Exactly. You seem like a smart guy. You said that you started to feel bad for her when she said that she is taking medication for depression and that you decided "what the heck. Let's give this relationship a try." You can't start romantic relationships with people based on PITY and SYMPATHY. That's a HUGE TRAP.
Tell me something. Let's say that you liked a girl.......but she was not interested. And then you tell that girl that you're on meds for depression. Would YOU like it if you knew that the MAIN reason that this girl wants to start a relationship with you is because she feels sorry for you???? How would YOU feel knowing that someone wants to be with you because of PITY?
You can offer this a person emotional support and encouragement by just being a good friend................not necessarily by being a boyfriend.
Now imagine this. Let's say that you get into a relationship with this girl. And you find out after a few weeks that she's not the right girl for you. And then you start distancing yourself from her. What if she tells you "I'm depressed that you're leaving me and I feel like committing suicide** because you don't want to marry me."** You're going to feel TRAPPED. You will feel like you won't be able to leave her.
Also, this girls is placing value on material things over emotions. I've heard stories of people in horrible marriages.............and all the fancy cars and designer clothing can't substitute their misery. Material things give pleasure for a brief time...................and then once that pleasure wears off.............you have to LOOK DEEP INSIDE YOURSELF.............to find true happiness.
Also, psychologists say that one of the BEST WAYS to eliminate depression and find happiness is to do GOOD THINGS FOR OTHERS...........to do charity work, volunteer work, help those in need, help make a difference in someone's life. AND THIS GIRL is going to have a HARD TIME finding true happiness and peace of mind because she doesn't think about others.............she only thinks about her OWN NEEDS..........and her OWN MATERIALISTIC desires.
Perhaps she feels that sleeping around with guys is what makes her more "worthy" as a female. Her priorities are not in the right order. Her self-esteem is very fragile right now. It's hard to have a healthy relationship with someone who is troubled and materialistic on top of that.
You're an intelligent guy........and her beliefs are going against even your sufi teachings. Support, guide, and encourage her as a friend. Pray for her. But don't rush to start a romantic relationship with her............she's not internally ready for such a huge responsiblity.
Wow Thanks alot for your wisdom redvelvet, i had this huge burden on my chest concerning this girl. I was very confused i hadn't talked to any of my friends i mean i don't wanna tell them this stuff. Thank God i came to this forums and talked with you... Now i feel much better, Thanks alot.