the scenarios where I visited when they were “sick” was when, for ex, one family member had open heart surgery, another, had a kidney transplant, another, hit her head and went mental, yes, literally, mentally ill for a while. That kind of stuff. So, the actual serious illnesses/not feeling well, I wasn’t talking about. Not a boo-boo from a paper cut.
It’s not that they were lying, I’m sure they really were in those scenarios. And if they didn’t come, that’s fine, life happens, I get that. But I didn’t even get a phone call ??? Yes, that much, I do expect from family. They aren’t strangers off the street that I am upset from. and then to be IN MY TOWN, visiting other members of family for the heck of it, yet not tell me about it, then yes, I will definitely get upset.
when I call my one and only khala, to talk to her, she hangs up the phone on me. I call her again, same thing, over and over. I called my khallu, and spoke to him about it so it’s not like she wasn’t aware that it was me. He said he would talk to her and see what the problem is, but I never heard back, which is fine, I don’t want to speak to her now anyway. So, yes, I will hold that against her. WTF did i do to her for her to do that to me? She will get zero respect in my book after that. so for me to have unpleasant words against my “family” shouldn’t come as a surprise
But all of that now is out the window. They don’t get anything from me, I don’t get anything from them.
and I agree, you are right with the stupid brothers comments. There is no need for me to say anything, I guess even expressing what I think, which is the same as hers btw most of the time, is wrong.