does anyone have problem with their spouse having friends of opp sex with whom they go out with for coffee etc.? or listen to their problems, advice them etc? and keeping in touch over da fone, text msgs?
i’ve been told a number of times by several women its stupid of me to trust my husband da way i do. like i dun check on him when he’s out or i dun check his calls/msgs. and i dun stop him fr hanging out with his frens once in a while. am i really stupid? i cant understand.
its juz in my nature to trust my life partner completely, and vice versa. i believe in his honesty, i dun harbour suspicions abt his activities and i believe in giving him his space.
i know da freinds he hangs out with and i dun see why its stupid of me to give him this trust. do i sound like i’m blindly trusting him? we’ve been together for almost 7 yrs now, i’ve neva had any reason to distrust him but everyone around me seems super-suspicious abt their husbands and they think i shud be too cuz it seems “da women out there nowadays wont think twice abt grabbing ur husband”. has it become so necessary to live in fear of “other women”?
do share ur thoughts.
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before the 'crowd' gets here :-)
few things..
- after all, he's man.. u SHOULD check up on him .. but #2 balances #1:
- u shouldnt put him on a leash either.. or make him saffocate..
in marriages, there aint no secrets.. if its happening AFTER u signed the marriage papers, its YOUR business, and vice versa.. so be careful :-)
and in last, " i have seen MANY marriages, getting complex, and then falling apart, just because of an OUTSIDER's involvement via thoughts, zabaan or presence"
and that includes: friends, relatives, co-workers and worst of all: best-friends that u share EVERYTHING with :-)
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faizy said it all.
good man!
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learning my love, slowly and gradually :-)
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Nisa, you should read that other thread about men.
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I hope I’m around to see your kids grow up…
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let me get married first.. ONE baby step at a time:Salute:
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Thats coz som women are so morally degenerate theywont’ think twice about sleeping wiht a married man/father..they’re selfish insecure little *****es and any girl who tried to flirt wiht my hubby and tried to steal him away, i wont think twice abt thrwoing acid (okay maybe just water 
)on her ugly little face.
:thandaapaanipeeying:
Ah oh yeah..i trust him. 
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ummm hello…sleeping together denotes both parties are involved…unless of course he’s been raped.
so how can you justify going after one and not the other?
handing Sara a JUG of thanda paani
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^^ now now, let the methods of torture between a man and woman be private muzna..its bad enough sara will be throwing water at the girl.. i dont even wanna know what she will do to the guy
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hey....far be it from me to question how anyone choses to deal with a husband caught red-handed......but the expression of hatred that makes the other woman out to be the cause and the husband the victim.....well, that just gets my goat.
so gimme back my goat.
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Muzna i didn’t say anything about them two having sex, but flirting..I’d be pissed off enough if she was flirting wiht him. I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t escalate into anything more, because I said before that I trust him.. There are girls who are aggressive about it, and they flaunt the fact that they can steal someone’s husband or get him to flirt with her.
Now talking about affairs, I know it does take two to tango, but it doesn’t make her any more innocent. Only way I could feel sympathy for that girl was if she didn’t know about the wife/kids period, and in that case the guy is a jerk and girl is innocent. BUT when she knows he’s married and still flirts, or responds to his advances, that’s just wrong. One case that comes to mind is CHristie brinkley’s husband who cheated on her with a 19 yr old (sorry, this case has been in the papers like all these two weeks ). The bacchi went on an interview and said that she felt she was taken advantage of and that he had approached her when, get this, he was buying toys for his kids! so she knew he had kids, he was married, but she still went ahead and decided to have ana affair wiht him.. i dont have an iota of sympathy for her, shes basically a whore (he promised her double salary, down paymen t on car) etc and im surprised that anyone will buy the "i’m a victim! 
" crap
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i’m pretty sure, by this time, nisa bibi is KAPKAPAYING and praying none of this is happening with her..
dont worry hunn 
we just like to pull the worst images in every conversation..
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Nisa, YOU trust your husband,
if the other women out there are suspicious and like to know where their husband is that is their business,
ignore their talking, it will only cause problems in your life like faizy said.
so u Trust him, then that is all you need to know :)
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Fizy im sure if shes not been kap-kapaying for 7 yrs, she aint gonna kap-kapaye from a few posts on GS :D
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I don't see a problem if you know who he hangs out with.
I have same kind of trust on my hubby like you and so far nothing happened.
If your husband wants to have an affair he will have one regardless of you checking up on him.
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i just wish, NO best friends EVER got near a guy-girl-living-happily situation :-) 'doubt' is the worst enemy of two people.. and its always generated by the near'n dear
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well…my mistake…I thought you mentioned someone sleeping with someone. whatever the case…at the end of the day it’s the same thing…
I so want to meet just one of these girls. I always hear/read people referring to them…but I have yet to come across even one. And whenever I hear/read about them, there are always so many of them. Maybe I should count my blessings.
Please mujhey kissi aisi aurat say milwa’o jiss kay iss qism kay khayalaat hoN. I want to interview her. Figure out what makes her tick…besides the challenge, of course.
I find it disturbing that you will judge her even when he is the one advancing… but anyway…
Generally speaking…
Women and men that have a flirtatious nature will succumb to their tendencies. They often will not check to see if the person they are flirting with is married, committed or not. It doesn’t matter to them. And more often than not, most of these people are not looking to pursue the matter any further than a harmless exchange.
So, in my opinion, it doesn’t matter how the woman acts in front of my man. The onus is on him to prevent the situation from escalating. And if it does go any further, I will hold him accountable first and foremost.
Rest assured, if a woman wants your man or your man wants a little something on the side, they will find a way to get it and keep it from you.
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you may trust your husband.....but you dont know what the girls intentions are.
a verse to ponder:
Our beloved Prophet Muhammed (SAW) said: "never are a man and woman alone....the 3rd party Satan is always with them (leading them to sin)."
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Hypothetically speaking, I would have a problem with my wife having friends with someone of the opposite sex and vice versa. Alhamdulillah, it's not something we have to worry about.