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Oh goodness. Anyhow, I think that it's best for these people I mentioned to get a divorce. Correct me if I am wrong, but in Surah Nisa, doesn't it say that a man should forgive his wife and give her another chance even if she did something that wrong? Maybe I am mistaken. Please clarify.
However, that is considered zina, and the punishment for that itself is terrible.
Correct me if I am wrong, but in Surah Nisa, doesn't it say that a man should forgive his wife and give her another chance even if she did something that wrong? Maybe I am mistaken. Please clarify.
Think about it though, she deserves forgiveness because she was caught or did she turn herself in, clearly not? For shame what is this world coming to.
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2 yearold marriage:eek: Why have they involved another woman in their talks…isnt it supposedly “their” problem. One thing is Niksik how does the other woman know she was physical.I would suggest that we dont “assume” what she did or didnot do as that would be considered “tuhmat” without any evidence.
If the guy thinks its over then its over, she is at fault and that is the reason she wants another chance, either she is really really sorry or the other dude wnt take her, or she knows thats it for her. I dont know how her marriage was though..you did not mention. Men cheat for more physical reasons and women for emotional…so I think. She should have been smart enough to end the relationship(marriage) before seeking out other relationships. A solution to a man problem is definately not another man.
Allah Tallah behtari kare un dono ki.
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holllllyyyyyy 
i think the guy should get a divorce..kyun k im sure he will never forgive his wife…and phir there is no point of living together
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I don’t know more details than what I have already mentioned. I believe she had a solid affair which included bed and breakfast 
But I am also told she is very sorry.
However, what she did was wrong. If the guy had done something like this, would she forgive him?
They have involved a few family friends which may be reasonable because family members may make it harder for them at this time if there is any hope of reconciliation. The friends are trying to listen out both sides and are unable to offer any advice because they are uncomfortable.
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i believe once a cheater always a cheater!!! ab sorry honay say kia faida....she should have thought BEFORE starting the affair..
p.s...yeah im not forgiving person :p
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to forgive someone, one needs a really big heart.. but it isn't easy at alll. what she did was not sure wrong but pathetic.. but if he still thinks that he can forgive her than he has a bigger heart than me. May Allah give him the power and wisdom to forgive.
People make mistakes some are small some are huge but they are mistakes. If he can save a marriage and still love her than I guess he should give that a try but as we humans are weak forgiving in this instance is really hard...
However, what she did was wrong. If the guy had done something like this, would she forgive him?
She might have , divorced women in desi culture carry more baggage than a divorced men , so desi women take the option of forgiveness and try to live happily ever after.
And soon the whole town will know.
Its probably best for them to part ways. Wud he be able to trust her after this.
I totally agree !!
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If she is realised that she messed up BIG TIME from her deepest consious then she deserves a second chance...........I would if I were her husband....Pehli galti to Allah bhi maaf karta hai, hum log to phir bhi insan hai !!..........Subeh ka Bhula sham ko ghar aye to sab kuch thil hai.........der raat bhi ghar aye toh bhi thik he hai ...: )
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(From hubby' view) Looking at the brighter side of the story, his wife will be better experienced in bed to ignite his night...(talk abt being optimistic)
She might have , divorced women in desi culture carry more baggage than a divorced men , so desi women take the option of forgiveness and try to live happily ever after.
Yeah and they blame that on men are "supposed" to cheat...so oh well!
If she is realised that she messed up BIG TIME from her deepest consious then she deserves a second chance...........I would if I were her husband....Pehli galti to Allah bhi maaf karta hai, hum log to phir bhi insan hai !!..........Subeh ka Bhula sham ko ghar aye to sab kuch thil hai.........der raat bhi ghar aye toh bhi thik he hai ...: )
True, if she is really sorry then. I think it it really dependent of how deep of a relationship they have or had too.
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When women seek affairs, it is because something emotional is missing in her relationship. There's a common thought that when women cheat, the relationship is beyond screwed, but when men do, it's for shallower reasons.
I can't condone cheating in any sense, but we don't know why this girl did it. Perhaps there were reasons behind it that we cannot understand. I do however understand that tradition or dependence would make a woman want to continue in a marriage.
You all know that divorced women aren't thought of as highly as unmarried or married women.
If she is realised that she messed up BIG TIME from her deepest consious then she deserves a second chance...........I would if I were her husband....Pehli galti to Allah bhi maaf karta hai, hum log to phir bhi insan hai !!..........Subeh ka Bhula sham ko ghar aye to sab kuch thil hai.........der raat bhi ghar aye toh bhi thik he hai ...: )
She committed zina , most men in our culture can never forgive and forget it, if she was talking to someone or was just going out with another man then gorgiveness may be possible.
In these kind of situations the best judge are those who are living it, these things cannot be decided based on assumptions.
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I understand the logic about lack of emotional fulfillment. I still can't understand the need to cheat. Islam has allowed divorce but it has not allowed zina. Therefore it is not correct to justify a wrong because oh divorced women don't have much of a place in society... but yeah it is OK to check out other men. I know you are just trying to weigh the situation Matinee, I am just trying to come from another angle.
She committed zina , most men in our culture can never forgive and forget it, if she was talking to someone or was just going out with another man then gorgiveness may be possible. In these kind of situations the best judge are those who are living it, these things cannot be decided based on assumptions.
I'd rather keep religion away before deciding my future.....so BYE BYE ZINA and BYE BYE Divorce.....If the wifey can mend her ways and truly realise that she messed up then she is welcome to my life otherwise you go that way, I go this way.....What guarantee does this guy have that his second wife would remain faithful with him ?
Holy this thread is messed up. "Women OLNY cheat coz they are not sexually staisfied"... give me a break. This would be the last reason.
And do you guys have any proof of the accusation on this particular race?
Sunni sunnai ko philana is thumat bazi and it is against your own religion.
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Rocking Vibes, the thing is keeping religion too far far away has brough about some incredible negative changes in our community. Forget fear of Allah or God, we have forgotton fear of conscience.
Holy this thread is messed up. "Women OLNY cheat coz they are not sexually staisfied"... give me a break. This would be the last reason. And do you guys have any proof of the accusation on this particular race? Sunni sunnai ko philana is thumat bazi and it is against your own religion.
That is true to a degree but what are other reasons women cheat?