I wouldn’t mind if I was asked if I want to work. To the guppans who said that there needs to be a difference in the roles of men and women- I don’t think it’s wrong if a woman works. We need to get the education and work experience in case if God forbid, but we end up married to men who lose their jobs, are abusive, etc. I personally, believe that most women have a sensitive heart and when we have children, we will any day, give more priority to raising a child over a job. If a husband makes more than enough money and the wife still desires to work, her desire should not be crushed.
So this is the careless decision. Her hanging up and not calling you back- an indirect refusal. Perhaps she didn’t know that the guy in England had a criminal history? Maybe that’s the reason why the engagement broke up- he couldn’t move to the US and she found it was bc he was a criminal.
she hung up and didn’t call back to apologize for her behavior. it was pretty much a “no,” all you did was actually say “no.”
Her refusal and the ex-fiance have NOTHING to do with her losing her job and house. This is the order of events: she moved to Chicago and found a job. Was able to get a house, probably because she found a good job. She got engaged. Then she lost her job, so less money in that bank account. Less money, meaning can’t afford the house anymore. Fiance has a criminal record and can’t come to the US, lose him too. End up working in the mall. So what was the wrong decision here? The answer to this is her losing her job. If she was laid off, that’s not her fault. If she lost it because of her own work ethics, then that’s her fault. Her refusal did not mean she was going to lose her job and house.
Awww, I knew you had a heart! Maybe you could have offered her security, but there’s no guarantee she would have been happy. You two seem incompatible. You have to understand that her present state has nothing to do with the refusal. You can say that if she married you, you would have made enough money that she would not need to work at a mall. don’t make it sound as if working in a mall and “begging” for people to sign up for a credit card is demeaning.
I think you like her 
The girl’s lost so much and if she’s doing drugs then that’s even sadder. I hope she doesn’t do anything desperate. Like I’ve been saying, if you want to help, the LEAST you can do is pray for her and wish her well.
I tell my guy friends not to pay my bills at a restaurant, but they do it anyways. Deep down, I’m not mad, I’m flattered because that’s gentleman-like.