my question to you is: if someones dad does second marriage, should she justify it? if someones brother has a number of girlfriends and treats them like ****, should she not hate him equally?
it is a matter of principle. if you agree that having a relationship with a namehram (friendship, affair or whatever) is objectionable without question then as a matter of principle it should apply to both men and women, all brothers, fathers, etc.
if you think its fine, then you will be answerable in the end.
Anyone been in a situation where they've been in love or even just been seeing someone they knew was 'wrong' for them or their family (could be 'wrong' as in culture, race, caste or even just his/her family background or personal lifestyle)?
Also, was thinking about the other thread where a few posters were saying they would never marry outside their culture whether it was for their family or just themselves.. *Has anyone who thinks this way ever fallen for an 'outsider' and if so how did you deal with it? *
You never hit the Bull's Eye in first attempt. And of course once you have realized your mistake, you should turn back. And on how to deal, sorry no experience on that :)
well it doesnt really matter what my comments makes me sound, im not here to impress anyone.
humans have the habit of justifying eveything to support their own actions. girls and women particularly have this sort of tendency.
if me being upfront makes me pathetic, so be it.
if you dont want to understand my post and just rattle about it go on, it doesnt bring any change in my life, or anyone else's for that matter.
insecure... lol, well ok. again whatever you want to think, im in no mood to clarify.
good luck
The post you made makes you sound pretty pathetic. Joining GS just to find out how many Pakistani girls might have thought of a 'na mehram' guy before marriage? :/ You seem pretty insecure.
well it doesnt really matter what my comments makes me sound, im not here to impress anyone.
humans have the habit of justifying eveything to support their own actions. girls and women particularly have this sort of tendency.
if me being upfront makes me pathetic, so be it.
if you dont want to understand my post and just rattle about it go on, it doesnt bring any change in my life, or anyone else's for that matter.
insecure... lol, well ok. again whatever you want to think, im in no mood to clarify.
Ya I fell for the wrong person :/ I met him 3 yrs ago, and it started off as a good friendship... he was somewhat really "religious' back then, and wasn't in favor of having close girl friends... so i was the only one he talked to... as time moved on we got closer and closer...and well i liked him more and more.. and it was like, we're not just friends, but we're not dating, and we both felt that way. 2 yrs of our friendship was like that... and he even asked me for a nikkah and what not (at that time we were 16) and then this year came along. HE changed like crazy! He started smoking, and when I told him not to, he just didn't care. He got closer to so many other girls, and well now I don't mean a thing... He said people come and go, and i should suck it up and move on... he's gotten so conceited and what not... and me... how could i move on? i've been stuck on him for 3 yrs... and even after all this, i can't cut him off. and i wish i stopped talking to him along time ago... i just don't know how to move on, when i know he doesn't care anymore, and he's moved on. :/
its not surpising all the girls have their own falling-for stories and are mentioning them here lol.
this is the reason i joined gs, to figure out how many pakistani girls have been involved with namehram guys in one sense or the other ... lol ...
That should encourage u to make another poll.. how many Pakistani girls on GS were honest enough to admit to it vs the many that show u imaginary halo's to get married.
its not surpising all the girls have their own falling-for stories and are mentioning them here lol.
this is the reason i joined gs, to figure out how many pakistani girls have been involved with namehram guys in one sense or the other ... lol ...
Why did no one tell me that ShahreyarKhan, the renowned authority on morality and behavioural ethics, is amongst us? Line up girls, time for an inspection.
i have to say its funny that some ppl will stubbornly stay on their high horse and believe that they are right when so many ppl are telling them they so are not /rolls eyes
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