my babhi has stopped talking to me even though i apologized and hugged her adn thought everything was ok .. anywayz .. before her rukhsati she is having a bridal shower which is happening in 1 week or two .. so since she has completely stopped speaking to me or acknowledging me she probably wont invite me to the shower like she was before when she mentioned it to me once that i should come .. so my question is if she does not invite me should i still go ? .. if she doesnt invite me since she is ‘ignoring’ me now and i dont go will my brother think im evil because he alread thinks that its all my fault and even though i said i said sorry n hugged her he said that is not enough and i have to go speak to her again .. but that day he told me shed did not even want to speak to me and was making bad faces when i came to invite both to eat lunch.. n made a sarcastic comment (but was very chalak about it so it was indirect) to which i gave a reply to which my brother blames me now .. i told him i already did it once is enough .. i m not going to beg her to forgive me .. anyways .. will it be rude if i dont go if she doesnt invite me ? .. or not .. what would you do girls ? .. what if she wants to to show her whole khandan that im so evil and i dont care and im not happy about her entering our family and thats why i didnt go ? becuz i think shes already said stuff like that to them cuz at the nikkah her whole khandan were making faces at us even though nothing major happened .. or what if she does invite me but just at the last moment .. would u still go then ? what if my brother hates me forever because i didnt go and all his friends think im evil cuz shes friends with all of his friends .. has gotten chummy with them .. ? . or should i not care ? i am confused because i dont see why when the issue is over why shes making such a big deal especially when the time is nearing for her bridal shower ? ..
i dont need negative people to respond in my thread .. so if you have nothing useful to say to help me sort this out then please refrain from posting
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If it's important to your brother and your family, and you care about their feeling on this issue, just go and be the bigger person. Be nice, swallow your pride, and get it done with. If you are the bigger person about it, then people will realize how petty she is being.
my bro did not talk about whether i should go or not yet but hes sensitive about her and how she feels and my mom said if this is the case then leave it dont go when i talked to her on the phone
as for what i did its a long story but she called me a really good 'actress' but indirectly when she was comparing me to a pakistani actress cuz we were discussing that day how i am similar to that certain actress but i felt it was really weird to say that to me especially since we were in good standing and i was happy we were getting cloer over these past couple of weeks as she was coming over more as the shadi is nearing .. so later on i just mentioned ot my bro that it bugged me but i told him NOT to tell her and that ill forget about it in a little while anyways but when she came next weekend he sure enough told her and after a while she came to me and hugged me and tried to explain how she called me an actress only because i good at telling stories and nothing more .. when she hugged me i did not hug her back i said im osrry but i just dont feel like hugging anybody right now .. n that im hurt at what she said .. she said so that means u dont want to beleieve me that i did not mean it in that way .. n i was like but in my mind its not registering i need some time and i will forget it n be back to like before and then she ran off n started balling her eyes out .. n then my bro came downstairs n hes like what did u say to her ? .. i cant get her to stop crying .. my bro n sis both got mad at me .. i i dont understand i explained and spoke so calmly and nicely to her n even told her that maybe she misunderstood something i said once beofre when i was consoling her .. cuz i remember she also was sayign something to my bro like soni said something so weird to me that im so sensitive but that itme i was only consoling her ( it was 4/5 months ago when she got offended at somthing my bro said) and i explained ot her that i was not blittling her feelings at that time i really felt bad for her n i said that my bro was wrong to say what he said to her .. nywayz ..
so later that day in the evening i went to their room so many times but thse was sleeping .. so when my bro came downstairs i asked is he sleeping ? .. cuz im gona go n say sorry n hes liek if ur gona tell her that u need more time then just forget it .. so i went to her room adn said im sorry i hurt ur feeling and she was just ignoring me doign soemthing on her pphone .. her face was all liek she crying and in bad mood .. n i was gogin to hug her but i could see she did not want to receive the hug so then i asked her so you dont wanna hug right now .. n then she let me hug her and i said im sorry liek three times n shes lik no im sorry i hurt u .. so i thought all was well bcs to me the first thing she sadi after i said i needed time was i respect that but then she ran off crying like anything without even letting me finihs y i just needed soem time .. even my sister got so mad at me giving me dirty looks n pushed me too .. cuz she said that bhabhi said that soni hurt my feelings while crying n sobbing hysterically on her shoulder ..
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You both sound like little brats. Grow up, resolve the issue and move forward. Women are notorious for holding grudges and strategically planning the next move. I thought the US government was bad but you women, just wow.
and I was reading it as family masala.
