party you are not invited to?
i fail to see the issue?
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Why? Oif they weren't invited that makes your decision easier also,no? Might be best to just suck it up and give her a call, be the bigger person and that way you'll get some clear answers also.
because no one from our side was invited
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maybe u talk to her? :halo:
how hard can this be?
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maybe u didnt read the thread through full .. she is completely ignoring me like not even looking at me n she does this in front of my bro also .. he said she thinks i only went to her to apologize n hug becuz of my bro not bcz i wanted to myself .. im not scared of anyone if i didnt want to do it that time then i wouldnt have .. when i went later on evening to fix up siuation she had roni shakal huge racoon black eyes and looked like she was in a bad bad mood ..e ven the next weekend same bad attiatude when i tried to smile and talk to both of themt o come eat downstairs .. she refuses to eat what i make and doesnt let my bro etiher .. i made such tasty karaih gosht yet she keeps getting him to order out every time she comes .. otherwise i know they love gosht they always eat the botis .. i was warming it n i was gona bring it upstaris n then they just stopped me right there .. nywayz who cares .. whatever .. i think she wants people to feel sorry for her n bully me .. like my sis n even one of my bros freind who had nothign to do with anything who i used to be friends with started harassing me at the nikkah for her indireclty just on hearsay .. i dont want to stick aroudn this house much longer after she gets here .. today my sister pushed me for her tomorrow it might be my other bro .. shes one damn chalak kurri
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^ uve just got so much negativity in you matey.
Have you ever thought that maybe the negativity in you maybe making you see her in bad light?
I dont deny that people are chalak and that they can be really mean... dont deny that at all. But, just leave it.
Ive read your pevious threads and have read this one too... but to be honest, u sound lik you dont want to give her a fair go at all. You have these preconceived ideas about what she is like, what she is thinking, why she is saying what she is... and therefore u have come to a conclusion she is chalak and is turning people against you. You are playing plaintiff, jury, judge all on your own.. not healthy
the other thing, you say, "she thinks" u went to her only cus of ur brother..... didnt u?
Soni dear your Bhabi is not obligated to invite you to her bridal shower. Typically bridal shower are a very informal event for the brides closest friends and relatives. In my family I know that people have not invited tthe older aunties/relatives and definitely all male guests. The reason is that it I suppose to be a very casual event with halla gulla. Not too many people want inlaws especially sils to come to such events. It's not a conspiracy against you or any of the inlaws its just need for privacy and to be able to let loose without creating a scandal. I haven't been invited to any one of my bhabis bridal showers. It's wasn't because I haver had a fight with them. A girl needs her space/privacy at these events. If she doesn't want to invite you to this event please don't take at personally. She has rightfully realized that you are sensitive and she should be careful around you. I am not saying that you are at fault but everybody needs there space. Please respect that. Now her family shoul be respectful towards you too. One thing I have learned is that one should keep their distance from bhabis. I love mine but I have made it a point not to interfere in their personal matters. Now I don't like interference in my personal matters either. Giving my bhabis a hard time is not a past time I enjoy. Honestly their lives are not so interesting that I need to know everything or vice versa. If there is anything I value most it's my personal space. Do onto others as you want done on to you. Again soni I am not saying that its only you that's at fault.
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Do your bhabi a favor and your izzat a favor and don't go to the shower. You are not invited, you are ruining your self respect and her bridal shower. And please dorm out or move elsewhere. It seems your surrounded with countless bhabi issues.
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Your brother sounds like a douche who'll go with everything his bride says after marriage. He's on his way right now to disregarding everyone in the immediate family and going all busy bee over his fiancee.
If she doesn't invite you, tell everyone she didn't invite you. But, don't apologize. After marriage, she'll hold it over your head, on how you said sorry to her and she 'graciously' accepted it.
Honestly, I don't even know if I am answering this properly. I couldn't understand what was written with the lack of paragraphs.
Your brother sounds like a douche who'll go with everything his bride says after marriage. He's on his way right now to disregarding everyone in the immediate family and going all busy bee over his fiancee.
If she doesn't invite you, tell everyone she didn't invite you. But, don't apologize. After marriage, she'll hold it over your head, on how you said sorry to her and she 'graciously' accepted it.
Honestly, I don't even know if I am answering this properly. I couldn't understand what was written with the lack of paragraphs.
With all due respect it's not the wedding. The bride does not have to include inlaws at a bridal shower. I know of lots of girl who didn't invite members of their own family. It's don't because they had any issues with them but simply Bc you want privacy. You don't want to invite people who will hold thing against at a private personal event . I would be offended if my brother fiancé said not to come to wedding, Mehndi or engagement. A bridal shower is not a formal event. Just because she is marrying your brother doesn't mean she has to invite you everywhere. I would be offended if your Bhabi was a close friend before this rishta and now she is shutting you out of her life. From your description this is not the case. I have seen that happen a lot too. That is definitely grounds for being offended. You were already offended for the actress comment so I think your Bhabi is right in being cautious. Even if your BFF becomes your Bhabi the dynamics of the relationship change forever. It's best to accept this changes and thread with caution. I agree value you izzat and keep your distance. If she invites you and insists you go then definitely do make an effort to go. If not ya. Not a big deal. save your energy for a bigger masla.
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Hm, first off, why should you go to a shower you are not invited to?
Yes, you and your bhabhi have some issues going on. But being the nand, your bhabhi should have invited you along with your sis, has she invited her? If she has not invited anyone of u girls, I dont see the issue.
Sorry to say this, but your bhabhi sounds like a drama and your brother sounds like an even bigger drama. And you seriously need to watch your words and actions as well. She is your bhabhi, she is going to make any little tid bid into the biggest issue infront of your bro and in this case, it sounds like the relationship between your bro and you aint that great already, so keep your distance without being a cold *****.