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I jst read the part about you wanting to tell your parents after meeting him. DO NOT MEET HIM. HE WILL HAVE ALL THE CONTROL AND U MAY END UP IN A SITUATION U CANNOT RECOVER FROM.
have u not read any precautionary tales?
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Send him a photoshop picture of yours with burn scars and tell him you got in an accident and got burned and then see how serious he is about you.
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Mirch he is a crazy, and OP has no idea of life. She shd jst cut him off.
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Aneisa,
Please do not go to a strange city/country alone, I know you trust this person, but you never know what could happen and it could be someone else u encounter along the way who can end up hurting u, doesnt have to be the guy uve been talking to.
I am in 2 minds about what u have posted, I also had an internet relationship with someone who I did not meet for 3 years, it was a by chance encounter on a social networking site, and we became friends, then more than friends, then we got engaged, married, now we r expecting our first child. I did not meet him for more than 3 years, he was in Pakistan and planning to come to the UK for masters degree wen we met and MashAllah he did that. Before coming here he told his parents about me and i told my parents about him, then our parents spoke and he came to my home to meet me and my family before i saw him by myself. I was very cautious n asked him to send me pics of him and his family and a few times we talked on webcam with his siblings sitting there too (while he was still in Pakistan) ....
Internet relationships are not always scary and bad, its just the way you deal with them. He might emotionally blackmail you into coming to see him but he should be making the effort first, afterall he IS the guy. Dont think of yourself as the bad guy in all this, if he wants you to be in his life ask him to do things properly, you dont want anything to come back to u in a bad way in the future. Also, having a degree is pretty important and I am shocked that u r being discouraged :/ keep at it, its an investment of ur life.
The reason i am in 2 minds is that i feel this guy is being pretty secretive so i would suggest you try and find out as much as possible about him and maybe you can speak to his mother on the fone and above all speak to him on the fone several times before taking any further steps. speaking on the fone would be harmless, but u would be able to judge him a bit better.
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And why he wants you to talk to your parents , he is a boy it is his job to propose to your family.
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Here we go again..........sighs ** One - facebook is evil. I hope every young girl and boy reads OPs post.**
Two - OP, any person who tells you education is pointless and not worth it, is imho a BLEEP BLEEP BLEEP. So, please do yourself a favour and go and redo your education. Please make something of yourself, otherwise you will forever be dependant on somebody else. And if you are depending on someone else, there is always an element of control that person will have over you. It will put you in positions which will be hard to get out of, and you will soon feel worthless. Again, that is my opinion.
Three - Don't go to meet this random stranger. He can be anyone, and you are putting yourself in immense danger. You do know there is a reason why Islam doesn't allow women to travel alone without a mehram? It's mainly because you can be exploited. And if he really cared, he would come to you, surely?
Four - If you are really insistent upon going then please tell your parents or relatives, or even friends, so they know about your whereabouts. And do contact them regularly if you're going for a few days.
I honestly don't understand the thread title or this part of your post. What does Facebook have to do with this? Facebook did not invent STUPID and DESPERATE girls who cannot tell right from wrong and like to put themselves in harm's way only to go whining for help.
Let natural selection take its course. You insist on putting yourself in danger, you get what you deserve. I have no sympathy for idiotic girls like this.
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^^ that's very harsh
People make mistakes. So now OP that u knw that it's a mistake please dnt make it worse. Its jst some girls are brought up so cocooned that they are very easy to manipulate.
I reiterate OP this is a huge mistake but not an irrevocable one yet. Please break off this whatever this is cz it's not a relationship
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im sure you wont say this same thing if she was your sister
I honestly don't understand the thread title or this part of your post. What does Facebook have to do with this? Facebook did not invent STUPID and DESPERATE girls who cannot tell right from wrong and like to put themselves in harm's way only to go whining for help.
Let natural selection take its course. You insist on putting yourself in danger, you get what you deserve. I have no sympathy for idiotic girls like this.
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^ Sure it's harsh. But people who cushion and encourage a girl's stupid behavior are simply taking our whole gender back.
SK: I may not say it the same way, but I would feel it the same way. I'm not doing the OP any favors by cushioning what's happening in this situation. She needs to understand the reality of what she's dealing with. And if she can't face the consequences of her actions, she shouldn't be acting out like this. PERIOD. I'm all for women asserting their own free will and being independent; but they shouldn't be stupid about it.
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That's why u need to know about how to protect yourself if u r using the Internet. At least she hasn't shared her pictures.
OP all u need to do is walk away.
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^ She has. Just not a full picture.
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I agree with Sahar 1000000%!
Why coddle someone who is walking, actually running into a dangerous situation? Holding a mirror up to the OP is simply telling her a harsh truth. It may shock her into growing up, using some sense and judgement and protecting herself and her own future since no one else can do that for her.
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one last time, OP Break OFF ALL TIES WITH HIM.
RUN FROM THIS GUY AND NEVER LOOK BACK. TELL YOUR PARENTS.
Cut your losses . Think of this as an essential life lesson.
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one last time, OP Break OFF ALL TIES WITH HIM. RUN FROM THIS GUY AND NEVER LOOK BACK. TELL YOUR PARENTS.
Cut your losses . Think of this as an essential life lesson.
piyar to andha hota hai.
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^ She has. Just not a full picture.
Sighhh wats done is done. But why must v repeat these mistakes. It would b extremely stupid to now continue with this and meet a guy u dnt knw anything abt
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^I agree.
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piyar to andha hota hai.
Yes love is blind, and deaf and extremely juvenile in this case.
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All I know is that between the two of you, you failed a lot of exams 
Also, don’t meet him unless it’s in a public place (and you have scoped out all exits Jason Bourne style). In fact, I suggest you take JB with you as a guard.
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who in the world asked you to cushion
whats wrong with telling her that she is doing the wrong thing and she should stop
^ Sure it's harsh. But people who cushion and encourage a girl's stupid behavior are simply taking our whole gender back.
SK: I may not say it the same way, but I would feel it the same way. I'm not doing the OP any favors by cushioning what's happening in this situation. She needs to understand the reality of what she's dealing with. And if she can't face the consequences of her actions, she shouldn't be acting out like this. PERIOD. I'm all for women asserting their own free will and being independent; but they shouldn't be stupid about it.
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^ Nothing wrong with that.