So, in my opinion, it doesn't matter how the woman acts in front of my man. The onus is on him to prevent the situation from escalating. And if it does go any further, I will hold him accountable first and foremost.
Rest assured, if a woman wants your man or your man wants a little something on the side, they will find a way to get it and keep it from you.
I have to agree with muzna. If God forbid anything like that happened, he's the one i'd be angry at. She's not even worth my time. He's the one who promised to stay faithful. . . he's the one I married. He needs to be held accountable first and foremost.
I so want to meet just one of these girls. I always hear/read people referring to them....but I have yet to come across even one. And whenever I hear/read about them, there are always so many of them. Maybe I should count my blessings.
Please mujhey kissi aisi aurat say milwa'o jiss kay iss qism kay khayalaat hoN. I want to interview her. Figure out what makes her tick....besides the challenge, of course.
I find it disturbing that you will judge her even when he is the one advancing.... but anyway....
Generally speaking....
Women and men that have a flirtatious nature will succumb to their tendencies. They often will not check to see if the person they are flirting with is married, committed or not. It doesn't matter to them. And more often than not, most of these people are not looking to pursue the matter any further than a harmless exchange.
So, in my opinion, it doesn't matter how the woman acts in front of my man. The onus is on him to prevent the situation from escalating. And if it does go any further, I will hold him accountable first and foremost.
Rest assured, if a woman wants your man or your man wants a little something on the side, they will find a way to get it and keep it from you.
Just because I didn't specify it in my previosu post doens't mean that I don't hold him accountable. Any woman who has sex with a man she knows is married is NOT innocent in the least.
See…there you go again.
Maybe it’s just me and I won’t bring it up after this, but aren’t you a tiny bit more focused on the guilty woman rather than your, hypothetically speaking of course, guilty man?
You didn’t specify in your previous post and in this post again you are addressing her guilt.
Guess Solar and I are the only ones on this frequency… we think she is inconsequential.
^ OF COURSE the husband is guilty and of course he will be punished, that's a given! That's why I did not initially specify that, but I'm saying it now. However my point is that I would hardly call a woman who sleeps wiht a married man "inconsequential." Yes he was wrong, BUT I think I have every right to be angry and go after the the woman who pursued/accepted his advances knowing full well he was married.
We can’t remove the husband.
He’s the link to you.
If you were to remove him then you are obligated to go after each and every woman you come across that sleeps with any married man! You’d be a pretty busy lady.
If you are trying to say that a woman who sleeps with a married man is without morals, we agree. But we part ways at this juncture because you feel it necessary to bring her to justice whereas I couldn’t care less what happens to her.
I’m more concerned about the man that has violated his promise to me. And btw…he probably knew all along that he’s married too.
opposite sex friends are fine, as long as they do not interfere the lives of the married couple and deliebrately intend to destroy the relationship. then he/she is not really a friend but a failure and wicked individual. May this situation never happen to anyone.
whats the point in having friends of the opposite sex anyway since they cause so many problems in a husband/wife relationship. with guys in uni, I'd only talk to them about work if i HAVE to....for example if ive been put in their group. otherwise I try avoiding hanging out with guys or talking unnecessarily with them. I havent got any male friends....I do talk to guys in class etc....but thats all. id never talk to them alone, or have their number or go out with them or even talk about personal stuff etc.....thats something id only do with my friends who are girls.
and if theres anything im missing by not having male friends.....I'll have my husband to fill in that role :)
If you are trying to say that a woman who sleeps with a married man is without morals, we agree. But we part ways at this juncture because you feel it necessary to bring her to justice whereas I couldn't care less what happens to her.
I'm more concerned about the man that has violated his promise to me. And btw...he probably knew all along that he's married too. ;)
And what if the woman he slept with was linked to you, a gud friend ro relative or what? Then she is not so inconsequential is she? Does she share any part of the blame then?
No. My answer remains the same.
The first person to answer for his actions will be the one that promised me he would be faithful.
If she is a good friend, relative, sister of a cousin’s brother-in-law’s second cousin once removed’s step brother’s half sister, she’s still the “other” woman. The one that is not related to me but for and through the transgression of my husband. He’s the one with the explaining to do.
I may be hurt by her. I may be alarmed. I may be disgusted and angry. I may decide to never see her again. But the fault will lie with him.
Why do you ladies create so much stress for yoursleves...
i was going out with a girl once whose friend clearly had feelings for her...she was his friend but he saw her as more...it was pissing off for me cos he'd always have issues with me and would create problems for me and my girl...but at the end of the day im interfering with 4 years of friendship...im not about to ask her to break that...i trusted that she was feeling me and not her friend and that was enough for me...i said her friend liked her but she doesnt wanna believe that...simple thing is shes with me for a reason and shes not with him...so im not worried about her intentions just his...
Learn to trust your man...and make effort with the friends even if you feel they are a bit off key...
Iv had to do that not only with male friends but also with female friends who i know bad mouth me...
Girls are the same...they can either be friends and be genuinely looking out for their friend or they can be jealous that she'll spend more time with you then them and then look to damage things...
Girls are just as capable as boys of damaging a relationship...you just have to trust that your partner is with you for a reason and try not to doubt them...
