I'm sorry you've been around such people. What I'm saying is that if you (or rather your family) were to say it and be firm on it, then it would deal with the problem one way or the other. I've seen my share of people trying to get money out of their family members using these types of tactics. I've also seen the difference between those who refuse to give money/favors all the time for free and those who always give in. The ones who keep giving in are not likely to see an end to it. But when they do take a stand, then many times the inconsiderate people learn their lesson.