Re: experiences
its tough and nothing is certain and good part is luck. But make sure you look at the family, for instance, if you want to continue education after marriage etc, look at how much guys family is educated, do they support girls in their own family for education, do they people around them, they socialize with them are of decent morals similar to yours, ask around about them in masjid or friend of friends, get to know the guy for couple of months, ask questions that matter, have your mom ask his mom about whatever you are concerned about and if you are religious type, do istikjara … after that leave the rest to God and cross your fingers and be ready for compromise
This has worked more or less in my family