Here’s what I don’t get about Pakistanis.
I have an uncle. Spoiled brat, although he thinks he was well disciplined growing up. Whatever. Anyhoo. He is in town, and traditionally, he thinks we are his naukars. His nakhray, his indecisiveness, and his demands are pretty out there.
We’ve spent about 6000 on this family already. He has not offered to pay us back.
Meanwhile, we go to a store, and he tells us how his next plan is to purchase a 52 inch television in Pakistan.
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And it was bad enough when he would just get on my dad’s case to do stuff for him (my father is his sister’s husband). My dad often complained before that this guy has mistaken him for his naukar.
Now he’s doing it to me. I am this guy’s neice. I just spent like 2 hours making a doctor’s appointment for this SOB’s kid only to be told that he thinks he wont take the appointment.
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Furthermore, his kid is out of control in terms of behavior. Very difficult to settle him down. He is extremely loud. Now, we all know there is a bit of disability involved, but the disability is not mental. The kid knows and understands everything we say. He just chooses not to listen. The uncle claims that he chooses to not raise his kid with too many rules, because only with giving the kid a free reign has he been able to learn and develop.
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I don’t get this. Do you notice this about affluent relatives back from Pakistan? They tend to expect everything served to them on a platter? I had to hand the phone to my uncle today and tell him, look, hold this call while I get some other stuff done. These people know I have an exam coming up, they know I’m out of town for the next few days and I told them repeatedly that I cannot do anymore running around for everyone. I have been driving people back and forth to the mall every day. We are totally bleeding financially because of these folks, and it peeves me off that every time he comes here for a purpose, we welcome him, then he changes his mind about the purpose and says he doesn’t feel like working on it anymore.
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Even my mom, this guy’s sister, is annoyed.
I’m sorry for venting, and maybe I sound like a brat. But over here, everyone kind of takes care of their own business. Why do I need to spend 2 hours on the phone for doctors’ appointments - can’t this guy do it on his own? He could have done it if I gave them a phone number. Then he says - schedule it on a day when you can go with us. Hello? I am not in TOWN for most of the next two weeks, so NO, I am not gonna do that.
It’s like. These folks don’t think.
I think part of it is that they are used to being served hand and foot by maasis and naukars in Pakistan, and they are not used to really coordinating anything on their own.
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I don’t know.
Doesn’t make sense to me.
And how hard is it to control your f’ing kid when you are a guest somewhere???
… they convert the $ - Rs while talking …quick minds huh?
