How do you handle disappointing someone who assumes you’re better than you are?
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The religious answer: YOu should only worry about disappointing God.
The funny answer: uh oh, What did Hugh Jackman do now?
The normal answer: You can't be held responsible if someone puts you on a pedestal. We're human and prone to make mistakes.
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I love Hugh Jackman hes dreamy 
^how could you say such a thing 
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She just had a date with him so I thought maybe it was something to do with that.
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what if they are also stubborn and dominating personality?
u cant say a single thing then to them
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I’m not jealous… 
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Its almost funny that how people raise false hopes themselves and then they say I have disappointed them 
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Hugh can do no wrong, thank-you-very-much 
But as to the rest, while I can’t be responsible for another’s actions, I hate thinking of myself as the cause of their disappointment.
This is part of the problem - an unwillingness to see past what they want to see.
What’s worse is that I have to tell them to remember I’m a flawed individual, but they think they me know better than me, until they actually do know better, by experience 
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what a joke! ... keep your distance, act your age and try to improve!
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those with dominating personalities like people with more dominating personalities! If you can understand that you should have no problem with the dominating types 
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Tell them that your fall from grace was deliberate and that you only did it to make them…“the flawed loser”…look “good” for a change.
Then wring your hands and cry over their ungratefulness. Redirection…just flip it around and put it all on the other person. 
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those with dominating personalities like people with more dominating personalities! If you can understand that you should have no problem with the dominating types :)
dominating personality cant live 24-7 with equally dominating personalities.
ps. i am a free-spirited personality.
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dominating personality cant live 24-7 with equally dominating personalities.
ps. i am a free-spirited personality.
free-spirited ... thats a gift ... break the shackles ... be a truly free-spirited spirit :)
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How do you handle disappointing someone who assumes you're better than you are?
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Why would this be offensive or depressing (unless I have misunderstood the question and unless someone constantly tries to find flaws in you and unless the person doesn't even know you that well..) If you have previously proven yourself to be capable of doing better, I wouldn't blame others for expecting that level of excellence from you. I mean, people love to look down on others for no reason but if they think highly of someone, there has to be a reason for that. And that reason is you yourself. For example, if you've always been a straight A student, would it not disappoint your parents if you failed a subject? That's not to say you can't make mistakes and you must always achieve 90%+ in every subject but you can't say others had false hopes. You have set the standards yourself. I dunno, just another way of looking at it? I'd take it as a complement if someone told me they were expecting better from me because that would tell me that I have previously proven to be capable of more. shrugs
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You tell them that only much can be expected of you. The rest, they can make up for if they're interested.
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How do you handle disappointing someone who assumes you're better than you are?
depends on
1) was the expectation realistic
2) how important was the expectation in the relationship (and the relationship can be anything, not just romantic, could be a business partnership, a work acquaintance etc)
3) how important that person is to you
4) what is the impact to you of this individual's 'disappointment'
'Nuff said
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If they have put you on the pedestal themselves, there really is no fall.
If you are fully or partially responsible for creating a false image of yourself, well then you just accept the fall and what comes your way because that's what you have sown.
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How do you handle disappointing someone who assumes you're better than you are?
just tell them the truth.